Check my motives. Am I doing this because its right and I wanna do whats right...or cause I know it'll earn me recognition.
Dealing with the feeling of “good girl” entitlement
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read some posts and makes me tear up lil bit, conviction of the Holy Spirit in reverse good guy entiltment etc, etc... it's not easy being A Christian, but it never was... God gets the Glory thru this madness here on earth and In all the Heavens , thank you Jesus for being Yours Forever!
You went from work life to home life. I enjoyed both. Doing well at what I did at work. And coming home to someone That I was sharing my life with at the time... Sorry, I was just thinking about the good times, Reminiscing during these times. I've Lived awhile and loved a bit. All that I remember. About relationships is that they were great. Good, bad.right or wrong, I always loved and learned.
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I dont know that much about good girl entitlement but I do know that it doesnt really depend on my employer whether Im doing a good job or not cos often than not they dont seem to care as long as I show up but rather how the people that actually use the library (the children) feel...I would get little random notes and cards from them saying how much they like the library (and me) and that counted for more than anything a teacher or principal would say. It counted even more than the pay I would get. (though its nice to be actually paid)
Not sure if this is 'people pleasing' in that sense but I think Im doing this for God not anyone else and He does say that he doesnt stop children from entering His kingdom its for them.
Another thing I learned is we are free in Christ so traditional employer and employee relationships are sometimes turned on their head. This is the part where you learn grace, so even if you stuff up, God wants you there anyway and will keep you there until He finds something else for you to do.
I dont know that much about good girl entitlement but I do know that it doesnt really depend on my employer whether Im doing a good job or not cos often than not they dont seem to care as long as I show up but rather how the people that actually use the library (the children) feel...I would get little random notes and cards from them saying how much they like the library (and me) and that counted for more than anything a teacher or principal would say. It counted even more than the pay I would get. (though its nice to be actually paid)
Not sure if this is 'people pleasing' in that sense but I think Im doing this for God not anyone else and He does say that he doesnt stop children from entering His kingdom its for them.
Another thing I learned is we are free in Christ so traditional employer and employee relationships are sometimes turned on their head. This is the part where you learn grace, so even if you stuff up, God wants you there anyway and will keep you there until He finds something else for you to do.
I do the same each morning before heading out the door to work. It sets the stage for the rest of the day.I'm not a girl, but I've had the gender equivalent experience. I found that when I pray before work, dedicating my work to God, in His name and for His glory, that I always have a great day, and I find favor with my employer.
is there 'good boy' entitlement too?
Prodigal sons' brother comes to mind.
I was more of the Prodigal daughter. I did leave home then came back. I think most children at some point want to leave home and experience the world, I dont really know of anyone these days who just always stays at home and never wants to leave, but I would think they would be blessed if they never wanted to leave home and happy where they are.
I think what tends to happen with children from christian homes is they leave home to marry another believer at a young age. However a lot of us were not raised in christian homes and that didnt happen.
Prodigal sons' brother comes to mind.
I was more of the Prodigal daughter. I did leave home then came back. I think most children at some point want to leave home and experience the world, I dont really know of anyone these days who just always stays at home and never wants to leave, but I would think they would be blessed if they never wanted to leave home and happy where they are.
I think what tends to happen with children from christian homes is they leave home to marry another believer at a young age. However a lot of us were not raised in christian homes and that didnt happen.
If you are the person I am thinking about in my news feed on Facebook, I would say I look forward to seeing your posts. Often, most of my Facebook "friends" post such negative posts that aim to drag everyone down.
Your posts are always a ray of sunshine in a cloudy day. Don't ever let anyone take that away from you.
BTW. One of your recent posts is of Boba Fett shopping for paper towels.
I feel your pain, i am usually the hardest working person in the company, legit. My family are all the same, they work harder than the rest. Funny thing is my mum has never worked and when Nan looked after me she was already retired. I learnt hard work at church. From time to time, i receive congratulations and good words from my superiors. I have been offered promotions and pay rises, but usually they want me to work more hours.
As a good person, everyone, not just you, is entitled to good treatment from others.
Giving you extra thanks for a job well done is in fact enjoyable by good people. They don't feel obligated not one bit to do it out of entitlement to good treatment. It feels like a gift from God to receive such good work from someone like you and have the opportunity to genuinely thank you out of the depth of their heart.
Stop mixing up with bad people. I've quit jobs at very high-profile high-paying million/billion-dollar companies that I was doing well at just because the people at them were evil. It is never worth it to be in the presence of bad people (Facebook has been banging on my door almost every week for about 2-3 years trying to hire me in an executive position, and I've been steadfast in saying no).
Surround yourself by good people only and the feeling of "false entitlement" will disappear.
Godspeed.