Tradwives

[Lanolin]

I kinda wonder what would have happened if our lifestyle had been put on screen. As a traveling singing family we spent about 20yrs on the road. I can tell stories for days! lol It was akin to running away and joining the circus. No one was doing anything quite like that, especially in Canada. Now everyone wants to live that life. lol I think our family thought we were crazy!

Wow do tell
Is this like the country singing family in the Robin Williams movie RV? Kristin Chenowith played the mum.
Or Selena y les Dinos? Before Selena hit the big time, she and her family was travelling on a bus named Bertha doing gigs. If you've seen Selena the movie.

 

[Lanolin]

I honestly think I don't have a 'lifestyle'.
I mean I sort of try to feng shui my surroundings but its not wonderful enough to put on screen for everyone to see or have an article in Better Homes and Gardens.

You wouldn't really want to watch me making dinner, cleaning the bath, feeding the cat or digging compost. I'm no Nigella Lawson, domestic goddess. I heard her husband beat her up actually.

 

[ThereRoseaLamb]

Wow do tell
Is this like the country singing family in the Robin Williams movie RV? Kristin Chenowith played the mum.

It's so funny you said that because when that movie came out and I saw it I called my sister and said "Someone put our life in a movie"!! Yes, it was quite close to that many times. The music was "Southern Gospel" but many would hear it and think it was country.

Or Selena y les Dinos? Before Selena hit the big time, she and her family was travelling on a bus named Bertha doing gigs. If you've seen Selena the movie.

Yes, it also had some similarities to that because my father was a singer many years before my sister and I joined him. We had a motor home instead of a bus. We traveled with two dogs along for the ride. lol

 

[Lanolin]

It's so funny you said that because when that movie came out and I saw it I called my sister and said "Someone put our life in a movie"!! Yes, it was quite close to that many times. The music was "Southern Gospel" but many would hear it and think it was country.





Yes, it also had some similarities to that because my father was a singer many years before my sister and I joined him. We had a motor home instead of a bus. We traveled with two dogs along for the ride. lol

Wow
Did you go to school or did you do it by correspondence? Did you have a home base?

 

[ThereRoseaLamb]

Wow
Did you go to school or did you do it by correspondence? Did you have a home base?

I was just finishing high school when we went full time. My sister did some home schooling. We had a home base but we didn't see it most of the year.

 

[Lanolin]

I was just finishing high school when we went full time. My sister did some home schooling. We had a home base but we didn't see it most of the year.

Wow I've always wanted to move house etc but end up staying where I was born in the same house lol. But I had my town sort of grow up around me, so it was always changing anyhow.

 

[ThereRoseaLamb]

Wow I've always wanted to move house etc but end up staying where I was born in the same house lol. But I had my town sort of grow up around me, so it was always changing anyhow.

I guess we always want something different, or we think we do, when we are going up. But everyone's story is different and unique.

 

[Lanolin]

I guess we always want something different, or we think we do, when we are going up. But everyone's story is different and unique.

yea

In Selena's case, she lived her life on the road working, but she really longed to be able to just go to school and have a normal teenager's life. But if she hadn't been singing and performing from a young age with her family she would have had a much harder road breaking into the music industry or achieving stardom.

A lot of older people go out and buy campervans and spend half their time travelling around in retirement as they now got time and money to enjoy it. I think having a permanent home that you have to look after and maintain and pay all the bills etc can tie you down in a lot of ways, some people just yearn to be free. A stable life can be good, but it can also be totally boring for someone who's keen on adventure.

 

[Gideon300]

yea

In Selena's case, she lived her life on the road working, but she really longed to be able to just go to school and have a normal teenager's life. But if she hadn't been singing and performing from a young age with her family she would have had a much harder road breaking into the music industry or achieving stardom.

A lot of older people go out and buy campervans and spend half their time travelling around in retirement as they now got time and money to enjoy it. I think having a permanent home that you have to look after and maintain and pay all the bills etc can tie you down in a lot of ways, some people just yearn to be free. A stable life can be good, but it can also be totally boring for someone who's keen on adventure.

"Condemned to drift, or else be kept from drifting". Bob Dylan.

 

[Lanolin]

Home is where the heart is

 

[Genipher]

Home is where the heart is

I have a sign in my kitchen that says:
"Home is where they feed you"

 

[Lanolin]

My fridge magnet says 'home is where the cat is'

 

[Lanolin]

Not just an internet/online phenomenon

Divorce, death and the traditional wife

OPINION: Law reform has failed to protect women who leave work to raise children.

www.nzherald.co.nz

 

[GardenofWeeden]

I was a stay-at-home-wife for almost 30 years. I don't recommend it.

 

[seoulsearch]

I was a stay-at-home-wife for almost 30 years. I don't recommend it.

I appreciate the honesty!

 

[Lanolin]

I note no tradhusbands have posted.
Not a peep.

Why do they not have a you-tube channel? Or are they just lying back in their lazy boy chairs while their tradwives are bringing them beers?

 

[Lightbeamrider]

I was a stay-at-home-wife for almost 30 years.

So were my mother and grandmother. Mother raised three boys and one girl to adulthood. The youngest girl was killed by car accident at 16. We also had a grandmother and an uncle living with us while we were growing up. No old folks home. Mother took care of them all, fed them etc. Mother lived to see great-grandchildren.

I don't recommend it.

How many of your female ancestors were stay-at-homes, and you do not provide alternatives. I know a lot of females go to college and get jobs and may marry in their 30s if they marry at all and have at most two children. A woman with a husband and 7 kids by 30 will have far more impact on culture than her college-educated counterpart in the long run. Daughters with plenty of brothers and a father are better protected.

 

[Tall_Timbers]

I note no tradhusbands have posted.
Not a peep.

Peep.

When I was a young man and single I fixed everything from scratch. Not sure why other than I preferred to do things that way. If I was invited to dinner party I might have brought a few different loaves of homemade bread to share. Then I got married. Before long I realized I'd married a parasite. Cleaning up after two people took a lot more work than cleaning up after one so I had less time to do things. I stopped baking breads, stopped brewing brewskys, stopped a lot of things as there just wasn't enough time in the day.

Fast forward decades and the our kids I raised are all grown up now. I've grown ancient and it's harder and harder for me to manage things but I still cook mostly from scratch. I can spend a couple of days preparing beef for burritos, for example, and then freeze a few packages so I can turn the work into several meals. I do the same thing with pork. I'll go through the process of making carnitas and then freeze a bunch in smaller packages. I'm always on the prowl for new foods to try that I might like.

For the first decade of marriage I was both the bread winner and the tradhusband. It was exhausting. I retired early in life due to disabilities and became the stay-at-home dad/husband. Fortunately I had a means to earn income even while staying at home. It was a huge blessing to be able to raise my kids, be there to see their achievements, volunteer in their classrooms, be their coach on sports teams, volunteer with the PTA, etc.

I can't think of a more wonderful blessing for the Believing parent to be a stay at home parent when the children are growing up. Being there for them is the best place to be if you can. Circumstances put me in that place and I'm forever thankful! Our children are grown up and dispersed to the four winds now, and I miss them and miss having little urchins around to play with and teach and to do things with.

 

[Lanolin]

So were my mother and grandmother. Mother raised three boys and one girl to adulthood. The youngest girl was killed by car accident at 16. We also had a grandmother and an uncle living with us while we were growing up. No old folks home. Mother took care of them all, fed them etc. Mother lived to see great-grandchildren.

How many of your female ancestors were stay-at-homes, and you do not provide alternatives. I know a lot of females go to college and get jobs and may marry in their 30s if they marry at all and have at most two children. A woman with a husband and 7 kids by 30 will have far more impact on culture than her college-educated counterpart in the long run. Daughters with plenty of brothers and a father are better protected.

Can't afford college, couldn't get in, and don't have a vocation (which is why mothers with husband and 7 kids by 30 happen).
Sometimes only girls are born...my grandmother had 5 girls then 3 boys. The girls were looking after the boys. The granddad worked hard.
The grand mother worked too, and the eldest (my mother) had to leave school at 12, never went to high school, to work.

We need to look after ourselves, father and brothers not necessarily going to always look after us or protect us women. My mum always worked after eldest turned 8, grandmother looked after us a few months at a time. Dad had night shift and mum worked days. She was no stay-at-home forever.

 

[Lanolin]

Peep.

When I was a young man and single I fixed everything from scratch. Not sure why other than I preferred to do things that way. If I was invited to dinner party I might have brought a few different loaves of homemade bread to share. Then I got married. Before long I realized I'd married a parasite. Cleaning up after two people took a lot more work than cleaning up after one so I had less time to do things. I stopped baking breads, stopped brewing brewskys, stopped a lot of things as there just wasn't enough time in the day.

Fast forward decades and the our kids I raised are all grown up now. I've grown ancient and it's harder and harder for me to manage things but I still cook mostly from scratch. I can spend a couple of days preparing beef for burritos, for example, and then freeze a few packages so I can turn the work into several meals. I do the same thing with pork. I'll go through the process of making carnitas and then freeze a bunch in smaller packages. I'm always on the prowl for new foods to try that I might like.

For the first decade of marriage I was both the bread winner and the tradhusband. It was exhausting. I retired early in life due to disabilities and became the stay-at-home dad/husband. Fortunately I had a means to earn income even while staying at home. It was a huge blessing to be able to raise my kids, be there to see their achievements, volunteer in their classrooms, be their coach on sports teams, volunteer with the PTA, etc.

I can't think of a more wonderful blessing for the Believing parent to be a stay at home parent when the children are growing up. Being there for them is the best place to be if you can. Circumstances put me in that place and I'm forever thankful! Our children are grown up and dispersed to the four winds now, and I miss them and miss having little urchins around to play with and teach and to do things with.

Fortunate you could earn income while staying at home! Was this a govt benefit, or some kind of WFH job, or a cottage industry/business? Just curious.
Agree breadwinner AND stay-at-home can be exhausting.

I did appreciate parent-helpers in the school library, but only rich parents could do this, in the poorer schools, they couldn't afford to do this or spare the time.