The women's gender is an amazing one and then as a godly man, God then brings that woman your way, that is your wife, the one to whom he has joined you with; to love to cherish, to protect, to fulfill His purpose on earth with, the one whom He has given over to you to ensure she also makes eternity with Him in heaven.
How then do you treat this woman? I know they are the days when you guys just got newly married and there is no issue yet and things are kind of going smoothly and you're able to cope and all, and then the children start coming in. In times like these, how do you really be the help your wife needs at this point? I'm not yet married, but I have someone who has three kids I've stayed with, and even right now I'm with her and it's not very easy. Going to work, taking care of the babies, she has a set of twins actually, a four-year-old, and then her husband also has to go to work; she has a help she employed, but it's still not easy.
You know, when couples in a marriage are willing to sacrifice for each other, the journey actually becomes easier. I will be focusing today on couples that have kids and I will be writing from the aspect of the man. How can you be of help to your wife when the kids have arrived I know you have to work, sometimes your wife might be a stay-at-home mum or might also be working but, in general how can you be of help to her especially if there's no no there's no extra help, like externally, maybe due to lack of the needed finance to hire the help, or due to personal reasons. Even a stay-at-home mum does a lot and you do not have to look at her like oh! you've been at home all day, I've been to work, so yeah! I'm the one that needs rest, and not you! That's a very terrible way to treat this situation and your wife as well. How can you be of help to your wife at the stage?
Based on what I've read from what persons wrote, and what I know to be true, I'll share a few and would like you to add yours please.. Thanks
- When you return from work, ask her genuinely how her day has been, rest if you need to, and gain strength to help her in the ways you can so that she can at least get some rest while you stay with the kids.
- Make out time to genuinely listen to her talk about the joys and struggles on her own side of raising the children, you share yours as well, pray together for strength from the Lord to raise them right, and then make Spirit- led decisions on how to make the work easier for the both of you.
- Choose to love her even if you return from work and she is looking unkempt due to overwhelming tasks that might have kept her in that state. If you feel she has to take a bath at that point, lovingly tell her, and stay with the kids while she does.
- Surprise her by allowing her some time alone to have more time to spend with God. Her spiritual life might be declining die to her overwhelming tasks and she would need to refill or get drained sooner than you expect. You can do this by clearing a space, putting her Bible, a notepad, a pen, a snack, playing her favourite music, and putting in place a comfortable chair and table, and lead her into the room at a time she doesn't expect, and then tell her to spend as much time as she wishes to while you look after the kids.
- Take your walk with God seriously while trusting God to help you keeping loving her and helping her the way He(God) would want you to... There are many other ways, but I'll stop here. I'll like to hear from you too...🙂
I'll also wrote from the aspect of the wives to their husbands but not today please 🙂
How then do you treat this woman? I know they are the days when you guys just got newly married and there is no issue yet and things are kind of going smoothly and you're able to cope and all, and then the children start coming in. In times like these, how do you really be the help your wife needs at this point? I'm not yet married, but I have someone who has three kids I've stayed with, and even right now I'm with her and it's not very easy. Going to work, taking care of the babies, she has a set of twins actually, a four-year-old, and then her husband also has to go to work; she has a help she employed, but it's still not easy.
You know, when couples in a marriage are willing to sacrifice for each other, the journey actually becomes easier. I will be focusing today on couples that have kids and I will be writing from the aspect of the man. How can you be of help to your wife when the kids have arrived I know you have to work, sometimes your wife might be a stay-at-home mum or might also be working but, in general how can you be of help to her especially if there's no no there's no extra help, like externally, maybe due to lack of the needed finance to hire the help, or due to personal reasons. Even a stay-at-home mum does a lot and you do not have to look at her like oh! you've been at home all day, I've been to work, so yeah! I'm the one that needs rest, and not you! That's a very terrible way to treat this situation and your wife as well. How can you be of help to your wife at the stage?
Based on what I've read from what persons wrote, and what I know to be true, I'll share a few and would like you to add yours please.. Thanks
- When you return from work, ask her genuinely how her day has been, rest if you need to, and gain strength to help her in the ways you can so that she can at least get some rest while you stay with the kids.
- Make out time to genuinely listen to her talk about the joys and struggles on her own side of raising the children, you share yours as well, pray together for strength from the Lord to raise them right, and then make Spirit- led decisions on how to make the work easier for the both of you.
- Choose to love her even if you return from work and she is looking unkempt due to overwhelming tasks that might have kept her in that state. If you feel she has to take a bath at that point, lovingly tell her, and stay with the kids while she does.
- Surprise her by allowing her some time alone to have more time to spend with God. Her spiritual life might be declining die to her overwhelming tasks and she would need to refill or get drained sooner than you expect. You can do this by clearing a space, putting her Bible, a notepad, a pen, a snack, playing her favourite music, and putting in place a comfortable chair and table, and lead her into the room at a time she doesn't expect, and then tell her to spend as much time as she wishes to while you look after the kids.
- Take your walk with God seriously while trusting God to help you keeping loving her and helping her the way He(God) would want you to... There are many other ways, but I'll stop here. I'll like to hear from you too...🙂
I'll also wrote from the aspect of the wives to their husbands but not today please 🙂
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