Where are all the real Christian men??
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She had a relationship with him probably because she loved him. I could be wrong but I believe that you meant to say that we are not supposed to be unequally yoked. I have yet to meet anyone who has not made a mistake or two in their life. Believe me, I made my fair share. Being equally yoked does not mean that one will be immune to abusive behavior.
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CC is a chat forum, where there is no vetting of anyone's integrity. Scammers even get in here to work their wiles among us.
Your local church fellowship is the ideal model which sadly is not often available or acted out. Here though, if the person's way of delivering their status or want seems to suggest a shallowness, they have to be challenged. Challenged initially with more innocuous wording than bluntness, but then becoming more blunt if their responses become indignant and mocking. This is necessary to help tease out the person's true spiritual heart status, and warnings sounded if that appears suspect.
There was enough in the OP's original post and subsequent responses, and on other threads she has posted to, that have confirmed my original suspicions. Ideally she should refrain from trying to get involved with a man through CC and go find a church of the model you have articulated, where its members can be protected from each other, as well as helped by each other. In that assembly her true spiritual condition and motivations can be determined, and her needs met within the oversight of the Lord.
Your local church fellowship is the ideal model which sadly is not often available or acted out. Here though, if the person's way of delivering their status or want seems to suggest a shallowness, they have to be challenged. Challenged initially with more innocuous wording than bluntness, but then becoming more blunt if their responses become indignant and mocking. This is necessary to help tease out the person's true spiritual heart status, and warnings sounded if that appears suspect.
There was enough in the OP's original post and subsequent responses, and on other threads she has posted to, that have confirmed my original suspicions. Ideally she should refrain from trying to get involved with a man through CC and go find a church of the model you have articulated, where its members can be protected from each other, as well as helped by each other. In that assembly her true spiritual condition and motivations can be determined, and her needs met within the oversight of the Lord.
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technically, according to Scripture, adultery is the only cause for divorce listed.
It may have not been brought up in Scripture because Jewish men aren't abusive in nature? I don't know but abuse was never brought up in Scripture.
Real abuse occurs, I am disabled for life at the hand of my ex. I walked away because the longer he was in America the more extreme his religious views became, and at one point I knew he would kill me.
He never, however, cheated on me to my knowledge, and I've no reason to think he did.
Since I've been saved I've tried to reconcile the divorce in my heart, but it's not even a possibility to have ever tried reconciliation for me, since I'm not leaving the US, walk into Da'esh territory and ask him if he'd like to reconcile now that I'm apostate.
I just can't think of a quicker way to end my life in a horrifying manner (film to be shown at 5)
So I just settle it knowing God doesn't expect us to be intentionally suicidal.
Not everyone has actually been abused who claims it however, and a lot of divorced people have serious baggage - their previous marriage ended for good reason.
The divorcee dating scene is never good. Even I had baggage, probably more than most. I was a decade single because I couldn't be around men - PTSD - and I had a lot to work out.
It sounds however, like you do too.
There are men I'm sure who would be willing and even happy to care for a wife in poor health, my husband married me with disability knowing I was only going to get worse as I aged. He was just happy for a relationship in his own older age that was based in love and mutual respect.
But if you really were abused, that's a lot to work through, for real. Without all those years single I would have destroyed this marriage I'm in because I was too skittish in the beginning to handle even the thought of another relationship.
Also, that time alone helped me figure out, once I started thinking of marriage again, of qualities in a husband which were important to me considering my personality, and time to really figure out what my shortcomings were so that I could be wholly honest with myself as to what qualities I actually needed in a spouse.
I married the man who ticked every box I deemed important, who I met by random chance... Figure God sent him my way when I was ready for him.
You may want to do some soul searching as I did - time and contemplation was the best gift I ever gave myself
It may have not been brought up in Scripture because Jewish men aren't abusive in nature? I don't know but abuse was never brought up in Scripture.
Real abuse occurs, I am disabled for life at the hand of my ex. I walked away because the longer he was in America the more extreme his religious views became, and at one point I knew he would kill me.
He never, however, cheated on me to my knowledge, and I've no reason to think he did.
Since I've been saved I've tried to reconcile the divorce in my heart, but it's not even a possibility to have ever tried reconciliation for me, since I'm not leaving the US, walk into Da'esh territory and ask him if he'd like to reconcile now that I'm apostate.
I just can't think of a quicker way to end my life in a horrifying manner (film to be shown at 5)
So I just settle it knowing God doesn't expect us to be intentionally suicidal.
Not everyone has actually been abused who claims it however, and a lot of divorced people have serious baggage - their previous marriage ended for good reason.
The divorcee dating scene is never good. Even I had baggage, probably more than most. I was a decade single because I couldn't be around men - PTSD - and I had a lot to work out.
It sounds however, like you do too.
There are men I'm sure who would be willing and even happy to care for a wife in poor health, my husband married me with disability knowing I was only going to get worse as I aged. He was just happy for a relationship in his own older age that was based in love and mutual respect.
But if you really were abused, that's a lot to work through, for real. Without all those years single I would have destroyed this marriage I'm in because I was too skittish in the beginning to handle even the thought of another relationship.
Also, that time alone helped me figure out, once I started thinking of marriage again, of qualities in a husband which were important to me considering my personality, and time to really figure out what my shortcomings were so that I could be wholly honest with myself as to what qualities I actually needed in a spouse.
I married the man who ticked every box I deemed important, who I met by random chance... Figure God sent him my way when I was ready for him.
You may want to do some soul searching as I did - time and contemplation was the best gift I ever gave myself
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