+1.
My advice for dating - passed through me from a phenominal set of College pastors and mentors along the way.
Guys: Man up. She deserves to be led well.
Yeah, you're scared of rejection. You'll get over it and actually grow from it.
Yeah, she's cute and you think the world might end if she says no. There are lots of cute girls you'll meet and the world will not end - well, it may, but not because she said no.
Yeah, you can pretend to be her friend and try to manuever endlessly to limit your exposure and risk. But is that really honest? Godly? Fair? Honorable? Risk is part of the process and nothing ever worth having was gained with no risk. If she isn't worth you getting told "No thanks," she either isn't that important or you have some heart work to do and should remain single for now. Stop trying to "trick" her into liking you. Be a man. Ask her out.
Get a haircut and get a job. If you can't see yourself, in a reasonably short period of time, supporting a wife then don't waste her time. Be REAL friends (see above) and keep in touch and come back when your ready. It's bad for her, and you're a jerk for leading her on. And yes, you CAN do it through college/grad school if you know how to manage your house relatively well. Stop making excuses. 
Never make a girl wonder. If you like her, and have started showing some interest in her - it's time to make a deciscion: Do you think there really might be something here or not? If so, it's time to tell her that you are developing feelings for her. If not, it's time to tell her that you have noticed that you've been spending time together but don't think (or don't want) a relationship beyond friendship developing. The minute you figure that out, (and you need to think about it) it's time to be honest and define the relationship. Don't lead her on and break her heart just because you are keeping your "options open." She will probably appreciate you more as a man regardless of the outcome. It's why they watch the movies the do.
Be a man of God That doesn't mean be someone who knows John 3:16 and occassionaly might be seen closing his eyes when people are supposed to be praying. Get in a biblical community (church) which holds you accountable (because God designed you to be there and you'll need it) and because it's a wonderful thing to be in a relationship with no secrets in which an entire congregation can rejoice over and help foster (since no one is an expert). Serving others in the Church is God's design for you and it will make you a better boyfriend-fiance'- and husband.
Girls: Don't fret and don't lower your standards.
Make him come to you. It's good for him. He's supposed to pursue you.Sure, if he's a worthy suitor and you're interested - make yourself avaliable and show signs. But don't do his job for him. You'll probably pay for it later on.
Make him be responsible. If he's a jobless hobo (or has a history of living off mom and dad with no aspirations or hopes for his future) - don't even entertain him as a possibility until he's got himself together. It's good for him. It's good for you - and guess what - that makes getting married (the goal of all this) actually possible so you don't get stuck in a holding pattern for 2 years while you press every boundary of physical intimacy and he finally gets tired after you've crossed more lines than you swore you ever would.
Let God take care of His plan. He's God. He's got this. He doesn't need you constantly worrying over whether or not he's "the one." Seek your satisfaction and sufficientcy in Jesus, and let God "worry" about making sure His will gets accomplished.
Don't fall for tricks. I'm a guy so let me be honest. A lot of guys are playing games with you. Maybe they know they are, maybe they don't - but what you do need to be concerned about is whether or not a guy has a heart for God that consistently shows in his daily behavior. Is he active at church? Does he do ministry and share the gospel as a matter of habit? Is he a man of character and integrity who does what he says he'll do and doesn't constantly make excuses? Look for those things. If some cute guy who doesn't meet that criteria is interested in you, be a woman above reproach and let him know (gracefully) what your expectations are. He won't be the last guy who shows interest in you, I promise.
Nothing is more attractive to a godly man than a godly woman.
PS: I realize that may seem harsh when presented in text, so just to be sure - I say it all lovingly and partly jokingly. The content and advice is serious, though.
