Do you have a lot of friends?

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I only have a small group of friends of like 3 or 4 guys who I have known for 30 years. None of them are Christians but they are true friends who have been to many trials (the earthly way) over decades. I will never leave these friends behind but as I grow in my faith, sometimes it does get a little weird.
When they are talking about really sinful stuff like its normal.

I have zero real Christians friends, but at church I was invited to activities and small groups but its weird man. Like these poeple dont know anyihtng about my past or anything. My only chrisitin freinds are my 11 year old son and my 12 year old daughter. We talk about God on our walks.

I talk to God all the time, but you know, it's like we chat back and forth, you know what I mean.
 
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jacko said:
I only have a small group of friends of like 3 or 4 guys who I have known for 30 years. None of them are Christians but they are true friends who have been to many trials (the earthly way) over decades. I will never leave these friends behind but as I grow in my faith, sometimes it does get a little weird.
When they are talking about really sinful stuff like its normal.

I have zero real Christians friends, but at church I was invited to activities and small groups but its weird man. Like these poeple dont know anyihtng about my past or anything. My only chrisitin freinds are my 11 year old son and my 12 year old daughter. We talk about God on our walks.

I talk to God all the time, but you know, it's like we chat back and forth, you know what I mean.
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Invite couples over to dinner. It's a relaxed atmosphere and a good way to get to know people.
 
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oops, some typos on top... It should say God doesn't talk back audibly. So it's not like chatting it up with buddy or even chatting here at CC. I do find my new best friend on theological issues to be chatGPT.
 
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Cameron143 said:
Invite couples over to dinner. It's a relaxed atmosphere and a good way to get to know people.
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I'm not there yet... I don't open up that well to strangers. I don't even invite freinds over actually and actually I hvant even invited family over to dinner... So NO ONE has been over to my house for dinner in over 15 years. hahah... we just meet at a restaurant..
 
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jacko

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Do you guys have alot of friends though Like in my 20s I had like 40-50 friends...
 
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I do exactly the same thing just like in a conversation.
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sometimes I pretend God talks back to me through ChatGPT.. like I ask a question and it answers since it knowledge of the bible is beyond the thoroughness of human understanding.
 
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jacko

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what does the bible say about wishing for more Christian friends even though I'm not really opening and trusting of new people.

Per chatGPT


The Bible encourages fellowship with other believers, but it also acknowledges the importance of discernment and wisdom in relationships. Wishing for more Christian friends can be a good desire, especially as fellowship helps believers grow spiritually. However, being cautious about trust is understandable.
Here are some key biblical principles related to friendship:
  1. Fellowship and Community:
    • Hebrews 10:24-25 says, "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another." This encourages community and mutual support among believers.
  2. Choosing Friends Wisely:
    • Proverbs 12:26 says, "The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray." This emphasizes discernment in selecting friends who can uplift you spiritually.
  3. Trust in God for Relationships:
    • Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us to "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding." You can pray and ask God to guide you toward friendships that will be mutually supportive, and help you overcome any barriers to trust.
  4. Opening Your Heart Gradually:
    • While you might struggle with opening up, God encourages us to bear each other's burdens (Galatians 6:2). You can take small steps to share with others, trusting that God will help you develop deeper friendships over time.
It’s good to take your time, pray for guidance, and ask God to bring trustworthy people into your life while also asking for help in being more open to building relationships.
 
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jacko said:
I have zero real Christians friends, but at church I was invited to activities and small groups but its weird man. Like these people don't know anything about my past or anything. My only christian friends are my 11 year old son and my 12 year old daughter. We talk about God on our walks.
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You might be pleasantly surprised if and when you start opening up to these people. Of course it depends on who they are. But
generally speaking, the worst your past the greater your testimony of what God has delivered you from. Know what I mean?
 
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jacko said:
I'm not there yet... I don't open up that well to strangers. I don't even invite freinds over actually and actually I hvant even invited family over to dinner... So NO ONE has been over to my house for dinner in over 15 years. hahah... we just meet at a restaurant..
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Friends are, in my experience, relative, subjective and always changing. "These are my friends" is never a subject that is easy to lock down and categorize. I have x close friends, y casual friends and z acquaintances... That's not how it usually works, at least with me.

I have found my friends are better friends if I don't categorize, define and count them. It's much better if I just let things be the way they are, and let them happen the way they are going to happen. If people drift into my life, great! If they drift out of my life, I hope they have a good life. While they're in my life, there they are.
 
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jacko said:
I only have a small group of friends of like 3 or 4 guys who I have known for 30 years. None of them are Christians but they are true friends who have been to many trials (the earthly way) over decades. I will never leave these friends behind but as I grow in my faith, sometimes it does get a little weird.
When they are talking about really sinful stuff like its normal.

I have zero real Christians friends, but at church I was invited to activities and small groups but its weird man. Like these poeple dont know anyihtng about my past or anything. My only chrisitin freinds are my 11 year old son and my 12 year old daughter. We talk about God on our walks.

I talk to God all the time, but you know, it's like we chat back and forth, you know what I mean.
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You are well blessed. Now always bare in mind that you have an enormous family in Jesus Yeshua, and come the King, you will know them all well.
 
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NO! not at all! only did when i lived in Massachusetts for 3 & half years. i know lots of people from my business & playing in bands but not the type i would social around with. mostly because they're not Christian, they're smokers, drink & party too much & stay out late. i really dislike staying out late. in fact when my wife & i social around, it's just the 2 of us.
 
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Karlon said:
NO! not at all! only did when i lived in Massachusetts for 3 & half years. i know lots of people from my business & playing in bands but not the type i would social around with. mostly because they're not Christian, they're smokers, drink & party too much & stay out late. i really dislike staying out late. in fact when my wife & i social around, it's just the 2 of us.
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I rarely go out of my home after noon, unless it is necessary. Nights? Forget them too. I am grateful to have a place to stay sin. It is wonderful, to bet by 8 at the latest, up before sunrise every day. No, I do not expect all to be the same, but if and when it becomes possible, I pray all are blessed with this enjoyment of their walk, just a facet of it.
 
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JaumeJ said:
I rarely go out of my home after noon, unless it is necessary. Nights? Forget them too. I am grateful to have a place to stay sin. It is wonderful, to bet by 8 at the latest, up before sunrise every day. No, I do not expect all to be the same, but if and when it becomes possible, I pray all are blessed with this enjoyment of their walk, just a facet of it.
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i am naturally an early riser in the summer. i'm up around 4:30 to 5:30!
 
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