Desperate for a boyfriend.

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cazz

cazz

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Hi guys please could you pray I get a bf. I'm 23 and all my friends at church are married engaged or with a bf from church. I've only had one guy interested and I turned him down as he was not a Christian. And I'm still single I've been waiting my hole life for someone pls pls pray for me. Love Cazz
 
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cazz said:
Hi guys please could you pray I get a bf. I'm 23 and all my friends at church are married engaged or with a bf from church. I've only had one guy interested and I turned him down as he was not a Christian. And I'm still single I've been waiting my hole life for someone pls pls pray for me. Love Cazz
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Lord, please help Cazz to trust you instead of thinking she's been desperate her whole life for a guy, when most of her life she was too young for a guy. Please help to transfer her into seeking you deparately. Help her out of the covetousness problem. And thank you that you have the strength to do that for us when we have so little strength.

Amen.
 
cazz said:
Hi guys please could you pray I get a bf. I'm 23 and all my friends at church are married engaged or with a bf from church. I've only had one guy interested and I turned him down as he was not a Christian. And I'm still single I've been waiting my hole life for someone pls pls pray for me. Love Cazz
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Honey, you haven't even LIVED life yet, much less "been waiting your whole life for someone". :rolleyes: Enjoy being single for now. You're 23, you have alot of life left to live yet. Just because all your friends are married, engaged, or have a bf doesn't mean you need to do the same just out of desperation. God will send you someone when HE feels that you're ready. :) I've been single all my life, and I love it. Don't be so eager to hop over the fence, it's NOT always greener on the other side.
 
Cazz,

Married life is very busy and is a lot of work because you work for two or more.

It is easier to be single and wanting to be married than married and wanting to be single. When you get married, you marry a sinner.

There are many times that I can't do what I want for fun.

Chuck
 
There is more to life than getting married. The most important thing to do in this life is serve the Lord and if that Christian guy found you serving God he might join you for life and forever, if no one comes soon be happy now for happiness in now not when you get married.
 
Lord we pray let the right partner come soon aand marry cazz, in Jesus name, Amen!
 
cazz said:
Hi guys please could you pray I get a bf. I'm 23 and all my friends at church are married engaged or with a bf from church. I've only had one guy interested and I turned him down as he was not a Christian. And I'm still single I've been waiting my hole life for someone pls pls pray for me. Love Cazz
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Cazz I was in my thirties when I met my now husband,I wanted till I was in my forties to marry him. We wanted to make sure we were making the right choice. And we didn't live together before we married either. So don't worry,you have lots of time to meet someone. The right someone.
 
cazz said:
Hi guys please could you pray I get a bf. I'm 23 and all my friends at church are married engaged or with a bf from church. I've only had one guy interested and I turned him down as he was not a Christian. And I'm still single I've been waiting my hole life for someone pls pls pray for me. Love Cazz
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be careful of the devil's TRAPS ==== usually when u I look for love,money, i usually fall into one of the devils traps ... but what do i know -- i will pray for u
 
Lifting you up in prayer to the Lord. Praying that God will place the right man in your life. :)
 
i pray you meet that person who meets your needs. i pray you beat the odds and last a lifetime. i pray children, souls for God. i pray God teaches you what to need to succeed. i pray the two of you bless God.
 
cazz said:
Hi guys please could you pray I get a bf. I'm 23 and all my friends at church are married engaged or with a bf from church. I've only had one guy interested and I turned him down as he was not a Christian. And I'm still single I've been waiting my hole life for someone pls pls pray for me. Love Cazz
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I am sure that if you need a boyfriend to be happy, the Lord will provide you with one when it’s time. However, I want you to be aware of this:
[36] If any one thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry -- it is no sin.
[37] But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well.
[38] So that he who marries his betrothed does well; and he who refrains from marriage will do better. 1 Cor 7:36-38 RSV
 
Basically I can only agree with the others.

I know what it's like to long for someone, but don't confuse desire for contact, trust, faith, love in general with desire for a man.
You can get all that from friendships (and family if you are close- knit)
 
Excellent advice from everyone here....all I will add is that you should wait at least another 2-3 yrs if you're out of college and have a steady job. You don't want to rush something like getting into a relationship/marriage just because your friends are doing it doesn't mean you need to or should. Haste makes waste if you rush something without thinking it through it could alter your life forever...

Take a notepad and pen and write out the reasons you feel you need a bf.....be honest with yourself...and think about each reason and see if it may just be loneliness masquerading as a need for a bf in which you could do as others have suggested and hang out more with family/friends and that loneliness goes away. You shouldn't get a bf for the sake of having one because you may attract the wrong person and make your life miserable/hell if you end up marrying the wrong one. Always think with your head not your heart and think things through before moving in one direction or another.
 
I was in a relationship for 5 years and it was not at all what I thought a relationship would be. I assumed we would spend all of our time laughing, cuddled up, joking around, being cute in a romantic comedy kind of way. That isn't the case, my friend. Like most women our age, we really have no idea of what a true relationship consists of, and if that magic mirror was shattered, we wouldn't crave relationships nearly has badly as we do now.

Relationships are such hard work. It's not glamorous a lot of times. Compromises. Arguments. Checking in with that person and considering them in every. decision. you. make. They become a part of your every day life. Which for some, if you're ready and understand just how difficult it is to keep a long term relationship, it's not so bad.

Don't feel you need to be in a relationship just because your friends are. Spend this time getting to know and love yourself. Discover who you are. Explore. Believe me, you are going to have YEARS of being in a relationship down the road. Now is the time to focus on- simply being you.

It seems to me like you're looking for someone to fill a void for you, like you feel empty without it. Let me tell you from personal experience, that hole never goes away, even if you find someone. Once you grab them, then you'll wonder if they care, if they're cheating, if you're good enough. And it's all because instead of peeking inside your heart to understand why you feel this void and fixing that, you relied on someone else to fill it. It can actually hurt healthy relationships because you have unresolved issues and you're projecting them into your relationship.

If that guy hasn't come along yet, there is a reason. There is something that God wants you to work on; whether it be a spiritual walk, something emotionally, whatever that may be- that's what you need to pray for. When you're ready, God will send you someone. He knows your heart and it's clear you have so much love to give. Wait for him to deliver, and you'll be glad you did.
 
lookwhatthelordhasdone said:

If that guy hasn't come along yet, there is a reason. There is something that God wants you to work on; whether it be a spiritual walk, something emotionally, whatever that may be- that's what you need to pray for. When you're ready, God will send you someone. He knows your heart and it's clear you have so much love to give. Wait for him to deliver, and you'll be glad you did.
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I totally agree
 
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