So, Ive noticed that Ive been having alot of problems with this forum lately. Not on a technical level btw, but on a more personal level. I find that I get a bit frustrated from this site, more than other sites which of course have these same problems to /some/ degree, and I often have have some feelings of anger from this site.
Like, Ive noticed that I take things personally here, and maybe even jump to conclusions, or judge posts people make too harshly. Im going to post a few examples merely for clarity, and I hope that no one takes them personally.
But like, sometimes I or another person I see will post something, like a fault they have, or a struggle, and someone will write a post about how they shouldnt do that. And they may not be judgmental in their post, they may think they are being helpful. But I often read it as criticism to someone trying to admit to other followers of Christ about their struggles, or something along those lines. And I then find myself being angry towards them for doing so.
I also often see posts that put down other parts of the forum, and that often makes me grumpy too, even if I dont post there. I feel like its just passing judgement down on others, as if those saying it are better. But of course, the people posting that may be dealing with the same feelings with that part of the forum. But I find myself getting grumpy and looking down on those making such posts.
And then theres the problem with just a lack of communication. Like, when talking about certain issues, it can feel like someone always has to take over the thread and go on about love and junk, when it doesnt have any relevance over the thread. And I find myself turning over to spiteful thinking, assuming the person doing it is only merely doing so for the sake of getting likes and looking more "righteous" than others. But they could actually have that problem too, and think they are doing good by doing so.
Is it just me, or can a Christian forum be really hard to deal with? I dont have this problem irl, I actually generally tend to really enjoy the company of others who share my faith in Christ. But in an online community, it seems to be challenging. And many of the issues I brought up here, Im absolutely certain that others have had those feelings towards my posts.
If anyone here deals with these kinda thoughts and feelings, how do you deal with them? Do you ever feel like you should just walk away from the forum for good? Do you feel you have a pretty good mindset to deal with these issues?
(Being brief with this thread cuz gotta go to bed soon, will respond and post more tomorrow after work)
Like, Ive noticed that I take things personally here, and maybe even jump to conclusions, or judge posts people make too harshly. Im going to post a few examples merely for clarity, and I hope that no one takes them personally.
But like, sometimes I or another person I see will post something, like a fault they have, or a struggle, and someone will write a post about how they shouldnt do that. And they may not be judgmental in their post, they may think they are being helpful. But I often read it as criticism to someone trying to admit to other followers of Christ about their struggles, or something along those lines. And I then find myself being angry towards them for doing so.
I also often see posts that put down other parts of the forum, and that often makes me grumpy too, even if I dont post there. I feel like its just passing judgement down on others, as if those saying it are better. But of course, the people posting that may be dealing with the same feelings with that part of the forum. But I find myself getting grumpy and looking down on those making such posts.
And then theres the problem with just a lack of communication. Like, when talking about certain issues, it can feel like someone always has to take over the thread and go on about love and junk, when it doesnt have any relevance over the thread. And I find myself turning over to spiteful thinking, assuming the person doing it is only merely doing so for the sake of getting likes and looking more "righteous" than others. But they could actually have that problem too, and think they are doing good by doing so.
Is it just me, or can a Christian forum be really hard to deal with? I dont have this problem irl, I actually generally tend to really enjoy the company of others who share my faith in Christ. But in an online community, it seems to be challenging. And many of the issues I brought up here, Im absolutely certain that others have had those feelings towards my posts.
If anyone here deals with these kinda thoughts and feelings, how do you deal with them? Do you ever feel like you should just walk away from the forum for good? Do you feel you have a pretty good mindset to deal with these issues?
(Being brief with this thread cuz gotta go to bed soon, will respond and post more tomorrow after work)