Be very careful who you marry

As much as I would like to be married, I've seen times where it has ruined people's lives. I took 2 years of sign language and taught a Sunday School class for deaf children. We had services interpreted for the deaf. We had a new interpreter come in one Sunday. Her sign language was awesome. The way her hands and fingers flowed was like poetry. The other interpreters' were amazed at her signing. The deaf complimented her after services on her signs. She had a GOD given talent. One Sunday I walked over to her husband and mentioned how well his wife signed. He just glared at me and walked out. I asked others what happened? They said her husband was very jealous of her being in front of the church and getting the attention. Shortly after that she stopped. A couple of weeks later I saw her as a bible study and asked her what happened. She looked real nervous. looked around and said she couldn't talk about it and walked off. GOD had given this woman an incredible gift and her husband just crushed it out of jealousy.
I had a friend who was helping me with the Sunday School class and she was learning sign language. She loved working with the kids, went on day trips with us. She really loved the class. She got married, but said she would be coming back to the class. She never came back to the class. I asked her what happened. Her husband would not allow her to return. He was also cutting her off from her friends and family. They finally divorced after about 10 years. But, she missed out on so many blessing with with the deaf children, all because of her husband wanting complete control of her.
Just because someone says they are a Christian, and they might be, but attitudes and personalities make a difference.

As much as I would like to be married, I've seen times where it has ruined people's lives. I took 2 years of sign language and taught a Sunday School class for deaf children. We had services interpreted for the deaf. We had a new interpreter come in one Sunday. Her sign language was awesome. The way her hands and fingers flowed was like poetry. The other interpreters' was amazed at her signing. The deaf complimented her after services on her signs. She had a GOD given talent. One Sunday I walked over to her husband and mentioned how well his wife signed. He just glared at me and walked out. I asked others what happened? They said her husband was very jealous of her being in front of the church and getting the attention. Shortly after that she stopped. A couple of weeks later I saw her as a bible study and asked her what happened. She looked real nervous. looked around and said she couldn't talk about it and walked off. GOD had given this woman an incredible gift and her husband just crushed it out of jealousy.
I had a friend who was helping me with the Sunday School class and she was learning sign language. She loved working with the kids, went on day trips with us. She really loved the class. She got married, but said she would be coming back to the class. She never came back to the class. I asked her what happened. Her husband would not allow her to return. He was also cutting her off from her friends and family. They finally divorced after about 10 years. But, she missed out on so many blessing with with the deaf children, all because of her husband wanting complete control of her.
Just because someone says they are a Christian, and they might be, but attitudes and personalities make a difference.

BOTH of these husbands claimed to be Christians, attended bible studies, but their personalities said something else. Just because two people are Christians, does not mean they are a match.

As much as I would like to be married, I've seen times where it has ruined people's lives. I took 2 years of sign language and taught a Sunday School class for deaf children. We had services interpreted for the deaf. We had a new interpreter come in one Sunday. Her sign language was awesome. The way her hands and fingers flowed was like poetry. The other interpreters' was amazed at her signing. The deaf complimented her after services on her signs. She had a GOD given talent. One Sunday I walked over to her husband and mentioned how well his wife signed. He just glared at me and walked out. I asked others what happened? They said her husband was very jealous of her being in front of the church and getting the attention. Shortly after that she stopped. A couple of weeks later I saw her as a bible study and asked her what happened. She looked real nervous. looked around and said she couldn't talk about it and walked off. GOD had given this woman an incredible gift and her husband just crushed it out of jealousy.
I had a friend who was helping me with the Sunday School class and she was learning sign language. She loved working with the kids, went on day trips with us. She really loved the class. She got married, but said she would be coming back to the class. She never came back to the class. I asked her what happened. Her husband would not allow her to return. He was also cutting her off from her friends and family. They finally divorced after about 10 years. But, she missed out on so many blessing with with the deaf children, all because of her husband wanting complete control of her.
Just because someone says they are a Christian, and they might be, but attitudes and personalities make a difference.

BOTH of these husbands claimed to be Christians, attended bible studies, but their personalities said something else. Just because two people are Christians, does not mean they are a match.

Christian marriage is correctly founded up giving, not taking. This I have learned from experience.

Marriage on this earth is two flawed people who have decided they can put up with each other's flaws. Marriage is also a 100% proposition you both better go in willing to give it your ALL it's not 50/50.

100%.
This "perfect match" business is for those in the world. You start with that....you will end up severely disappointed.

Clearly you didn't read what I wrote or you are uncapable of understanding what I wrote.

I found her too finicky.. she found me too aloof.

As I read this I started wondering who was actually more jealous.

A "match"? Sounds like breeding horses to me.
I think you are off track to begin with.

EDIT:
"Christian marriage is correctly founded upon giving, not taking. This I have learned from experience."

Nobody is a perfect match. Not in this fallen world.