Divorce

Hello, I am new here. My husband is divorcing me. I am devastated and seeking not to rely on my own understanding and to allow God to transform me and comfort my broken heart. Do you have any suggestions on what I need to study in the bible to help me with this divorce? I do not want a divorce however it is really happening because my husband has left me and moved on. No sign of reconciliation as of now.

Hello, I am new here. My husband is divorcing me. I am devastated and seeking not to rely on my own understanding and to allow God to transform me and comfort my broken heart. Do you have any suggestions on what I need to study in the bible to help me with this divorce? I do not want a divorce however it is really happening because my husband has left me and moved on. No sign of reconciliation as of now.

Hello, I am new here. My husband is divorcing me. I am devastated and seeking not to rely on my own understanding and to allow God to transform me and comfort my broken heart. Do you have any suggestions on what I need to study in the bible to help me with this divorce? I do not want a divorce however it is really happening because my husband has left me and moved on. No sign of reconciliation as of now.

Few things are as devastating in life as going through divorce. From the hurt of betrayal to practical matters of finances and children, one's whole world gets turned upside down.
Additionally, for the Christian, one's whole understanding of God comes front and center. How does a God who hates divorce allow it to happen--especially for His children.
Nothing I will share with you will ease the pain in your heart because only God can heal such pain. But I will offer some thoughts on how God helped me when I experienced a situation similar to yours.

Healing was multiplied to me as I was able to forgive. More aptly, as God worked forgiveness in me.

Understanding was multiplied to me as I sought out God as never before. His word became my meat and drink.

His presence was multiplied to me as I surrendered and accepted His resolution, whatever that might be. For maybe the first time in my life I desired God above what God could do for me. I put the following quote up on my wall so I would read it often each day...Thou Who art all desirable, be all desired by me...

My marriage didn't end in reconciliation. But I do encourage you to continue to pray for yours and do everything in your power in the Lord that yours will. David prayed for his son until there was no further need. This will please God...especially as you pray for reconciliation as a means of Him glorifying His name. I'll join you in prayer as I'm sure many here already have. I truly desire for you and your spouse the richest of blessings.

I can't help you with any scriptures as it's been 9 years since my wife divorced me and I still struggle with it. I didn't see it coming and fought my hardest to prevent it and have yet to understand exactly why it had to happen.

Hi Tr8cyTr8cy, welcome here to CC and the fellowship you will encounter😊 So sorry to hear your situation and reaching out to other Christians is indeed a wise move. I will pray the Comforter brings you peace and hope while you process this. We all have trials and above all, must keep trust in God's plan for our lives. He knows the beginning from the end and I know there are things He has in store for you. All things are possible, so keep your husband in prayer that the Lord blesses him and HIS will be done. There is the Family Forum, Ladies Forum and Prayer Request Forum fyi. May God bless you with His peace and I would suggest keep busy, possibly with volunteer work🙏✨🙏

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"Life changing events happen for many reasons, and often may bring about
unexpected events that bring changes for the better.
'Always have hope with a positive attitude."

Yep,
Been there done that. And where you feel like half of you is missing....there is life after divorce. It isn't the same as being married but it can be good too.

Where you might feel like a victim,(and to some degree perhaps you are) you HAVE to own what you did to contribute to the situation you currently find yourself in. I understand that this isn't exactly what you want to hear....but it's what you need to hear.

If you can adequately figure out why your marriage failed...and you properly heal from the situation, you can try this again.
In the meantime, do NOT try to restore what you lost with any relationship. Make friends, do things you couldn't do before. Be generous in ways that only single people can be. Be kind to others regularly without expecting anything in return. Be courteous. Courtesy is like a drink from a mountain brook, cool and refreshing to all that partake in it.

And most of all....LIVE life. Don't spend the next several years moping about crying about how he done you wrong. (It's not attractive and is repelling)
Get a job, begin working, and taking care of your kids (if you have any) and yourself.

Get a good job that pays...I know some people work hard for cheap as if it's a service to someone. Work is work and charity is charity...I work so I can be generous. That's the object of the exercise. And now you need to be self supportive. Your family may or may not be supportive...they might be a drain on your mental reserves or be too coddling. (I haven't met a normal, functional family yet) So don't necessarily hang out too much with them. Basically be you...

Precious friend, A Very Warm Welcome To Chat. Sorry to hear. Will pray for you.
Went through one myself. Kept serving The Lord the best I knew how at the time, praying/waiting patiently for a possible reconcile. The mate re-married someone
else, so I took the ring off and mailed it to her, said bye/moved on.

God healed and sent another - she has been my wonderful mate for 37 years
now, we "esteem each other more highly than the other," trying to outdo
each other in kindness and love. God is So Good. Hope these Scriptures
will be Encouraging and Comforting:

GRACE Word for our infirmities

Please Be Very RICHLY Encouraged And Edified In
The LORD JESUS CHRIST, And His Word Of Truth, Rightly
Divided (+ I and II).

Grace, Peace, And JOY!… + RICH Blessings

Hello, I am new here. My husband is divorcing me. I am devastated and seeking not to rely on my own understanding and to allow God to transform me and comfort my broken heart. Do you have any suggestions on what I need to study in the bible to help me with this divorce? I do not want a divorce however it is really happening because my husband has left me and moved on. No sign of reconciliation as of now.

Hello, I am new here. My husband is divorcing me. I am devastated and seeking not to rely on my own understanding and to allow God to transform me and comfort my broken heart. Do you have any suggestions on what I need to study in the bible to help me with this divorce? I do not want a divorce however it is really happening because my husband has left me and moved on. No sign of reconciliation as of now.

Oh thank you so much. This was very helpful to me. I loved how you explained it pleased God for David to pray for is son until there was no further need. I can do that too. I can accept whatever God's plan is while still being obedient to God.

Yes the most confusing part is God hates divorce and instructs no man to separate what he brought together. Confusion is of the devil. I do not want to be confused or rely on my own understanding. I will definitely seek God more that what he can do for me. Thank you!

Hello, I am new here. My husband is divorcing me. I am devastated and seeking not to rely on my own understanding and to allow God to transform me and comfort my broken heart. Do you have any suggestions on what I need to study in the bible to help me with this divorce? I do not want a divorce however it is really happening because my husband has left me and moved on. No sign of reconciliation as of now.

He hates abuse more than divorce.

That part about "What God has joined together let no man bring asunder" is NOT scripture