That's rather a poor comparison. What other people eat at dinner can be easily replicated, other people's marriage cannot. Food can be bought, a spouse cannot.
And I'm not "incel", I'm VOLcel - voluntarily celibate. "Joyous incel" is an oxymoron. You see, when there's nothing you can do to change the outcome, what you can do and should do is change your attitude, to be content in every circumstance. The only relationship I'm desparately looking for is a relationship with our Lord. He listens to me and comforts me, his teachings equip me and edifies me, he intercedes with alacrity in my darkest moments, he loves me so much that he had died for my sins, and he's waiting on me at the portal, who am I to be tempted away by such an imaginary partner?