I have a problem with older men....

Sorry, didn’t mean to stereotype you - I guess I’m speaking for myself, at your age I was still acting like a kid, and to be fair I still do at times lol.

But I do know some people around your age are super mature, some more mature than Generations X & Y.

Would you consider a man younger than yourself? 10 years apart?

I'd hardly call 40-50 "twice your age". 40 years old isn't even 10 years older than you.
Twice your age would be mid-60s.

Especially with women, being attracted to someone 10 years older than you is considered normal for adults.

Also bear un mind attraction and relationship aren't the same thing. I'm sure many here could find all sorts of people attractive in one way or another, but not dating potential.
And since you haven't actually dated then no problem. And even if you had dated them, no problem.

Oh mel, sis, been thinking about what you asked. And I'm mostly just being silly. But I think it is fair to ask a man this question, Have you gone through your midlife crisis yet? Haha and to ask a woman, r you having bad menopause, hahaha? Just being silly, no offense to anyone.

Hiya Mel, since I am off the market and still out of you age range, I might be able to help a little. Some people say when a young lady turns to older gents that they have a daddy complex. A growing girl that has no dad or one that leaves early can get these complexes. Christian counselling will tell if you have this and it can help.

Most men I have talked to have admitted that their minds were full of foolishness until they approached late twenties or about 30. That foolishness reflects in one as childish. Keep looking there is a balanced male about your age that is just right for you. But don't shut out any real life prospects. Once you meet someone in person, you will know if age is a barrier.

I don't know but in Philippines it is very common to call his wife mommy,mama,nanay or nay or call her husband daddy,papa, tatay or tay ,nanay or tay. It is the swetest term of endearment in Philippines

I think it is natural, and it is perfectly ok to be with an older man. I was, when I studied, attracted to some of my professors. One even asked me to join him for lunch. But it didn't lead to a thing, and I am happy for that. You are anyway older than a student, you have a job, and it wouldn't be anything wrong in dating a man 20 years older than you. With age comes maturity and a natural authority. I can totally understand that.

But it is kind of counterproductive to befriend them without letting them know. Perhaps they like you, but feel it difficult to address that, because you seem like you just want to be friends?

Oh mel, sis, been thinking about what you asked. And I'm mostly just being silly. But I think it is fair to ask a man this question, Have you gone through your midlife crisis yet? Haha and to ask a woman, r you having bad menopause, hahaha? Just being silly, no offense to anyone.

Yeah. I guess I assumed Mel was closer to 20, which is a bit weird with a 40 year old, but I would consider that normal enough for a 30 year old. That might be the age I would be looking to date if I still want kids at some point.

I got my mid life crisis out of the way in my 20s.

I don’t even think I’ve had my mid life crisis 😂

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I got my mid life crisis out of the way in my 20s.

That is cuz you are still a baby...

Is it something that hits when unexpected? I always hear people talk about it but I don’t know what it is.... I feel like I’m always in a crisis in my journey with Christ, but He is always the one that rescues me, even when it’s unexpected

All I know is I went from not caring about cars to really wanting a Porsche. .

Is it something that hits when unexpected? I always hear people talk about it but I don’t know what it is.... I feel like I’m always in a crisis in my journey with Christ, but He is always the one that rescues me, even when it’s unexpected

All I know is I went from not caring about cars to really wanting a Porsche.

I suppose I am going through another one lately, but that is more issues coming to a head and being in a place to finally address them. That took some major life events to get me ready for those changes. But on the whole it will be more positive to go through this. So, less of a crisis, and more clearing out the fog.

Great question. Maybe that's it, it is just another new crisis. Even though we all know it's coming, there comes a time when it feels like an unexpected surprise. In ways, though, it is a blessing in disguise. It is an adjustment watching and feeling the body change and the way we see things and are perceived switches. It requires gathering up some extra Jesus as we lean in a bit more. There are advantages, like usually folks give more respect. I like that and hopefully we have earned some wisdom along the way. You younger peeps, though, never cease to amaze me on y'alls wisdom though. You guys are always teaching me stuff. I like that each breath taken of His gets us one breath closer to Him. I like seeing happy and healthy women and men, who are older than me, show me that I can get through this, that I'll be alright. We have to just let go a bit and accept the changes even things that are not as pretty, or that slow us down, or cause more aches. I think inner beauty is something many have at all ages but I think the time passing requires an inner strength and beauty to grow if we just keep on loving and forgiving.

Is it something that hits when unexpected? I always hear people talk about it but I don’t know what it is.... I feel like I’m always in a crisis in my journey with Christ, but He is always the one that rescues me, even when it’s unexpected