Do I keep this job?

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Miri

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Steph, from previous observations from when you were caring for Daddy, I've noticed that you are not able to deal with stress effectively, at all.. A high stress job isn't good for anyone, especially if they literally throw up just THINKING about that job. If you dread this job so much, then it's fairly obvious that this job isn't for you. You need a low-stress job, OR maybe start a work from home business where YOU are your own boss.. :)
I doubt anyone would have gone through what Steph dealt with without
getting stressed. That’s called being normal.
 

tourist

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My biggest thing has been do I quit, or do I wait for them to fire me? If things go how I am thinking they’re going to go, I’m probably going to get fired tomorrow.
This is not necessarily going to happen. I read a story once in a business book called The One Minute Manager. There was an new employee in a company whose actions, while he thought were in the best interest in the company, resulted in a loss of over a million dollars. The employee was summoned by his boss. After hearing the boss outlining the failure of the venture the employee asked if he was now going to be fired. His boss said, "No, the company has just invested a million dollars in your education and we have no intention of letting you go". This kind of thing happens all of the time in business, albeit usually on a smaller scale. Your appointment to your present position was not based on what you were currently capable of but rather on your future potential as a valuable asset as a member of the team.
 

ArtsieSteph

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My shrink said I was needing to wait til Thursday to go to work. So I may get fired tomorrow. She said I needed to quit basically and get a job this was less stress.
 

ArtsieSteph

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So today I’m probably going to have to write my resignation letter. This is the suckiest thing ever and I hate it
 

blue_ladybug

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My shrink said I was needing to wait til Thursday to go to work. So I may get fired tomorrow. She said I needed to quit basically and get a job this was less stress.
I agree with your shrink. You definitely need a much less stressful job. I wouldn't wait for them to fire you, just write your resign letter and turn it in..
 

ArtsieSteph

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Two weeks notice given, resignation letter written, I guess that answers that. I have a next prayer thing is for whatever else job God wants me to have
 

Miri

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Two weeks notice given, resignation letter written, I guess that answers that. I have a next prayer thing is for whatever else job God wants me to have

Steph have you thought of getting a part time job and ease yourself into
things while building up your experience.
 

ArtsieSteph

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No not really. I mean I've thought of it, but with my mom being the only bread winner other than myself, and not being able to have the same insurance, that I have to get a job again soon.
 

ArtsieSteph

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Now I have to keep it kind of hush-hush that I’m quitting, and still have to work for two more weeks. Well I’m going to be out of it soon so hopefully that will give me something to look forward to so that I don’t freak out as much. I just want to do nothing and sleep. Maybe I’m depressed from all this
 

Miri

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Now I have to keep it kind of hush-hush that I’m quitting, and still have to work for two more weeks. Well I’m going to be out of it soon so hopefully that will give me something to look forward to so that I don’t freak out as much. I just want to do nothing and sleep. Maybe I’m depressed from all this

That’s strange why do you need to keep it quiet.

At places I’ve worked when someone leaves they often arrange a leaving do and
others have a card and collection for them. To wish them well etc.

You know it may not be a bad thing to leave. A company which only allowed you
a few days sick leave, doesn’t let you tell others you are leaving and which
piles work on a new person. Probably isn’t that staff friendly or a good
employer to work for anyway.

You may still want to look at the option of part time work, even if it’s
only for 6 months etc. To build your confidence back and ease you in.
You can always look for a full time job while working part time.
Plus many part time jobs do eventually become full time.

I know medical and insurance are really important in the US but a part
time job to help you feel better and ease you into work, is better than
no job at all.

Praying for you x
 

blue_ladybug

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Fairly certain people are very mad at me...

Well, tough noogies on them.. lol

You need to do what's best for you. All of you. Because a high stress job doesn't benefit you, and an employee who pukes just thinking about work and gets over-stressed does not benefit them.. So in the long run, you're all better off. :)
 

ArtsieSteph

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So I it in for my two weeks and now I’m debating if I can even give them that. Not that I can’t but because I’m still vomiting and having stomach issues Ike before. I hate this. I hate that I can’t give them the bare minimum.

I hate that I failed.
 

ArtsieSteph

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I probably have to call in today and, if they don’t premtively fire me, go to the doctor again.
 

blue_ladybug

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So I it in for my two weeks and now I’m debating if I can even give them that. Not that I can’t but because I’m still vomiting and having stomach issues Ike before. I hate this. I hate that I can’t give them the bare minimum.

I hate that I failed.

If you're having stomach issues, you should get checked out by the doctor. People just don't constantly vomit for no reason..