Rules of Engagement

I was trying to understand what is a hand me down because most of us will have been at least with one person before we marry. Do you not think that most of us settle even if we are in love with the one we settled for?

You raise a valid point.

Perhaps we do settle, but even then, hopefully, we love the one that we settle with.

When I created that thread I was a widower. I can't quite remember my train of thought regarding the hand-me-down reference. That probably was not quite the right wording. Sounds a bit harsh. Maybe a little jaded.

I remarried later in that same year. I don't believe that I settled for someone but rather it was the one that I wanted. Got the right one too. Married JesusLives who is still a member of this site.

Maybe she got the hand-me-down husband. I was in rough shape at the time we first started to PM each other. She must've seen something in me. I believe that God was at work and still is in our relationship.

Have no fear of rejection.

Develop a tolerance for pain as you may end up with a broken heart. Be strong for you will survive. Life will go on.

Faint heart does not win fair woman.

Marry only for love.

Pay attention to detail.

Accept the woman for who she is at this moment. Positive refinement comes only from God over a long period of time.

I must be willing to accept God's discipline for my own positive change that she may find appealing.

Be patient but let your resolve be resolute.

Pursue with wild abandon in your heart. Do not hold back.

Never settle for second best or someone else's hand-me-downs

Do not date for the purpose of having a one-night-stand, as that is vanity and pointless.

Do not pursue anyone that you would not consider marrying. Do not waste your time.

Offer only the best that has been provided by God. Do not lie. Be honest in all things.

Her feelings are more important than my own desires.

I do not believe in long, protracted engagements. Either you know what you want or you don't.

Play for keeps or get out of the game. This game is for serious players only and not the timid.

All is fair in love and war.

This is pure genius! I'm glad I was able to find it. It goes well with what I've been posting here in the singles forum. Thanks much for this!!