Would you date or marry a separated or divorced person?

I suppose one can learn from failures of others, but I would still prefer to get marriage advice from someone with a successful track record.

Also, the idea that a divorced person who doesn't have any biblical grounds for remarriage not doing so is a good topic of conversation for a group of divorced people.

Your question is not a question. The thread title is phrased as a question but your first post makes your position quite clear in a strong statement.

Why did you make the thread title a question if you really wanted to make a statement?

Doesn't negate the fact that they are still an ex wife....even if they are dead.

And since there is no marriage in heaven they will be an ex wife there as well....

Since there are no marriages in heaven won't all married men (who had believing wives) have ex-wives?

What scripture do you have in mind? Where does Jesus provide a scenario where a woman may divorce a man and remarry or that the man who marries her is guilt-free?

The Old Testament did not allow women to divorce men, but a man was required to give a wife (or concubine in that passage) food clothing and sex. I read that the authorities in Jewish communities could try to pressure a man who wasn't living up to his duties to issue the bill of divorcement.

Matthew 19, Mark 10, etc. must have been a surprising scenario for the disciples. Shammai Pharisees were strict about divorce, and Hillel Pharisees were looser about it... but to use the word for adultery to describe divorce and remarriage was probably shocking and got the response 'If such be the case with the man and his wife it is better for a man not to marry.'

The Pharisees treated part of the Deuteronomy 24 passage like a command. Jesus responded that Moses because of the hardness of their hearts allowed divorce.

I wonder if that is what the NIV is trying to capture in the way it renders Deuteronomy 24.

Deuteronomy 24
24 If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, 2 and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, 3 and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, 4 then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance.
(NIV)

Under these conditions, the first husband is commanded not to marry her again after she has been defiled. The Pharisees were treating the giving of the marriage certificate as a command. Hillel Pharisees focused on 'displeasing', and following Hillel, included burning the meal as a reason. The Shammai Pharisees focused on 'something indecent' and would allow divorce for adultery or some other grave offense along those lines.

The Lord's teachings were more similar, IMO, to Shammai's on this particular topic, but the Lord Jesus used the word 'adultery.'

Oh believe me, I've been here 14 years and I have rhinoceros skin by now -- if you could look over all the threads I've written in the past, you'd see how I got it.

You state that this is the "singles" forum and not the "divorced and remarried forum," but a good number of the regulars here have actually been engaged or married before, are divorced, separated, or were widowed/abandoned.

It just seems that as a married person who wants to post regularly in Singles (which is fine,) you would want to learn more about the demographics of your audience.

The problem is that your opening post along with this explanation, doesn't come across as an invitation to a discussion.

The entire opening post feels more like a sermon that would be howled out by a Southern Fire and Brimstone Preacher: "I see what all you sinful, lower life singles are doing! I know you don't really care about God or His ways! Here, let me show you everything I just know you're doing wrong! Thankfully, God has sent me, The Married Person Who Follows God in All His Ways, here to correct you and bring you back into the fold, lest you perish. Praise God!"

And this makes it sound like you have already assumed, judged, and declared his entire audience guilty, so why would there be a need for a discussion?

There are others here like this also. Jimmy the Lock (I guess because he likes locks or has locks of hair???) and one other who escapes me at the moment. You get'm in every bunch.

There are others here like this also. Jimmy the Lock (I guess because he likes locks or has locks of hair???) and one other who escapes me at the moment. You get'm in every bunch.

I'd caution about calling people out to talk bad about them. This can get you in trouble with the mods.
Note I didn't disagree, but simply gave you a heads up. 😇

Ah good. Thank you.

Ah good. Thank you.

Actually, I feel kinda mushy in the head cause although I knew what jimmying a lock is, I didn't associate it with the Jimmy the Lock name until you pointed it out.