i fall in love way too easily

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Jullianna said:
I very rarely meet someone who grabs my attention and monopolizes my thoughts, but it happens. :)

I handle it much like Catlynn..I rationalize. If I know the person is not a Christian or would be bad for me in some other way, I put as much distance between myself and that person as possible. It's my only hope because when I fall, I fall hard.

I know you are incredibly lonely, Keren, but you can make very serious mistakes out of loneliness. Life changing mistakes that affect you and others in ways you may not even know about. That's a lot to carry around. :( Please protect yourself. You don't need anymore hurt.

Praying..
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thanks julliana. thanks for caring <3 <3 i'll try to be safe and still make wise decisions.....<3
 
ijustwanttheTruth said:
tis the curse of the lonely. i have quite a penchant to get attached.
anyone else find themselves falling in love with people they don't mean to fall for?
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yes. When my wife first filed for divorce, a female friend had temporarily separated from her husband. For years, I had noticed that she was going to church alone, was dropping her kids off at the same class as me, who was also going to church solo as my wife was rarely interested in attending. We have a longtime friendship, as I have know her and her husband for years. When she shared that she separated, I think I had already some strong feelings for her, but I dropped my guard at her news and let myself feel them. I was too busy trying to survive a divorce to act on these feelings, which was good, because her separation was short lived. I can usually handle being around her if I am prepared, such as chatting before or after a church service, but when I have run into her at the video or grocery store, I have been known to say stupid things, mumbling some nonsense about organic celery just so I would feel less awkward.

So yes, it happens.
 
CatHerder said:
yes. When my wife first filed for divorce, there was this lady who temporarily separated from her husband. For years, I had noticed that she was going to church alone, was dropping her kids off at the same class as me, who was also going to church solo, as my wife was rarely interested in attending. We have a longtime friendship, as I have know her and her husband for years. When she shared that she separated, I think I had already some strong feelings for her, but I dropped my guard at her news and let myself feel them. I was too busy trying to survive a divorce to act on these feelings, which was good, because her separation was short lived. I can usually handle being around her if I am prepared, such as chatting before or after a church service, but when I have run into her at the video or grocery store, I have been known to say stupid things, mumbling some nonsense about organic celery just so I would feel less awkward.

So yes, it happens.
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awwwww catherder <3 organic celery <3
 
I don´t find too easy "falling" in love. These two last years (2011 and 2012) made me change. The last woman I met help me to fall, she was a good wooer, but I saw that wasn´t love, but a life that could bring me to harms and wrongs and, the one I met by 2011 was really not trustworthy, even I prayed and thought God was confirming me to be engaged with her... My recent blogs are dealing with the issues, so I´m praying to pass by or to be moved somewhere else and, if God give me the gift of not feeeling that feeeling (which is possible) I will die without hurting my heart (at last).
 
Makes note to self *use the organic celery line to pick up chicks @ local market if ever single*
 
ijustwanttheTruth said:
i find when i'm in certain seasons of loneliness...it doesn't take that much attention to get my attention.
if i feel valuable to one person...i'm gonna get attached.
it's simply a matter of how i deal with that attachment that matters. sigh. he was the only one who even cared i was gone for 3 months. and when i came back he picked me up and spun me around :) :) :)

yeah. that's all it takes...
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I am the same way too. I find lust and loneliness go together for me at times. I think another problem with it is dreaming about marriage for me. There are times where I will see a beautiful girl and will want to know more about her, but thankfully with God inside I can stop it. The problem is when I am getting to know this beautiful girl and she is a girl who loves Jesus. Then it is like I have found a girl that could be my wife. It's like I have found my type. That is what is the problem for me.

Ever since coming to Christ, I have never wanted to date anyone but another girl who wants to spread the Gospel and live with virtue. Now I keep falling for girls who are lovers of God, and that leads me into heart issues. Anytime I find a girl who is in love with Jesus and lives with such virtue (regardless of how long we've known each other), I find myself fantasizing about the wedding bells. (Cue wedding theme music :rolleyes:)

The fantasies stay fantasies, thank God. Thankfully, I have never done anything in the physical. But I know my heart still is a problem. My desires are still a problem. I don't know if it's a dissatisfaction with being single, or if it's just a good God-given emotion gone awry. I just know I am in a battle all the time. So yes, this guy does fall in love easily too.
 
ijustwanttheTruth said:
tis the curse of the lonely. i have quite a penchant to get attached.
anyone else find themselves falling in love with people they don't mean to fall for?
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Right before I got married, a friend was telling me about magazine articles he'd read about falling in love. Apparently, there are steps to experiencing these emotions. Let's say you see someone attractive. You can actually make choices to keep you from 'falling in love', infatuation, or whatever you want to call those feelings. Things that contribute to those feelings are if you look at the person a lot, especially if you make eye contact. A lot of eye contact can contribute to it.

You can also choose not to sit around thinking about the person all the time. That's really where it happens. Either you look at them and think about the person, or you sit around later and think about that person. Just stop doing that.

When I started seeing my wife, though, I did look into her eyes remembering this research. :) She told me later how her heart pounded when I did that. :)
 
Btw, the good thing about it is if you can identify what it is that sets off 'falling in love' you can control your behavior or keep your mind from wondering, and hopefully save yourself from heartache.

The Song of Solomon says 'Do not awaken love, until it's proper time.' I think it's good to really guard your heart, even if you are dating someone, especially if you are dating someone. Now that I'm a dad especially, I'm all for no kissing while dating. I generally think it's a bad idea to date if you are very far from an age where you will marry. I have told my girls to consider teen dating on TV to be like science fiction. In the movies, people go back in time. That doesn't really happen. In the movies, teenage girls date. That doesn't really happen as far as you are concerned. Maybe at 18 or 19 if one of them was going to get married young to someone trustworthy... we'll talk. :)
 
the thing that sets off 'falling in love'? there is a giant hole in my heart that only a man can fill. when someone starts to fill it, i get attached. simple as pie really.
cherry pie.
 
Keeping our minds off loneliness helps, by doing things healthy spiritually, reading our bibles, going to church, spending time with God, reading books that appeal to us, setting goals that keep us moving His direction (for He does know our plans He has for us :) ) , it makes us feel better inside, it also shows God we care to not be lonely, He hears our prayers ,too, of our loneliness. He cares for us when we are feeling down, I am not sure where I am all going with this, k, nothingbutHistruth, but, I know, He knows, talk to Him, He will give you rest, and, in His rest is unloneliness . You're a bright girl, learning Hebrew and all, a funny girl, witty, and, can laugh at dumb jokes, so, just keep on keeping on serving Him, keeping
The Devil's sweet song from entering your mind, it's there, it's in all of us, we ALL are evil at heart, just like the Scripture says, I paraphrase, but it goes like this: How can you, who are 'evil,' do good things for your children and then how so much more will good things come to you of what you ask from your Father in heaven? This is Jesus speaking in one of the gospels. The key word is 'evil,' I want you to know that we all, without His presence (that sates loneliness, doesn't it :) ) in us, we are going to be in trouble. We can't do it on our own, it is good you do this thread. The Lord leads, milady :)
 
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