Oh wow
I didn't have $500 at age 12.
My mom, both grandmothers, and out of over 40 aunts and uncles, many were SAHW. I also have doctors, lawyers, writers, electricians, plumbers, bus driver and nurses in my female lineage.The alternatives, since you claim i didn't mention any (I didn't know it was my responsibility to point young mothers on their journeys), are: SIngle Motherhood, Being a working mother, being in a lesbian relationship and either working or staying home, choosing a responsible man with whom to lie down and have children and coparenting....the alternatives are endless, although not all are Godly, so I am not certain why the comment about not offering any alternatives came in. Maybe that's a language barrier thing.
I can only go back to my grandmothers for lineage I think whoever came before them I have no idea. Family trees only show sons in my cultural tradition, daughters don't count.
You wrote that you do not recommend staying at home after 30 years of doing that. Which is what triggered my response. If it is not your responsibility then why are you not recommending? Which might sway a young female to attend college and forgo marriage and children. The usual trajectory on that model being tied up in education and career until thirty something and then getting serious about marriage and children. At that point they are competing with 20-something females for the alphas. So there are negatives not mentioned here that come with college and career. When picking mates men generally do not care about education and careers as much as women may. They have different agendas and that includes females who will stay married for the long run and raising children as a family unit, Not older educated females who are more likely to view it all thru the lens of "Woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle' model. They do not trust them because they know they are taught all the prejudices of 20th-century Gloria Steinem feminism in college. The recent divide between men and women generally is displayed in the Lindsay Clancy case, where she murders her three children, and females argue for leniency while males lean towards imprisonment. These are general trends.
ooooh well the reason I wouldn't recommend it, is because God is the only being we can completely count on to never hurt us, and to always protect us. Knowing people will disappoint us is the whole basis of realizing we need God in the first place, in fact...but knowing that people will disappoint us and let us down, tells us that we need to learn to take care of ourselves and not rely on other flawed humans. For many it works great for the fist so many years, then things/life happens, divorce or god forbid worse (I am a widow) happens, and you're alone. Now what? You're 45,, and you're suddenly alone...what will you do? You go on interviews, they see your college degree, and ask, " So what have you been doing for the past 20 years?"You'll survive, of course, by working minimum wage, or living off child support and alimony payments, and still relying on the person who put you into this position in the first place. IF you truly want to stay home, raise babies, keep house, cook, can, garden, raise animals and live like Laura Ingalls, great. do it, just have a back up plan to your back up plan. DOn't go into it thinking ooooh I love him so much, and not protect yourself along the way.
I get that. But you don't need to own a home to be a Tradwife. We rented while saving for a home. I'm not certain how it is in China, but here, there are also many options to own a home or land. My brother saved and bought land, then built a small home, then got married. He then lived mortgage/rent free, using his money to grow the land. We purchased our first home on a land contract, directly with the seller, and we paid it off asap, by sacrificing other things like vacations, cell phones, cable tv, internet, streaming services and other extras, then throwing all our extra cash towards the loan (like a gazelle as it says in the Bible) The Bible will teach people how to do anything, even repaying a loan.
