It's good to be single.

Knowing something is God's will for you does not always make it pleasant. This is overly idealistic.

Now... is it better to be in God's will? Yes. But, better is not always enjoyable.

the law of averages tells anyone there has to be girls & guys that are happy being single in God's will.

如果这是上帝对我的旨意，需要我要单服侍主！我愿意为主守独身，直到生命的尽头！谢谢你的安慰和鼓励！我的心情也好些了!

the law of averages tells anyone there has to be girls & guys that are happy being single in God's will.

Out of curiosity, do any singles here feel better after participating in threads like this one?

Personally, I normally try to avoid them. I mean, if I'm to be single, then so be it, but I don't want to dwell on missing out on a relationship or basically walking this earth alone.

Also, my personal confusion is this:

It seems to me that God calls some people to be single so that they might serve him without distraction. Well, what if you're single and really not doing much for the Lord? That seems like a double whammy to me.

Lord, just show me how you want me to live out the rest of my days here on earth, and give me the grace to fulfill the purpose for which you created and redeemed me.

That's my sincere prayer before God, but I'm still unsure of the answer.

Out of curiosity, do any singles here feel better after participating in threads like this one?

Personally, I normally try to avoid them. I mean, if I'm to be single, then so be it, but I don't want to dwell on missing out on a relationship or basically walking this earth alone.

Also, my personal confusion is this:

It seems to me that God calls some people to be single so that they might serve him without distraction. Well, what if you're single and really not doing much for the Lord? That seems like a double whammy to me.

Lord, just show me how you want me to live out the rest of my days here on earth, and give me the grace to fulfill the purpose for which you created and redeemed me.

That's my sincere prayer before God, but I'm still unsure of the answer. If any of you wouldn't mind saying a prayer for me in line with my sincere request before God, then I would certainly appreciate it. Thank you.

Good question, and no, I just get annoyed. People telling me I need to be happy without something I desire to the bottom of my heart is not helpful. The Bible even tells us that "Hope deferred makes the heart sick..." (Prof 13:12).

So I'll let those who can dance and frolic in their singleness tell us how joyful it is to be in whatever state God puts you in (I'll have to re-read Job I guess, because I missed the part about him being happy in God's will during his ordeal). As for me, it may be best to avoid these silly threads.

出于好奇，在座的任何单身人士在参加了这样的帖子后感觉更好吗？

就个人而言，我通常会尽量避免它们。我的意思是，如果我要单身，那就这样吧，但我不想纠结于错过一段恋情，或者基本上是独自行走在这个世界上。

另外，我个人的困惑是：

在我看来，神呼召一些单身的人，好让他们不分心地事奉神。那么，如果你是单身，并没有为神做太多事呢？这对我来说是双重打击。

主啊，求你告诉我，你要我怎样度过我在世上剩下的日子，赐我恩典，使我成就你所创造和救赎我的目的。

这是我在上帝面前真诚的祈祷，但我仍然不确定答案。如果你们中的任何一个人不介意为我祷告，这是我在上帝面前真诚的请求，那么我一定会感激你的。谢谢你。

你这个问问很好👌，我想也是很多单身基督徒面对的困惑!他或者她不确定这是否是上帝对自己的呼召，我想只有我们在主耶稣基督里，不断的祷告祈求神赐给我们每一天，能够有意义活下去的帮助!感谢神！主内的弟兄姊妹们也需要时常互相鼓励互相安慰，每天背起我们的十字架跟随主耶稣基督一同走天国的路!我知道这很艰难，但是我们必须坚持下去!直等到主耶稣的到来!阿们！

Knowing something is God's will for you does not always make it pleasant. This is overly idealistic.

Now... is it better to be in God's will? Yes. But, better is not always enjoyable.

Well spoken. Fully concur.

Thanks for your reply.

This topic is a bit confusing.

On the one hand, it's good to be single so we can serve the Lord without distraction.

On the other hand, he that finds a wife finds a good thing, and two are better than one.

I don't seem to be in either camp at the moment, but I must admit that being alone has brought me into a deeper relationship with God, so maybe I'll fulfill my actual calling some day. I certainly hope so.

Out of curiosity, do any singles here feel better after participating in threads like this one?

Personally I've had a ball with this thread. Go back and read some of my previous comments in it.

Also: Howdy seeking and welcome to the forum.

So I'll let those who can dance and frolic in their singleness tell us how joyful it is to be in whatever state God puts you in (I'll have to re-read Job I guess, because I missed the part about him being happy in God's will during his ordeal)

I think how we understand the book of Job depends on how we view the words of Elihu- many translations and commentaries do not do him justice.

I think Elihu's main point is in ch.35 v. 9-16.... we get so hung up in our circumstances and forget to magnify God- and that is how the joy that "the world can't get, and the world can't take away" slips away from us. That's when we start multiplying words without knowledge, and making things worse.

Not that we should never feel anything other than joy- that's not realistic; but we have access to joy that can overcome any sorrows.

Little children singing "God is Big" has corrected my grief that was from a lack of perspective more than once.

Some threads need to be dug up once in a while.


Here's another reason it's good to be single: Blue cheese!

I cooked some blue cheese into my breakfast. I am currently enjoying it and NOT ANNOYING ANYBODY! Nope, there's nobody here to be irritated by the smell. And mmmmmm, it's delicious!

Don't get me started on the jar of pickled garlic I found at the store. (Not even making this up. And it's delicious too.)

Out of curiosity, do any singles here feel better after participating in threads like this one?

Advantage #73 of being single:

I just made a big pot of chocolate pudding. GUESS WHO GETS TO SCRAPE THE POT!

Aaaaaaaaall MINE!

See. the existence of chocolate pudding is irrefutable, empirical evidence easily found in creation that there is a God, and that he is good. Non-believers are without excuse.

"Who makes a big pot of chocolate pudding, and does not himself partake by scraping the pot?"

Technically not scripture, but... sounds very Holy Ghost inspired to me.

Well technically it's the existence of COCOA that proves God exists.

If we try to narrow it down to chocolate pudding specifically we get into theological quagmires involving brownies - does a raspberry or cheesecake topping disqualify it as proof of God, and if so how much topping is required to disqualify - and whether milk "chocolate" counts as proof.

One thing I love about being single: I can sleep until I want to get up.

Parents keep pictures of their kids on their phones. I keep pictures of places I sleep. I can whip my phone out and show them off any time.

"This is my couch... And this is the bed in the spare bedroom, sometimes I sleep there just for a change of pace... Sometimes I sleep TEN HOURS, it's crazy... This is my car, sometimes I pop out on lunch break and catch a nap if I feel like it..."