Anyone here been through a break-up that you felt months later?
How did you cope
My break up with my last relationship was about two months ago.
How Do You Deal With a Breakup?
1) Be with God, dig into the Word, and be honest in your feelings with Him.
2) Be busy but also have those times to grieve. Even though it's hard to go through that pain of grieving, the outcome is going to be spectacular. If you don't grieve now, 10 years from now you could still have these hurts. Grieving allows a release in you. If you don't grieve now, that release might not happen for quite some time and become harder.
3) Be with people who actually love you. Maybe that's family, friends, spiritual mentors, people from church, school. But surround yourself with people that lift you up.
I stayed busy, but at night time, it was extremely hard for me.
I think during that time, though, God really showed me that it's okay just to cry. But, I didn't want to cry and I didn't want to remember him. I wanted to forget. I remained busy because it was a self-protection thing for me, that I wouldn't remember all our times together.
Through this time, as much as I wanted to just "forget" about this guy by keeping busy, God led me to many quiet times just to cry about the pain I felt because I was trying avoid the pain and the hurt by keeping my life active. It just wasn't healthy. It's good to be busy during these times, but there are moments when you just have to sit down and be sad for a moment and allow God to be comforting in that dark time. It's a grieving process. You need to grieve. It's healthy. You'll eventually moved and I eventually did. But that just happened last week. I found that when I thought about him, I didn't feel sad anymore or hurt. Obviously if you're being sad all the time, not doing your responsibilities and everything else, then it just gets unhealthy very quickly. It's good to have a healthy balance.