Private Messaging

That's why it could be optional?

I do encounter "sketch dudes" on a regular basis...some of them have flat-out said to me "You're beautiful" and I've just had to ignore since there was no mod. I'd like to prevent it from happening before it even starts.

Though, the person who made the suggestion didn't say 'optional'. So in response to their suggestion that it be done as standard practice for all, and not listed as an option for some, i said i disagree. I'm not going to make jumps, guesses or assumptions that he meant 'optional'. I'm going by what he said and that's what i responded to.

So people who look tanned are middle eastern excluding people from central and south america...

Although I'm guessing they actually say "Your Beautiful", or, even worse, "ur beautiful." My poor mother tongue, eviscerated and filleted by people on the internet!

You're right. "I'd like to be able to block private messages" definitely means "Let's block all private messages". Also, just to let you know, Emily happens to be female. Most people named Emily are female, helpful hint for the future.

PM is not really a big deal. If you don't like the peeps giving a PM ignore. I am a part of asia....I am from the philippines. It makes me feel uncomfortable to talk with someone i do not know wether they are from the mediterrranean, from pakistan india and even in the united states. Predators are everywhere. Just pray so nobody becomes a prey. I chat with anyone else for the purpose of educating myself and them about my country and theirs...other than that ...anything that is creepy i take careful conversation. I control it. Besides, they are just one finger away from me...one finger to close the window.... relax...life is good



GBU all

To some of us it may not be a problem, but there are some chatters who would like to have this feature. Yes, you can press the ignore button every time they come in and message you, tell them to leave you alone, or even put up "no private messages please," but this has gone to show that it doesn't always work. I'm with chicky about stopping it before it starts. This feature would prevent unwanted contact and help some of us avoid these situations. This is merely a suggestion. Yes this is a great site and I look forward to coming to it every day, but there is a suggestions forum so that we can build on it and give some ideas to make it even better.

If you're going to try to make me look stupid, you should at least read everything first so it doesn't backfire on you.

To quote the person i was referring to..
"I also feel only friends and mods should have the ability to pm a respective person. There is no reason for a stranger to be able to contact someone in an unmoderated atmosphere."

Point out to me where i missed the idea they meant 'optional'. Go ahead. Show me.

Next, i know Emily is a female, Mr Obvious, but what wasn't so obvious to you is that i was not talking about Emily. I was talking about Tandemtruths, a male. So thanks for butting in, sarcasm, oh, and being completely wrong about everything in the process. Any other observations you want to screw up in an attempt to make me look bad? I didn't think so.

What are you trying to get at?

Wait, I fail to understand how this collapsed into an argument. These are SUGGESTIONS. Meaning, they may or may not be implemented under two main conditions: 1. The system allows for the change 2. The administrator's discretionary approval.

To address the reply to my add-on to the primary suggestion that was originally authored by xxErraticEmilyxx (that was a mouthful), I too don't have a real issue with PMs directed my way. The question starts when a 40 year old man would rather PM a 15 year old girl directly, than talk to them in the main room, braving the prying eyes of moderators because they have nothing to hide. I didn't just fall off the turnip truck, as it were. It doesn't take much reasoning to conclude what the intentions are. Whereas, I personally don't have an opinion either way on the PMs, I would rather the younger users feel relaxed and sacrifice the comic relief I get every once in a while from a random PM. That is where my add-on suggestion came from. I thought, well maybe the better system would be to have everyone blocked natively, and then have the option to unblock them. Then I connected this naturally, to the friend system on the site. Currently, there aren't really any implementations on the site that award friending someone with any advantages. Through my reasoning, If you add someone as a friend under personal discretion, you trust them enough to not send you creepy PMs. Thus using something that is already a feature of the site to do the "unblocking" for you; eliminating the need to either go on a blocking or unblocking spree every time one enters the chat room. This takes the original suggestion, adding the convenience of native protection, and giving user discretion via adding/removing friends. Other advantage: elimination of spam PMs.

Hopefully that explains it.

It became an argument when people didn't stop to read things fully and started throwing out accusations and insults founded on a lack of knowledge.

@Emily & lil- watch for the persistent ones. Ask around to see if they're doing the same to other female chatters. Present proof to mod. And poof, they can be whacked away with the ban hammer. A lot of people go unnoticed simply because no one spoke up.

I never get any creepy emails. But I know how to talk to where they get the message loud and clear before it gets to that point. years of chatting online gave me the skills to stop it before it starts.

@ Ugly
So returning fire on somebody who is mistaken is alright as long as they're rude? I see.

A simple" I was talking/referring to Tandemtruths." may have sufficed. Maybe even "I don't appreciate how you worded that."
As it stands, it reads like "No you!" except verbose.

I'm not singling you out, in fact if you read any of my posts where I'm rude or defensive from here on, you get first dibs on calling me out.

WOW.

I see what you mean now, and you were right. In my mind, 'the person who made the suggestion' was Emily. I wasn't trying to make you look stupid, only hoping to at least slightly moderate your rude, dismissive and borderline bullying posts I keep seeing from you.
I can PM you with examples, if you don't know what I mean. Regards! -JIM

ANYWHO (yeah, I said it)

We should end the back and forth here, and continue with the topic at hand so it doesn't Hijack Emily's thread.

Actually, this was about the third time today i'd be criticized and insulted, so somehow maybe i was a bit frustrated by the time i got to jims unfounded attacks. But you using sarcasm to call me out doesn't really help any.

And not singling me out, yet i only see my name mentioned? How does that work?

I'm sure this is true 100% of the time.

Yes. I spoke up and I'm going to make sure other people do it too! Those men better watch out. HA.