I wish to broaden that to both genders. (Have nothing against women but sadly It's not only men who falls to this) It don't matter is it man or woman, young or old. Abuse is not right. i have been close enough to those cases in my life so far. Seen how person who you should trust tears you down physically, emotionally, even spiritually.
getting ready to make a break for it i can not deal with the abuse anymore!!!!
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I wish to broaden that to both genders. (Have nothing against women but sadly It's not only men who falls to this) It don't matter is it man or woman, young or old. Abuse is not right. i have been close enough to those cases in my life so far. Seen how person who you should trust tears you down physically, emotionally, even spiritually.
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kaylagrl
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Well I had thought we had an understanding despite our differences,apparently not.
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Actually, you tell everyone to leave for even the slightest "abuse." and quite often "abuse' is used for any negative emotion exposed.
Of course, spouses should leave if their lives are endangered. But if we leave for any things that can be called "abuse" my marriage would have been over in 2000. When I became disabled, I was a piece of crap (not the word I'm thinking lol) to be around. I was angry at God, but God takes it, so it's not useful to take the anger out on him. Guess who I did take it out on.
But he stuck by me until I got over it. And we're not talking months. Quite a few people come on here and tell their story of woe, but leave out the part that their spouse is having a hard time over something else and is taking it out on them. There are times in marriage for that. Is it "abuse?" Hell if I know. The term keeps changing meanings with PCism.
Eccl. 3
1 [FONT="]For everything there is a season, and [/FONT][FONT="][/FONT][FONT="]a time for every matter under heaven:[/FONT][FONT="][FONT="]2 a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
3 a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 a time to tear, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace.[/FONT]
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For a season we learn to endure through Christ who more than merely endured us.
But when the season never ends? Then it's up to the spouse to decide. Not us. Jennifer has earned her decision. She has paid her due-diligence.
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IMO, abuse in ANY form is abuse. And sometimes it's the verbal and mental abuse that hurt more than the physical does.. Just saying..
But we are not aware of ourselves sometimes, we are already being abusive because we focus too much outside of ourselves. How can you be polished if you get irritated with the every rub? Sometimes abuse is also an indicator that we are being abusive. We get a taste of our own medicine.
there are situations where that may happen but it is still a toxic relationship in that case as well. Just because person A is abusive with person B does not mean person B has to be abusive back. There is a difference IMO between abuse and arguing a little to much.. My opinion of abuse is a situation where a person is hurt by their loved one so much that it damages then emotionally or physically.. BUt a toxic relationship should be fixed some how or end.
It's a constant. A few provided words of encouragement before they resigned, however if that was God's will, then I have faith they're in His hands.
He didn't leave because of anyone or anything on this thread. He had been planning to leave for awhile now.. As for the OP, she IS still here and welcomed the brief levity that Kayla and Lauren provided.. Also, the original topic is now back on track so it's all good. 
grrrrrrrr I hate when I am trying to say something and the jack hat starts ripping a new one before I even finish what I am trying to say that so makes me angry... then wonders why I barley ever speak
I know this person is gone but what the what?
jennifer2 I'm glad you're getting out. This isn't marriage it's hell.
yes it happens a lot I spend probably 140 hours a week secluded in my bedroom because i get yelled at for everything just about i only leave the room to shower pee eat or go to the store pretty much
I agree with Fenner. That's hell, not marriage.. and I LOL'ed at "jack hat".. lol
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LanceA
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Why does this seem to surprise you? God does not want any woman to endure years of physical and verbal abuse. Oh wait, yeah, I see that you were banned so I won't be anxiously waiting for your response.
Sorry, you were in fact not banned but have chose to resign your membership. My bad.
