Over 40 Never Married

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Dino246

Senior Member
Jun 30, 2015
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#21
Welcome to CC, CeeCee!

I have age and present status in common with you, but I'm over beside the "was married" lunch table. :)
 

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
Aug 13, 2014
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#22
"You are not alone
We are here with you
Though we're all far apart
Seems we all have the same heart"

I'm also over 40 and single - no kids, never had a girlfriend, no anything.

"Why?"

Mostly from apathy. I never change something until there's a reason to change. I'm a nerd but I never run out and get the latest Windows just because it has been released. I always upgrade ONLY for a reason. As my life is running fine right now, I see no reason to change it.

"But... don't you ever want to get married?"

No. I don't know anybody I want to marry, and I see no reason to go out looking just for the sake of checking "got married" in my list of life's accomplishments.

Now if I happen to meet a nice lady, and if we happen to hit it off, and if we start spending a lot of time together... then my answer may change. I might at that point want to get married. But getting married just for the sake of being married? No thank you. I'm not so afraid of being alone that I'll run out and actively look for somebody who is willing to be with me.

I'm not exactly working hard to carry on that family tradition because as Lynx says, single and childless is literally the default option, it doesn't take any work to be single.
I can't take the credit. The phrase came from an xkcd comic about a guy who has never seen Star Wars.

"But... How?!"
"Uh, it was easy? It was literally the default option."
 
May 25, 2015
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#23
Welcome to the forums, CeeCee! It seems like you know who you are, from your post, and seem like a very cheerful person :)

I hope you continue being content in your season of singleness. :D
 

Kireina

Well-known member
Aug 26, 2020
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#24
Hi! Ceecee Welcome to CC (lol it rhymes 🤭)

Hmm...I am 42,no kids and never been married and finally! people got tired telling me to find someone, get married 😅 and asking me why I am not married yet! What a relief 😄

Though I am still hoping to be married someday right now it is not the highlight section of my dreams and plans for the future anymore...I am 42 wanted kids and wanted my own family when i was younger but until now I Don't have my own family no husband, no kids...I don't wonder why because I know that God has my life planned out exactly already how He wants it 😇 and my journey as a single lady has taught me to trust in the Lord Jesus more He knows what's best for me😊


Ceecee, glad to have you here! God bless you ❤
 
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CeeCee

Guest
#25
Welcome to the forums, CeeCee! It seems like you know who you are, from your post, and seem like a very cheerful person :)

I hope you continue being content in your season of singleness. :D
Hey there!
Thank you for the warm welcome and yes being single comes with a lot of great perks lol
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
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#26
Welcome to the forums, CeeCee - we're glad to have you hear.

As you can see, you're in good company here. :)

We have a wide variety of people from many different backgrounds and life situations, as well as the ones you're describing, so you're bound to find people you can connect with.

Hope to see your input in the forums - feel free to jump right in!
 
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CeeCee

Guest
#27
Welcome to the forums, CeeCee - we're glad to have you hear.

As you can see, you're in good company here. :)

We have a wide variety of people from many different backgrounds and life situations, as well as the ones you're describing, so you're bound to find people you can connect with.

Hope to see your input in the forums - feel free to jump right in!
Thank you very much! It’s so nice to know that there are such kind Christian people in the world. I have been non-social for a very long time although I’m a social butterfly. I know it doesn’t make sense but it was hard to connect to people that weren’t believers. I always felt out of sync. So again thank you so much for welcoming me. Have an awesome day!:)
 
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CeeCee

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#28
Hi! Ceecee Welcome to CC (lol it rhymes 🤭)

Hmm...I am 42,no kids and never been married and finally! people got tired telling me to find someone, get married 😅 and asking me why I am not married yet! What a relief 😄

Though I am still hoping to be married someday right now it is not the highlight section of my dreams and plans for the future anymore...I am 42 wanted kids and wanted my own family when i was younger but until now I Don't have my own family no husband, no kids...I don't wonder why because I know that God has my life planned out exactly already how He wants it 😇 and my journey as a single lady has taught me to trust in the Lord Jesus more He knows what's best for me😊


Ceecee, glad to have you here! God bless you ❤
Hi Kirena,
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I so appreciate you being vulnerable with me. I hope to speak with you more often. Have a amazing day