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Stephitysteph said:
I thought this was a site for Christians to come and chat. Instead it is place for people to verbally hurt others. All I wanted was friends and I have been made to look like a selfish terrible person. This will be my first and last post here. Not feeling the love. God bless.
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There is love here and those who care for one another including you. Try not to allow a few ruin your experience.
 
You really haven't given the site a chance or visited the other threads and forums to see what they have to offer to you and what you may offer as well. This site is a community of individuals from different cultures, backgrounds and experience. It has a lot to offer that may greatly benefit you. I really haven't seen anyone insult you or discourage you. I get frustrated to at times and that is part of life. To feel the love as you say you must also be willing to give the love. It's a two-way street. Personally, I hope you stay on this site, preferably for a long time to come.
 
Not a single one of you knows what God has planned for me. Why is it that what I say I'm needing is selfish rather than what God himself has showed me I need right now? You don't know my story. You don't know what I've been through. Yes I NEED position Christian friends. That way I don't go back to the old ones. That way I don't keep going back to the old life. That way I don't spend every day wishing for death. The church I attend has asked me to use my talents in the kitchen to run their catering program. I have been teaching Sunday school and putting all my efforts into giving others what they need. I have never been one to lookout for myself, I'm not being selfish, God has told me it is time to get myself in the right place. As I mentioned earlier, I'm not dating right now so I can do such. Maybe if y'all took the time to get to know people you wouldn't be so worried about taking God's job in judging others.
 
Stephitysteph said:
Not a single one of you knows what God has planned for me. Why is it that what I say I'm needing is selfish rather than what God himself has showed me I need right now? You don't know my story. You don't know what I've been through. Yes I NEED position Christian friends. That way I don't go back to the old ones. That way I don't keep going back to the old life. That way I don't spend every day wishing for death. The church I attend has asked me to use my talents in the kitchen to run their catering program. I have been teaching Sunday school and putting all my efforts into giving others what they need. I have never been one to lookout for myself, I'm not being selfish, God has told me it is time to get myself in the right place. As I mentioned earlier, I'm not dating right now so I can do such. Maybe if y'all took the time to get to know people you wouldn't be so worried about taking God's job in judging others.
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I don't feel that what you need is selfish in any way. There is nothing wrong with having good friends in your life so you can support each other and grow closer together to God. I think that what you are doing in your church is commendable.
 
Made to look? Or came across that way?
You came online and announced that you wanted friends, but not any of us. But you did want our help.
I also gave you a genuine suggestion as to why things are not going your way. Your response is to (once again) be dismissive and completely ignore the advice, that in no way put you down, but was intended to give you something to consider about God and His motives in your life. Then you throw a tantrum that you didn't get your way, call people loveless and run away. But it's 'others' that make you look selfish.
You are right, we're horrible, loveless people and you have behaved impeccably. Because nothing says 'love' like contradicting yourself, dismissing people that try to help you and then blaming them for your behavior.

I truly hope you will find the answers you are needing to find.
 
Stephitysteph said:
Not a single one of you knows what God has planned for me. Why is it that what I say I'm needing is selfish rather than what God himself has showed me I need right now? You don't know my story. You don't know what I've been through. Yes I NEED position Christian friends. That way I don't go back to the old ones. That way I don't keep going back to the old life. That way I don't spend every day wishing for death. The church I attend has asked me to use my talents in the kitchen to run their catering program. I have been teaching Sunday school and putting all my efforts into giving others what they need. I have never been one to lookout for myself, I'm not being selfish, God has told me it is time to get myself in the right place. As I mentioned earlier, I'm not dating right now so I can do such. Maybe if y'all took the time to get to know people you wouldn't be so worried about taking God's job in judging others.
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im looking for who called you selfish....


you say "y'all"...


i think its great a young lady like you studies scriptures and wants to seek God diligently.... if you desire help thats understandable

i was also very defensive when i joined this site



you should stick around

i bet it will help you have a thicker skin and handle reproof or advice better (even when you disagree)
 
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Do you love yourself the way you want others to love you?
Do you treat others the way you want them to treat you?

Everything is relative, relative to a mind that only you know.
The truth will set you free. :-)
 
Stephitysteph said:
Not a single one of you knows what God has planned for me. Why is it that what I say I'm needing is selfish rather than what God himself has showed me I need right now? You don't know my story. You don't know what I've been through. Yes I NEED position Christian friends. That way I don't go back to the old ones. That way I don't keep going back to the old life. That way I don't spend every day wishing for death. The church I attend has asked me to use my talents in the kitchen to run their catering program. I have been teaching Sunday school and putting all my efforts into giving others what they need. I have never been one to lookout for myself, I'm not being selfish, God has told me it is time to get myself in the right place. As I mentioned earlier, I'm not dating right now so I can do such. Maybe if y'all took the time to get to know people you wouldn't be so worried about taking God's job in judging others.
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Well God lead you here for a reason. Possibly to fellowship with others here. In which there are people here who would be happy to fellowship with you. But if your going to reject fellowship here because its online & desire something thats not currently possible. Theres not much else we can tell you.
 
I've not rejected anyone, I said I didn't want internet friends because I need something people on the internet can't be there for me the way I need. I'm obviously here talking to people online and making friends. It was suggested to me to only have online friends rather than in person and I was explaining as to why I needed something different. I certainly didn't come on here to argue with people. I love taking advice from others, it's how we grow. I'm not going to entertain a conversation where I feel as though I'm being attacked just for expressing​ frustration or what have you. I came on here to find like minded people, and hopefully some close who I can hangout with in person. I'm not here to be bullied, im not here to be called a baby, and I'm not here to be judged by who I am or what I say.

No, I'm not running away like a baby because I don't like something. I'm walking away because I have enough negativity in my life. If you aren't going to be encouraging, than I ask that you not give me your opinion.
 
Stephitysteph said:
I've not rejected anyone, I said I didn't want internet friends because I need something people on the internet can't be there for me the way I need. I'm obviously here talking to people online and making friends. It was suggested to me to only have online friends rather than in person and I was explaining as to why I needed something different. I certainly didn't come on here to argue with people. I love taking advice from others, it's how we grow. I'm not going to entertain a conversation where I feel as though I'm being attacked just for expressing​ frustration or what have you. I came on here to find like minded people, and hopefully some close who I can hangout with in person. I'm not here to be bullied, im not here to be called a baby, and I'm not here to be judged by who I am or what I say.

No, I'm not running away like a baby because I don't like something. I'm walking away because I have enough negativity in my life. If you aren't going to be encouraging, than I ask that you not give me your opinion.
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i dont know who would suggest TO ONLY have online friends.....

maybe im missing something...

but i truely dont think anyone is attacking you

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sorry to see you go if you do
 
Stephitysteph said:
I thought this was a site for Christians to come and chat. Instead it is place for people to verbally hurt others. All I wanted was friends and I have been made to look like a selfish terrible person. This will be my first and last post here. Not feeling the love. God bless.
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There are actually a lot of good people here. Don't let a couple of guys make all of us look bad. I've complained about the same as you but I come to have fun here. Just ignore these hot debate threads and you'll be fine.
 
I would suggest looking around and search for the fun threads, you'll meet some fun and kind people.
 
Hi we care about your life and you are Gods dear child just like us.God knows what you need and have gone through in your life..I sense having online friends won't give to the dynamic that you really need.Jesus only had a few close friends and may God bring people into your life that will feed your soul and visa versa.
God knows how you feel at this time since contacting this forum and honestly no one here is out to get you or attack you..some have disagreed with you and likewise..but those who have seen your original post responded because they all genuinely want to support you in anyway they can.
You a very natural need yet thus far haven't yet found the right social setting you need.Jesus said seek and you shall find,knock and the door will be opened.
God loves you too much to allow you to stay alone.Having like minded people (even if just a good few) is a good thing so long as they don't lead you astray.

I am sure you have something to give the body of Christ and are there any youth groups in your area that you can join and with Gods help become close to individuals within this that will be of benefit to you?
 
Youth groups? I'm 26. Youth groups consist prodominately of high schoolers. I am much to old to be hanging around with them.
 
I understand.In the church I attend the 'youth groups'age from 11-30...

Did you appreciate the other comments I had made to you?
 
I don't know how the youth groups work in your area..but often those who work with the youth are older ie mid 20's...as younger people often need older ones to turn too,so I am thinking those who work with the youth..are they similar age to yourself?
Yet I sense you have already tried many different methods thus far...
 
I did appreciate the other comments, yes.

I have met everyone there is to meet at my church and the surrounding churches, and everyone my age here, is not a church goer. Out of the 1000 people that attend my church 2 of them are in the 20-30 age group. Myself and a boy who is mentally disabled.

It's not as simple as just going to different classes or studies or whatever. I've done all of the above. In the church and in the community.
 
Cool..
Also I thought as much that you had tried all other angles.Wow!!
It must be hard for you..it seems that if there is nothing locally that isn't suitable for you..
Is there a large percentage of young people of your age group mostly unsaved in your area?
It this the root of the problem?
In my church there isn't much there for people from say aged 30-45...and many have to branch out into different groups.
 
Stephitysteph said:
I did appreciate the other comments, yes.

I have met everyone there is to meet at my church and the surrounding churches, and everyone my age here, is not a church goer. Out of the 1000 people that attend my church 2 of them are in the 20-30 age group. Myself and a boy who is mentally disabled.

It's not as simple as just going to different classes or studies or whatever. I've done all of the above. In the church and in the community.
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Don't take what some people say to you here to heart, there are plenty of encouraging folks here. I truly hope you find what you are looking for. Good luck!
 
Stephitysteph said:
I've been rather frustrated for a few years on the matter of friendship in the Christian faith. I'm 26, and have been searching for others around my age who enjoy worshipping, Bible studies, and just hanging out. I am so frustrated with not being able to find genuine friends who seek the Lord. I need people to be accountable to, people I can trust, people I can just sit and worship with, people who can help one another through the hard times. I've been to so many churches and ministries and have had no luck. Am I meant to just be alone in this? I know Jesus was alone, but he had disciples that he called friend. I was under the impression that God put 6billion people on the earth so we could be here for one another but maybe I'm wrong.
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looking at at your original post this whole thing has really affected you as you have tried all possible avenues yet finding others your age to just hang out,bible study ect ect..must be real tough.You must be kinda feeling alone at this time.As there is nothing in your local area..is there an option looking into surrounding areas to find out where the heck are the young people,They must be somewhere???.and over the years I have had christians say that they have no real christian friends to hang out with ect..and they don't want to go back to their old life out of a sense of loneliness..but there isn't much out there..
 
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