Hello, fellow singles!
This thread is inspired by a sincere, well-meaning thread by a highly respected poster here in singles that asked what advice formerly married people could give to singles regarding past mistakes and learned lessons.
Another married user then declared that hearing such views would be pointless, seeing as such people are all "failures at marriage."
Here's what I don't understand: I've seen some divorced people here say that singles here can't speak with any credible knowledge or understanding because they've never been married.
Now we have a view from a married person that formerly married people have nothing of value to say because they've totally bombed God's principles for marriage.
Seriously.
If single people can't talk about marriage because they haven't been married, and those who were married can't talk about marriage because they've flunked the test, WHO IN HEE HAW IS allowed to share anything about their views of marriage? If this is the case, why do we even have a Singles Forum at all? Why not just have a "Married People Telling Singles About Marriage" forum?
Now, I give nothing but utter respect to all married couples. But, for the ones who want to establish themselves as authorities, I ask only one thing: BRING YOUR SPOUSE WITH YOU AND COUNSEL US AS A COUPLE. And please, let us ask you honest questions, because I have known many couples who will back each other in public by telling everyone how incredibly blessed their marriage is.
But the minute you separate them for any amount of time and start to talk to them individually and they aren't able to look at/confirm with each other what answer they want to give publicly... You find out things may not be so rosy.
Please, if you're going to tell us that you're the only ones who can credibly speak about marriage... At least give us what's real.
This thread is inspired by a sincere, well-meaning thread by a highly respected poster here in singles that asked what advice formerly married people could give to singles regarding past mistakes and learned lessons.
Another married user then declared that hearing such views would be pointless, seeing as such people are all "failures at marriage."
Here's what I don't understand: I've seen some divorced people here say that singles here can't speak with any credible knowledge or understanding because they've never been married.
Now we have a view from a married person that formerly married people have nothing of value to say because they've totally bombed God's principles for marriage.
Seriously.
If single people can't talk about marriage because they haven't been married, and those who were married can't talk about marriage because they've flunked the test, WHO IN HEE HAW IS allowed to share anything about their views of marriage? If this is the case, why do we even have a Singles Forum at all? Why not just have a "Married People Telling Singles About Marriage" forum?
Now, I give nothing but utter respect to all married couples. But, for the ones who want to establish themselves as authorities, I ask only one thing: BRING YOUR SPOUSE WITH YOU AND COUNSEL US AS A COUPLE. And please, let us ask you honest questions, because I have known many couples who will back each other in public by telling everyone how incredibly blessed their marriage is.
But the minute you separate them for any amount of time and start to talk to them individually and they aren't able to look at/confirm with each other what answer they want to give publicly... You find out things may not be so rosy.
Please, if you're going to tell us that you're the only ones who can credibly speak about marriage... At least give us what's real.