When you love and care about someone a lot but they don't feel the same

When you fall in love with someone and really care about them. When they're not a Christian although they do believe. But they don't realise how real God actually is. Or just how real God is to you. When you just keep and can't stop thinking about them. And you just want to be with them and make them feel happy and loved and blessed. When you just want to see them smile and hear their voice. And just long for any moment with them. But you aren't sure and pretty much know already that they don't feel the same way about you as you do them. And you don't really know the reason although you have your suspicions. When you just feel down about it because the feelings aren't reciprocated. And you just want you both fall truly madly deeply in love with each other. But in all probability that might not happen. How do you deal with that? Because it's driving me crazy!

When all these things happen, you repent of your obsession (and possibly idolatry). You put the entire relationship in God's hands, separate yourself from her, get busy making a life without her in it, and ask God to sort out the confusion in your heart.

Oh... and take up a creative hobby to keep your mind busy.

do not be unequally yoked. pray for her salvation , holy spirit may place a calling on her heart

Hi Rasputin

I know you mean well but this is an obsession with someone and not a healthy relationship at all. I would never give any degree of hope for this because it will keep him imprisoned so to speak. He needs set free to find true love.

Let it go. In the words of a popular song...shake it off. 😇

oh I agree, but still need to pray for her salvation, the calling I spoke of was not to love the poster, but to love God.

Then I misunderstood. Sorry.

On second thought though, I still think the poster needs to let her go completely. Even praying for someone keeps the mind on that person. The Lord knows those who are His.

I say this because I know how damaging this can be to both parties.

all good, I understand Obsession. I had a promise from God once, but I becamse obsessed and God had to take that away.. took another 10 yrs of wandering before I finally found love and got married.

you may be right, if the poster cannot pray without being obessesed then yes , move on.

How old are you...

Been there,done that! It's in God's hands,he knows and sees all! Amen

Love is a 2-way street, but if the person your obsessed with hasn't reciprocated, your on a one way road. So you deal with it be letting it go and moving on, because you can't make anyone feel the same way about you as you do them.

Amen! Been there done that!

Do you know it's actually God you're searching for here? Start there and see where it takes you.

Life is a journey and a season. Take comfort in knowing that each season ends and the lesson is learned. But darn it sucks going through it....

Amen!🙏

I fully concur with your estimation. He has to realize that she is not the only starfish in the sea. If the feeling is not reciprocated its time to cut her loose and move on with life.

Amen...or him!🙏

As the spiritually mature one in the pair, it’s my responsibility not to permit an attraction to blossom with someone whose absence of belief will only lead to pain. Whether they share my desires is immaterial. The possibility of transgressing the truth and maiming my witness ought to guide my heart. He’s not an option.

More importantly, it’s disingenuous to dangle a carrot in someone's face if our convictions and beliefs would prohibit its engagement. When we love someone we have an equal regard for their welfare. And we don’t try to bind them to a course God won’t allow. We’re mistaking love for self-indulgence. Denying ourselves is the loving response for unequally yoked connections.

There is no dignity in self-deceit or in prostrating ourselves before temptations and allowing our emotions to carry us away. It is unlikely the other would value your belief if you’re willing to forsake them on his behalf.

If we can’t be a light without going astray. We must be willing to remove ourselves from harm and permit the Lord to send a servant who can minister to the other without compromise.

If satisfying your desire for his companionship is greater than your concern for his soul. You must question the authenticity of the love you’ve professed. That is the greater work.

Have you told this person all this yourself? How you feel?
If yes, then if you truly deeply love them, you'll respect that they don't have romantic feelings for you. If you can't handle that, it would be healthier for you to keep your distance. When they know how you feel about them and if you have to go that route, they'll still know you are there for them if they need you.

Keep in mind the old truism. It's best to need someone because you love them, not love someone because you need them. Needy gets old after awhile and then the relationship can turn in on itself and cause loss for the needy one and because the loved one needs their space.