You're 21, so you're not going to find many sophisticated, refined men at that age. Maybe time travel about 200 years back. Sophisticated and refined, in this day and age, tends to mean 'removal of typical male traits'.
Oh, correction... on your profile you say you're 17. Girl, you're a teenager complaining about maturity in guys your age? And you're calling them uneducated? They're still in high school! I'm sorry, this .. i have no words ..
Also, contact a moderator to have your age fixed from 21 to 17. I suggest doing this soon as you don't want to get in trouble for putting up false information. You can contact OnceFallen through the CC mail. Works like normal email. And let him know you need your age fixed.