"Man Up": How "Christians" Are Abandoning Single Men

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theanointedsinner

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No woman is worth the risk? Maybe that is the same attitude your potential Ruth is sporting, therefore her nonsacrificial mindset diminishes her outcomes.
oh, and salvation must not worth the risk, whether you believe you are going to heaven or hell, if we end up in hell, the contrast is so bad, it doesn't matter if we believe all our live that we are going to heaven, or we are going to hell, in doesn't matter, mind as well consider that ignorance is bliss

salvation is all about God's power anyway, heaven or hell, it doesn't matter, we can do nothing about it

afterlife, we can be apathetic about it, salvation is not worth the risk

oh, God is drawing us, God is working in our hearts, God is gifting us, let's pretend it didn't happen, because it's "not worth the risk" (as an extreme example of "not worth the risk")

*insert sarcasm here*
 

Angela53510

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Late to the party, as usual! I see the OP must have gone to work, or one of the other places that occupy 77% or something of his weekly time.

First, I know full well Maxwel is perfectly competent to defend himself, but since he is my good friend, I will step in and correct your many errors. Max is not married, so you got that wrong. He is not a millennial, but Gen. X, so close enough. He works very long hard hours, on various mission projects, and he attends a good church. His focus is missions, he is obeying God, and doing his will in that regard. As for being a liberal! You sure missed that one! I am Canadian, and he delights in putting down my Canadian conservative views, which are closer to the left in the USAA. Pretty much every epithet you threw at him was wrong.


As for me, I found my husband (or he found me) in college. I was not saved, he was. He led me to Christ, and 38 years later, we are still happily married and serving God. Two of our kids who are Millennials found their spouses in university. My daughter did what you said, and went after a doctor. That consisted of volunteering at a Distress Line, for the midnight shift. She got to know all the pre-med students, and finally picked one. They have been married almost 8 years, expecting their first. One had his wife grab him out of pro hockey. In fact, I think you might have a point about women getting men. At least in practice. Personally, I don't find the word "role" in the Bible. So probably if a man finds a woman, or vice versa, God will bless them if they are serving him, either way.

So, I admit I am wondering if you are a troll, Rick! I mean you joined on Thursday, and here you are condemning generations! Whole generations!! As in me personally, over and over.

I admit I am a boomer, and so is my husband. Just so you know, I worked as a professional musician before I got saved. I worked 8 or 9pm to 1 or 2 am. Then, off to relax and finally go to sleep. It was not a good place to pick up men, even I figured that out. That is why I went back to college, where I met my husband, through a friend. He was in electronics, no women in his section. And yet, here we are! My husband put himself through college working midnight shifts in a pulp and paper mill. Yes, Boomers did that. He didn't go to church, till I dragged him there. Kind of funny, since he was the Christian originally and I was the wicked bar musician sinner.

My husband made me go into teaching, which turned out to be an excellent idea with 4 children, because I was home from school when they were. And if you think it is easy working all day, and taking kids to activities, you are clueless. I had 17 ice slots a week, most winters. That's figure skating and lots of hockey. Practices starting at 4 to 5 am, and sometimes FAR from home. Like driving to Bellingham Washington across the border, or all the way to downtown Vancouver, with a new born baby for 4 am. And then working. You seem to think Boomers all got a free pass, which we certainly did not. In fact, after quite of few years of burning the candle at both ends, I got Rheumatoid Arthritis, and I was so bad, I had to go on disabilty. So, no salary increments, no increased contributions, and just a small pension. Not sure how small, I find out in a few days, since this month was my last days on disabilty.

So beware! You could be making yourself physically sick working so much. You are already mentally disturbed, and bitter. What does the Bible say about that?

"See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God, that no one be like a bitter root springing up and causing trouble, and through him many become defiled." Hebrews 12:15

This is the picture we are seeing of you. Falling short of the grace of God, because of your bitterness. You need to confront that in your life, and stop blaming the world for your problems. You are at least part of the problem! Honestly, if I met you, I would pass you by so quickly your head would spin. I like joy, and peace, and generosity and kindness. I like to be lifted up, not put down. You just don't fit the job description of a potential husband, and I assure you it is not your working hours. I bet women just flee from you. We can sense this kind of thing.

Change your attitude, and you might find more women are pursuing you than you ever imagined. Oh right, you don't want to be married, you said. So, why are you here?

As for me, I am an honourary member of this forum. I come around now and then, mostly to encourage, sometimes for the jokes, and just to share what has worked for me in my marriage.

Ducks and waits for the OP to throw something at her! Yikes!
 
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theanointedsinner

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Dang. I’m out of town for 1 day and miss out on so much!
@melita916 , the fight is epic, there's so much posting, it's constant lags (people cc cleaner-ed at least 10 times today to keep it running), the thread pages are in the hundreds and the mods and admins (Robo ops, pre-trib, once fallen, cuen, etc. I have never seen so many mods simultaneously active all at one time, lots of mods) had to kick out a lot of people, and spend the whole day deleting post down to 7 pages as you see right now

it's a full blown fight, anything the non-feminist say, is considered misogynistic by the feminist,
anything the feminist say, the non-feminist would immediately react, "what about the mens" which somehow misconstrued as misogynistic

even BDF forums like Not by Works is considered "dead thread" compared to this hot zone of this intense battle,

the non feminist can say "men have been raped in federal prison just by dropping the soap" and the feminist mockingly say "what about the men, what about the men" as if invalid point

here's what most of the people are like, please excuse the cuss words from the youtube video (if you can see it) to sense the atmospheric attitude of all this

but you can enjoy the quiet as it is now
 

CharliRenee

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Oh my this Atheist is such a lovely man, full of peace, quite the sound mind...:0, lol.
 

Angela53510

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Annointed sinner, too much bad language for me! The only thing I got out of that, was that the barefoot atheist is on his way to the loonie bin. (Besides hell, of course!) His agitation and shouting really come across as psychosis. Of course, his irrationality does have some foundation in what he believes, but my guess is that if he keeps that up, he will soon be committed.

So, is that really the state of atheists today?

And this is the hot thread of the day? Yes to me, finding it! LOL.
 
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theanointedsinner

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Annointed sinner, too much bad language for me! The only thing I got out of that, was that the barefoot atheist is on his way to the loonie bin. (Besides hell, of course!) His agitation and shouting really come across as psychosis. Of course, his irrationality does have some foundation in what he believes, but my guess is that if he keeps that up, he will soon be committed.

So, is that really the state of atheists today?

And this is the hot thread of the day? Yes to me, finding it! LOL.
the darkness is clearly "unearthly" as in "not of the earth", and this is a small glimpse of what Satan is capable of, pray for the evangelist, and do not lose heart on praying for the evangelist
 
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theanointedsinner

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new thread idea, ...


concentrate, 48,
no repeat, but feel free to hesitate
I'll go first, you go second,
concentrate on ...
 

seoulsearch

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I could be wrong, but both Rick and Daven's profiles say, "unavailable", which, in this new system, means banned.
 
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theanointedsinner

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I could be wrong, but both Rick and Daven's profiles say, "unavailable", which, in this new system, means banned.
Rick have definitely chosen the most masculine looking picture for his profile picture

but looks are just skin deep as you have noticed
 

Merida

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Every single day you hear it. You cannot escape it. The sheer hatred of men in America. Namely, hatred for the single man. Democrats/feminists mock penis size, question the man's sexuality, and revert to awful attacks such as:

"Incel"
"Can't Get Laid"
"Mama's Boy"
"Commitment Issues"
"Can't Handle a Strong, Independent Woman"
"F*ggot"
"Bitter"
"Misogynist"
"Why do you hate women?"


So-called Republicans join in with insults of their own, blaming the lack of Millennial relationships on men and "porn and video games" ... the theory being that if only Millennial men would stop "masturbating" (pfft), we'd spend all of our energy on "pursuing" sex with women like the Baby Boomers did (the only generation of men ever to do so).

Baby Boomers, concerned with the harsh reality of their mortality, regret their decisions to wait until they were 40 to start having families, that now they bash their sons to provide them with grandchildren before they die. They do this by distorting what testosterone actually is, calling celibate men "weak" with "low testosterone"… and yet, in the animal kingdom … the Alpha male is the least likely to have sex, because they are more focused on tasks that are far more important and rewarding ...

Then there is the "church" … false teachers like Paul Washer instruct men to "make their desires known" immediately, and discourages building a foundation of friendship first. According to Washer, only "boys" are friends with women; and to be a friend first is "leading women on". How ridiculous. You cannot love someone without first being their friend. This is why the Friend Zone is ridiculous; you don't go on dates to "get to know" somebody; you go on dates to draw closer to someone you already know! For Christian men, a woman's beauty is not enough to warrant asking for a date.

Matt Chandler is another heretic, who instructs men to "man up" and to "grow some balls" and ask women out in the church. John MacArtur says similar, but not quite so brash. We are to "pursue" women "as Christ pursues us" … smh.

Despite the discrimination against college educated Millennials as being "over qualified", they scream from the mountain tops that young men who do not make enough under the Obama economy (we still have a long way to go before President Trump fixes all that Obama did) are "afraid to work hard". If we aren't making enough, we need to "figure it out" and provide those "resources". As one child told me on another thread, we need to "stop complaining" and "figure it out" ...

If a man says that he can't find a good woman, instantly these "Christians" call him "picky". We are told to stop seeking "super models" and that their are plenty of good women who are not necessarily attractive.

And yet, Christian men are not looking for "super models". We are looking for RUTH, and we cannot find her.

We are told that we meet Ruth within the church ... which is a flat-out LIE. No matter what church I go to, no matter what denomination, no matter what area of the country I am in … I am the only young person in church.

Young people don't attend church anymore (REAL church, with a steeple … not one of these "non-denominational" "ra ra" mega churches) … and women are certainly fewer in number than men.

But it's neither women, no man's fault; it's the Boomer's fault. I don't attend church, because I can't afford it. Because Boomers are a selfish, entitled, narcissistic generation, Millennial men and women are often stuck working on Sunday mornings. I have two college degrees, but am both "over qualified" and "lack experience". Thus, I work 64+ hours a week, on nights, weekends, holidays … and Sunday morning. If you are a young person, and you refuse to work on Sunday mornings, 9 times out of 10 … you will not have a job. It's part of the "paying dues" that Boomers insist we pay … dues that they never paid themselves.

For most Millennials, their days off (if they are lucky enough to get them) are on Monday's and Tuesday's … the absolute least social time of the week. All local events, concerts, sport outings, get-togethers … are on the weekends.

And yet, the "church" screams at single men for not pursuing.

We are forbidden to "fraternize" at work as well. I get off work at midnight. 3 nights a week, I get 1.5 hours of sleep, before driving an hour for the 2nd job. Instead of going to the bar after midnight in hopes of maybe encountering someone trashy … I'd much rather go home and relax … like an adult.

Yet, this is a taboo for such "Christians". I am committing an abominable "sin". I am "refusing" to "be fruitful and multiply".

But the worst part of it is … that these "Christians" never give any guidance or direction on where to look!

They always say to go to church … knowing full well that Millennials are working on Sunday mornings. They may say something as absurd as "public transit", when adults have their own transportation. Or it's suggestions for people living in the city, instead of those of us living in the suburbs … one of my favorites is the gym … in which most people go during the evening … when most Millennials are at … work.

So, I give up. I'll be feminine and "pursue" women and take on their role.

Where do I look???

Where does the average Millennial male (who goes months at a time without ever seeing a woman), who lives in the suburbs, works on Sundays, has his own car, lifts in the morning, who gets off of work at midnight, and cannot go to church go to encounter a woman?

What are godly Millennial women doing on Monday's and Tuesday's?

The same thing we godly Millennial men are; in comas, recovering from the same brutal work schedule we had.

"Man-up" indeed ...
I'm truly sorry you're feeling this way. I'm very sad for you, and hope that you find your Ruth someday soon. There are still some very good women out there. Don't give up.
 

melita916

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i don’t even know what to say in this thread.

I guess I can say the Lord is faithful. In Him, we lack nothing. :)
 
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theanointedsinner

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i don’t even know what to say in this thread.

I guess I can say the Lord is faithful. In Him, we lack nothing. :)
the most christ-like answer I've heard all day on this thread
 
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Rick have definitely chosen the most masculine looking picture for his profile picture

but looks are just skin deep as you have noticed
It's Harrison Ford from the original Blade Runner (a.k.a. Han Solo)...... just in case anyone missed that.

 
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theanointedsinner

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those atheist make me feel that

I don't care if not a single soul on cc.com can prove even a single atom of God's existence

it ultimately boils down to faith, which is God's gift

which, is faith that the Bible is true

Premise 1: faith exist (or else, atheist are fighting against nothing, and clearly he's not "shadow boxing")
Premise 2: if faith exist, then God exist (faith is God's gift, Ephesians 2:8-9)
Therefore, God exist

Premise 2, it's all about the Bible

just because the Bible is the only book who give information about John 14:6, the way the truth and the life

we can care less if atheist point out logical fallacy like "appeal to the spiritual desire for salvation", because God has to draw us (John 6:44), attract and appeal to our soul.
No one (no man made proof) can come to Jesus, unless God draws them closer to Jesus (John 6:44)

if we are convinced of our faith, and sufficiently persuaded, that should be enough.
 

JesusLives

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Well seems our OP either got banned or I chased him off not agreeing with his complaint trying to offer solutions.... oh well you win some and loose some.... Safe passage wherever you have moved on to.
 
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theanointedsinner

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Every single day you hear it. You cannot escape it. The sheer hatred of men in America. Namely, hatred for the single man. Democrats/feminists mock penis size, question the man's sexuality, and revert to awful attacks such as:

"Incel"
"Can't Get Laid"
"Mama's Boy"
"Commitment Issues"
"Can't Handle a Strong, Independent Woman"
"F*ggot"
"Bitter"
"Misogynist"
"Why do you hate women?"


So-called Republicans join in with insults of their own, blaming the lack of Millennial relationships on men and "porn and video games" ... the theory being that if only Millennial men would stop "masturbating" (pfft), we'd spend all of our energy on "pursuing" sex with women like the Baby Boomers did (the only generation of men ever to do so).

Baby Boomers, concerned with the harsh reality of their mortality, regret their decisions to wait until they were 40 to start having families, that now they bash their sons to provide them with grandchildren before they die. They do this by distorting what testosterone actually is, calling celibate men "weak" with "low testosterone"… and yet, in the animal kingdom … the Alpha male is the least likely to have sex, because they are more focused on tasks that are far more important and rewarding ...

Then there is the "church" … false teachers like Paul Washer instruct men to "make their desires known" immediately, and discourages building a foundation of friendship first. According to Washer, only "boys" are friends with women; and to be a friend first is "leading women on". How ridiculous. You cannot love someone without first being their friend. This is why the Friend Zone is ridiculous; you don't go on dates to "get to know" somebody; you go on dates to draw closer to someone you already know! For Christian men, a woman's beauty is not enough to warrant asking for a date.

Matt Chandler is another heretic, who instructs men to "man up" and to "grow some balls" and ask women out in the church. John MacArtur says similar, but not quite so brash. We are to "pursue" women "as Christ pursues us" … smh.

Despite the discrimination against college educated Millennials as being "over qualified", they scream from the mountain tops that young men who do not make enough under the Obama economy (we still have a long way to go before President Trump fixes all that Obama did) are "afraid to work hard". If we aren't making enough, we need to "figure it out" and provide those "resources". As one child told me on another thread, we need to "stop complaining" and "figure it out" ...

If a man says that he can't find a good woman, instantly these "Christians" call him "picky". We are told to stop seeking "super models" and that their are plenty of good women who are not necessarily attractive.

And yet, Christian men are not looking for "super models". We are looking for RUTH, and we cannot find her.

We are told that we meet Ruth within the church ... which is a flat-out LIE. No matter what church I go to, no matter what denomination, no matter what area of the country I am in … I am the only young person in church.

Young people don't attend church anymore (REAL church, with a steeple … not one of these "non-denominational" "ra ra" mega churches) … and women are certainly fewer in number than men.

But it's neither women, no man's fault; it's the Boomer's fault. I don't attend church, because I can't afford it. Because Boomers are a selfish, entitled, narcissistic generation, Millennial men and women are often stuck working on Sunday mornings. I have two college degrees, but am both "over qualified" and "lack experience". Thus, I work 64+ hours a week, on nights, weekends, holidays … and Sunday morning. If you are a young person, and you refuse to work on Sunday mornings, 9 times out of 10 … you will not have a job. It's part of the "paying dues" that Boomers insist we pay … dues that they never paid themselves.

For most Millennials, their days off (if they are lucky enough to get them) are on Monday's and Tuesday's … the absolute least social time of the week. All local events, concerts, sport outings, get-togethers … are on the weekends.

And yet, the "church" screams at single men for not pursuing.

We are forbidden to "fraternize" at work as well. I get off work at midnight. 3 nights a week, I get 1.5 hours of sleep, before driving an hour for the 2nd job. Instead of going to the bar after midnight in hopes of maybe encountering someone trashy … I'd much rather go home and relax … like an adult.

Yet, this is a taboo for such "Christians". I am committing an abominable "sin". I am "refusing" to "be fruitful and multiply".

But the worst part of it is … that these "Christians" never give any guidance or direction on where to look!

They always say to go to church … knowing full well that Millennials are working on Sunday mornings. They may say something as absurd as "public transit", when adults have their own transportation. Or it's suggestions for people living in the city, instead of those of us living in the suburbs … one of my favorites is the gym … in which most people go during the evening … when most Millennials are at … work.

So, I give up. I'll be feminine and "pursue" women and take on their role.

Where do I look???

Where does the average Millennial male (who goes months at a time without ever seeing a woman), who lives in the suburbs, works on Sundays, has his own car, lifts in the morning, who gets off of work at midnight, and cannot go to church go to encounter a woman?

What are godly Millennial women doing on Monday's and Tuesday's?

The same thing we godly Millennial men are; in comas, recovering from the same brutal work schedule we had.

"Man-up" indeed ...
if feminist care so much about "size", here's a question

do feminist believe in evolution?
 
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theanointedsinner

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someone have managed to turn a Christian Singles Forum into a BDF?

wow!
I thought it was BDF before I checked carefully
 

tourist

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NO KIDDING Ruth doesn't exist; a feminine woman with great work ethic. Single Christian women? Where they at? You must mean "Christian" women; those are abundant, for sure.

Wrong. Millennial is a distinct generation. A small one too. One that gets continually mistaken for Gen Z. Lol, there is NOTHING behind the "porn and video games" LIE. I have never looked at porn in my life, not have pleasured myself. Guess what pal? STILL a "healthy" interest in sex of NONE ...

Single Christian men are not being denigrated??? LOL okay dude ... you denigrated me towards the end of your post using the very words listed.

They didn't regret their decision, poor choice of words on my part. You can't have regrets being part of Generation Do-No-Wrong ... but you did wait as a whole until your 40s ... which is why most Millennials have Boomers for parents ... parents who are dying YOUNG ... annnnnndddd you married 3 times ... just ... LOL.

Misread what I said. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is CRAP first of all. Secondly, I clearly said beauty wasn't enough to get the average masculine man to "pursue", obviously hinting at her heart.

Dude, your experience comes from a pathetically weak generation of beta males, obsessed with sex and the Pet Rock ... OF COURSE you saw "men" who wanted friendship last. You know the negative effects that has had on your daughters?! I don't know a single woman that doesn't believe that love comes BEFORE committing to a relationships. Now it's sex/physicality first, THEN feelings, THEN relationship, THEN "love", and then maybe friendship if they are lucky. Gee, I wonder why that recipe fails ...

... I don't look; I am MALE. Do you not get what that means??? Did you not read where I listed that I go MONTHS without ever SEEING a woman??? Come on Boomer, you're in the suburbs. Fess up.

Yes, it is a shame. 2 STEM degrees I am not using. Going for a 3rd because there's no opportunity. It would be nice if your generation would stop requiring unpaid internship experience and stop low-balling starting pay at $10 an hour after preaching college for our entire lives ...

Why would I go to a laundromat when I have my own washing machine, as do most non-criminals???

"There are plenty of places to meet Christian women outside of church." And yet, NOBODY has been able to name a single place ... fancy that! You know damn well that a real Christian of appropriate age agreeing with a man to save themselves for marriage is FAR too few in number.

I'm not seeking advice; I'm showing quite obviously how ridiculous it is for people to PREACH to men to "pursue" women, or to condemn them to Hellfire ... without being able to give a single place to where all these women are supposedly at! At present, the only woman I have seen in 2.5 months is my mother, This is quite common for, you know, WORKING adults on night shifts ...

You didn't work those hours dude. You're a liar. And even if you did, they weren't as common and as universally mandated as they are now; if those hours were worked, it was temporary. Not permanent.

No. The CHILD has yet to experience life; being referred to as a "homosexual" and being shamed to by so-called "Christians" is more than enough reason to "complain".

Remember how you said how single men are not being denigrated? Notice how you called me "bitter"?

Jerk.
At least I have a loving wife which is more than you can say. Call me a liar if you wish but I have worked more years than you have been alive. OK, I get that you have a fear of rejection but if you want a woman in your life you're going to have to roll the dice eventually and not hide behind your numerous pathetic excuses about how hard your life is and that you seem to be incapable of getting up the nerve to ask a woman out. Oh, you go to the laundry mat because that's where a lot of single women hang out. Let me spell this out for you, the object is not to do your laundry but to find a women. OK, you got that? You signed your post "Jerk', yeah that fits you to a T. Pathetic.