Court me, Court me Not..

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
Subhumanoidal said:
Funnily enough it seems men have two main takes on if a woman is interested or not. One is "she didn't say so, therefore she's not interested" and the other is "she's in my line of sight. She must be interested" 😂
Click to expand...
I must be the first kind, because I've never noticed a girl being interested in me. :unsure::sneaky:

But now I'm wondering how many times I've missed the clues.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Hazelelponi and tourist
Lynx said:
I must be the first kind, because I've never noticed a girl being interested in me. :unsure::sneaky:

But now I'm wondering how many times I've missed the clues.
Click to expand...

In my experience the clues are usually subtle, where they become more self-conscious about looking pretty and being proper whereas in front of people they don’t have a crush on they may give no effort.

Also, from a man’s perspective, the effort women give is also usually quite subtle. Western women will rarely just come out and say “I have a crush on you, will you be my boyfriend?” Instead they’ll do things like get their nails done, dress better, and do their hair. The thing is that most men really don’t seem care about that stuff so it isn’t always obvious that they’re attempting to be more attractive to get our attention.

There’s actually a huge gap in what men and women think each other want most of the time. Just my experience, but it’s good to be aware of. It could really help I think.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Mel85
Subhumanoidal said:
Some people are naturally so friendly, and also physical (in a non-sexual way, and with no romantic intents) it comes across as being interested. Often to them their behavior is natural and they are unaware they're doing it.
It's not uncommon for men to take this as giving romantic intentions. Usually such women get hit on often as a result. So it makes sense that you, too, interpreted her behavior as such.
Click to expand...
I wasn't going to approach her. As I said in my post, I was advised to do it, both by several men and a woman.
 
TabinRivCA said:
Ok my first husband departed years ago and my second departed in 2016. I say I'm twice
a widow for lack of a better term. I know, I always feel strange when I use that verbiage, lol.
Click to expand...
It was the "my son's dad stays in contact" that piqued my curiosity... like, as if it were from beyond the grave ;):LOL:
 
  • Like
Reactions: Mel85
TabinRivCA said:
Ok my first husband departed years ago and my second departed in 2016. I say I'm twice a widow for lack of a better term. I know, I always feel strange when I use that verbiage, lol.
Click to expand...

You're not literally a widow? Or...??
 
Lynx said:
I must be the first kind, because I've never noticed a girl being interested in me. :unsure::sneaky:

But now I'm wondering how many times I've missed the clues.
Click to expand...
I do not believe there are cut & dry clues. Every person is different, and what is a clue to some is gibberish to another. Why I prefer direct, plain speech. Maybe it's the NYer in me.
 
It Could be that I am not their type lol


Kidding aside I think because some here want to stay single lol 😄 and some are just too shy to do the first move. In our culture although there are women in my country nowadays who are not shy to ask men ... in our culture asking a man for a date is frowned upon...but for me I am not against it. I just can't do it and never will lol unless we are married already ☺

And one other reason is maybe some of us here are too scared of rejection...


The dating world is only for those who are brave enough to step out from their comfort zones...although there are those lucky ones who instantly find their pairs...dating is really for those who will start acting instead of wishing....

If you are not willing to take a chance nothing will gonna happen...if you will not go beyond your fear you'll never know....😊
 
Kireina said:
It Could be that I am not their type lol


Kidding aside I think because some here want to stay single lol 😄 and some are just too shy to do the first move. In our culture although there are women in my country nowadays who are not shy to ask men ... in our culture asking a man for a date is frowned upon...but for me I am not against it. I just can't do it and never will lol unless we are married already ☺

And one other reason is maybe some of us here are too scared of rejection...


The dating world is only for those who are brave enough to step out from their comfort zones...although there are those lucky ones who instantly find their pairs...dating is really for those who will start acting instead of wishing....

If you are not willing to take a chance nothing will gonna happen...if you will not go beyond your fear you'll never know....😊
Click to expand...
Everybody is someones type 😉

but re your culture, why is it frowned upon when a woman asks a man for a date?
 
Mel85 said:
Everybody is someones type 😉

but re your culture, why is it frowned upon when a woman asks a man for a date?
Click to expand...
Like my mother said...men supposed to pursue women and not the other way around.... 😊
 
Kireina said:
Like my mother said...men supposed to pursue women and not the other way around.... 😊
Click to expand...

I agree with your mother. She sounds like a smart woman. But then I am more traditional than modern.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top Bottom
Back