Personally I believe your embracing the bitterness and you have allowed this emotion to take Root in your life ---
You have a choice to maintain your Bitterness or reject it -----
Ephesians 4:31 ESV
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.
Hebrews 12:15 ESV
See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God;
that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled;
AI says
Yes, bitterness is often described as a choice, While difficult experiences and past hurts can contribute to feelings of bitterness
, individuals ultimately have the power to choose how they respond to those experiences and whether or not to let bitterness take root.
Here's why bitterness is considered a choice:
- It's a matter of perspective:
Bitterness often arises from holding onto resentment and negative emotions related to past hurts, perceived injustices, or unmet expectations. However, individuals can choose to reframe their perspective, forgive, and release these negative feelings.
- It's an active process:
Choosing to remain bitter means actively choosing to dwell on negative emotions and justifications for holding onto resentment. Conversely, choosing to heal and move forward requires actively working through the pain, practicing forgiveness, and focusing on positive emotions and experiences.
- It affects present and future:
Bitterness doesn't change the past but can significantly impact one's present and future by creating negativity, hindering personal growth, and damaging relationships. Choosing to let go of bitterness allows for a more positive outlook and healthier relationships.
- It can be a conscious or unconscious choice:
Sometimes, bitterness can develop gradually and unconsciously, especially when someone is repeatedly hurt or invalidated. However, even in these cases, individuals can become aware of their bitterness and choose to address it.
- Forgiveness as a choice:
Forgiveness, a key component in overcoming bitterness, is also a choice. It doesn't mean condoning the hurtful actions, but it does mean choosing to release the negative emotions associated with those actions, allowing for healing and moving forward.
In essence, while difficult experiences may trigger feelings of bitterness, individuals ultimately have the power to choose whether to embrace bitterness or choose a path of healing, forgiveness, and a more positive outlook on life, according to some self-help resources
I say -----I think you need to stop blaming your bitterness on living with someone who is an addict and take charge of your own life by quenching --- the root----- that is allowing you to entertain your Bitterness ----
God is telling you here that it is your choice not to let Bitterness take Root and spring up ---you have a choice ----
Hebrews 12:15 ESV
See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God;
that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled;
I say
And if your married to an Addict who is unwilling to help themselves by getting help and wanting to be clean ---Leave -----
God does not want anyone in an abusive relationship and you are being emotionally abused by your Very own words here
Your Quote here from OP ---
I eat dinner by myself, watch TV by myself, take care of the household by myself, go to bed by myself..
I say --Leave and help yourself get better by quenching the Bitter Root you have allowed to take Root in your life---Read God's word and do as it says to quench the root of your Bitterness
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