Personal questions

"Be Fruitful and multiply and fill the earth", was commanded by God TWICE and only TWICE in scripture.

If that was the only reason then you would have to take Song of Solomen out of the bible, because it is all about pleasure.

If you are remarried your whole devotion should be to your new spouse, it is cheating to do otherwise , and i think you already knew that?

I know for a fact it’s not a lie. Why would you assume others are liars when the subject is an act you apparently never performed, never thought about until now or never found any foreboding of it in scripture?



Has God given us the ability to love and be loved? Has God sanctified marriage?

Until somebody can show me scripture that debunks my belief in this issue or my savior Jesus sees it righteous to have me know I’m in error, I can only see and believe the issue as how I see and believe it.

because if one has to think about having sex with their spouse through masturbation when they have passed away that is not love that was an addiction. I guess the only value a spouse has is sex. Nothing in the word of God even remotely suggest what you are saying is biblical. FYI sex is not love it is an expression of it and not the only one. The issue is not what I have done it is the context of IF the Word of God support it.

That is what I am talking about, if you want engage in masturbation then keep it to yourself and don't get upset because those here will not list the word of God to make you feel better about your sexual addiction. Stop acting like a sexual voyeur trying to shock those here with your little masturbation section. I think you are just a troll personally.

If you are remarried your whole devotion should be to your new spouse, it is cheating to do otherwise , and i think you already knew that?

because if one has to think about having sex with their spouse through masturbation when they have passed away that is not love that was an addiction.

I guess the only value a spouse has is sex.

Nothing in the word of God even remotely suggest what you are saying is biblical.

FYI sex is not love it is an expression of it and not the only one.

The issue is not what I have done it is the context of IF the Word of God support it.

That is what I am talking about, if you want engage in masturbation then keep it to yourself and don't get upset because those here will not list the word of God to make you feel better about your sexual addiction.

Stop acting like a sexual voyeur trying to shock those here with your little masturbation section. I think you are just a troll personally.

An addiction to what? Explain please! Are you calling a loving physical sexual relationship with one’s wife/husband an addiction to what, sex or love?



And you have determined that opinion how?



“Biblical” is what I seek, I in no way am attempting to add to the Bible, I’m simply attempting to know and understand the word of the Lord in the Bible. Why do you pervert my intention?



“Love” in my opinion is an “expression” in and of itself. The question is, if you misunderstand it is, when is sexual expression of a marital sexual pleasure, actual or memorized sin, displeasing to our Lord, or an expression of love accepted by our Lord? So far you’ve only convinced me that all marital actual physical activities are justified and acceptable to our Lord, yet you condemn sexual physical pleasure in the memory of the physical acts of a loving pleasurable marriage. Your condemnation seems to be based in a taboo opinion of a sexual physical act begun by the majority of humans at a juvenile time and considered by most to be a natural action?



Since you cannot give any Biblical scripture to either support or condemn masturbation, I can only rely on my prayers to our Lord to direct me in my beliefs.





You’ll find no post of mine displaying “MY” masturbation if it indeed does exist. You’ll only find logical and needed questions of fellowship for my Christian brothers and sisters. I seek guidance here to understand God’s scriptures and know his direction.



If that’s what you believe I’m doing, why are you replying? I do believe you’re under no mandate to participate in this thread, please ignore it.

That should be,
Is it wrong to keep them and look at them if your spouse dies and you get remarried?

As a person who was formerly addicted to sex until Christ set me free. I can tell you I know all the games. The devil is a liar. Jesus has come to set you free and heal the broken heart.

now I am done.

if you cannot understand the context of what is an "actual sexual relationship" with one's wife or husband over the "fantasy" of doing so in the act of self-gratification that is deeply disturbing.

The main reason why is, because you have interjected a sexual act of one to another or the thought of another as being love. It is not. Here is why your understanding is wrong.



You said and I quote: “Love” in my opinion is an “expression” in and of itself. "

This mind-set is very deceptive and here is why:



When one masturbating how is the expression of Love being conveyed to the dead wife or husband? IT IS NOT.

it is only self-gratification that only benefits the one doing it. Therefore the world calls it " self-love" which is not love at all.

it is an act of selfishness and a lack of self-control.[/quote
I care not what “the world” calls it, I only care what my Lord and Savior calls it and instructs us according to it biblically. That’s what this thread is all about. I find no condemnation or blessings of it biblically, thus I’ve ask my fellow Christians to teach and or opine to me about the issue and ask for their input. Apparently you believe I intend to pervert the forum with Satanic conversation. I assure you if this is what’s being displayed here, I apologize to you, it’s not my intent.



Likely both! A love so strong it can be defined as an “addiction” is a thing of beauty, in my opinion. Apparently, unlike you I fail to see a loving marital sexual relationship as anything other than beautiful. I find no sin in it.



I believe masturbation is a “natural” act, as proven by extensive research by sexologist . I believe masturbation only becomes sin when in accord with its mental stimulation it incorporates mental sinful actions.

I believe masturbation can be a loving and gratifying experience when it incorporates loving bedroom memories of one’s departed wife/husband.

Two people are incorporated in what I’m defining as a mental and physical memorial relationship. Explain please why they are not.





You’ve tried very hard to convince me I’m posting self deception and fail biblical understanding. I can’t agree with your opinions, because they fail producing any evidence. The evidence I rely on is God’s nature and his scriptural offerings. God is silent on masturbation by any other name. But God tells us what sin is and Jesus warns us about “mental” sin. And even you have posted scripture about the innocence of the loving marital bedroom. I propose that those mental memories do not depart with most because of a departure of one’s spouse.

Nor does scripture condemn what I believe can be a loving memorial relationship with a departed spouse.

I believe love is the fondness of the heart, the desire to please another. The greater those emotions, the greater the love. How do you define love?


Love doesn’t require a display of it by more than one person. You buy flowers for you wife to display your love, is she required to then give you a gift? Your wife is maybe a nurse or doctor called away abroad to serve others in distress for a long period, do you simply forget her?

Your opinion is noted and rejected!



Your opinion is noted and rejected!


And the sin is?


The sin is?

And a loving memory fails your “relationship” test because?


And who has insinuated that a person that has passed away can enjoy a sexual relationship?

Yes, that would be inappropriate for a man that has remarried.

If you are remarried your whole devotion should be to your new spouse, it is cheating to do otherwise , and i think you already knew that?

I have noticed your disturbance with the idea.





I believe love is what one does/displays affectionately toward another. I find no discrepancies in one displaying privately his/her love for a departed spouse. Either by the way of death or having to be separated for a time from the spouse.



Apparently you deny the power of the “memory.” Sad!

Inappropriate? But is it sinful? If so, what sin is it, and why?

The new wife probably wouldn't like it. What if she were cool with it... or didn't know?

Again, no stash of nudie pics of my wife, here. This is just a hypothetical question. I'm tempted to bring up the idea of the time traveling widower going back for a romantic time with wife number 1 while past self was away on a business trip, but that is too far fetched for serious comment.

https://biblereasons.com/contacting-the-dead/