"Man Up": How "Christians" Are Abandoning Single Men

Actually, your estimation on the progression of relationships is close to the truth in a lot of instances, not saying that is how it was in my past relationships though. You left out marriage as part of your equation, unless that is the end game the whole point of such a relationship is pointless.

Apparently your two degrees are not viable in obtaining suitable employment with a living wage. I hope that there was not a lot of student loan debt that was accrued. Don't waste your time and expense of going for a third degree but instead focus on getting your life in order.

...except the entire book of Ruth. I guess she was a notable exception.

I understand about not wanting to work on Sundays but the OP is correct in saying that your future place of employment does not care about how you feel about working on Sundays, that they have a business to run and need people that are willing to adapt to any schedule that meets their demands. Same for holidays too. The OP's estimation on this is correct. It's a jungle out there but that is the way it is. Another thing, he was also on target about how is almost impossible for a man to earn enough to support a stay at home mom and possibly kids as well. In most cases two incomes are necessary and even then there is often a financial struggle.

let's flesh this out

Don't remember reading in the bible that being single is a virtue. I also don't appreciate you insulting my wife either. It's not biblical.

From what I hear, he's already banned. It just doesn't say it under his name.

faith comes by hearing

Which is a shame, because I actually agreed with his OP for the most part. He shot himself in the foot by becoming increasingly hostile with each subsequent post.

I also. Most of his first post was the 40% of his gripe that seemed a legitimate grievance.

The whole rest of the thread seemed to be his "now I'm bitter because of the legit part of my gripe, so the whole world totally sucks" part.

instead of patriarchy
or matriarchy

how about equal-archy

I don't think I can sympathize with the OP.

At least not with this sentiment.

I've never really had a problem making a connection, I can say I've been fortunate to have enjoyed getting to know some amazing women over my small life. Sure I've had good and bad experiences but overall, I can't recall ever being called any of those terms.. well maybe by some bitter girl sure, but then again, I learned that as a teenager, words can slide right off if you put no value in insults. Thing is, I haven't cared enough about how women or men feel or think about me. You can find your Ruth by simply enjoying your life. Do what makes you happy, whatever brings you joy. Hobbies, sports, in ministry etc.

I think its fair to say that a ''Ruth'' will gravitate to a man that Lives his life to the fullest in Christ don't ya think? Assertiveness comes in all shapes, not just the bad boy kind. I think it's natural for people to be drawn by someone who genuinely enjoys their daily adventures. People love to follow and be comfortable with someone who is comfortable with his self-worth. Be humble, kind and reach for that inner fire all of us men have and go for all your Godly ambitions.

Be happy with yourself as a man first, then your ''visual life filter'' will focus on not just the positives already around you, but also the positives you can do to bless people with. The more you bless people, the more you are known for and rewarded by true fulfillment.


I'm not gonna give you the typical- ''you're spineless beta, man up''- This does more harm than good, we are Christian. But do consider growing a thicker skin. Life can be cruel, learn to be satisfied in Christ above all things and only then will a woman's company become a great bonus in your life. This post, as for how you see things, seems to me (as a fellow man) that maybe rejection and disappointment have built up too much and have taken root.

Truth is, women are only one part of life. Having someone to walk through life is amazing but it's not the only goal to strive for. There are many ambitions, goals, finish-lines and still so many other things about life that are amazing and wonderful as well.

A woman won't complete you, but a Godly woman will be a beautiful part of a complete life.

Keep your head up champ, focus on the Lord above all and you'll be alright.



If you ever want to pray or just talk, I'm here

I have to admit the number of man up posts and articles I have seen out there are a bit annoying. To be honest, I’m not sure if I am interested in a relarionship at this point. Is it sin to not pursue one? I have a bit of damage to work through before I would be ready I think. Lots of self esteem issues I am woeking on, plus digging myself out of debt, finishing school, etc.