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Important Questions to Ask Your Date
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Susanna
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LOL...where's my switch?
Ok, lemme put it this way: If you were on a date...the lady of your dreams was there...and everything was oh so nice...and then...whenever you're sitting there thinking what a smile she's got on her face...she's asking: So, were you BORN a man...?
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Ugly
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LOL...where's my switch?
Ok, lemme put it this way: If you were on a date...the lady of your dreams was there...and everything was oh so nice...and then...whenever you're sitting there thinking what a smile she's got on her face...she's asking: So, were you BORN a man...?
For myself I'd first ask her reasons for why she would ask such a thing. If she provided a valid answer then i would give an answer back.
Usually someone who asks such a weird question has a reason for it, a personal experience where this happened to them and they were told 'you didn't ask, so i didn't tell you'.
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Susanna
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I can't wait to get to know what your position on this is
. Is it a make or a break?
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Golfnut1913
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I actually asked these before our first date (though not in these words) {this is not a complete list}:
Tell me about your religious upbringing, what you value in your denomination. What you are willing to cast aside that differs from my denomination?
What in your family of origin could present red flags for me or be potential causes for concern?
Are you Biblically able to remarry?
What are your intentions regarding your career and retirement? Does that change if you remarry?
How does the fact that my career goals diverge from my education affect your thoughts towards me?
What hours do you sleep, on what side of the bed?
What are your thoughts about a husband and wife keeping different sleep schedules?
Facebook - your thoughts please.
I know you're into fine, homecooked meals, but what sort of culinary depths are you willing to sink to from time to time?
Do you have any intention of dying your hair ever? Even if it turns grey?
Where would your parents live if they couldn't care for themselves?
...really I asked all this and more BEFORE our first date. Definitely not in these exact words. I liked all the answers, too. She had similar questions for me, as well.
Tell me about your religious upbringing, what you value in your denomination. What you are willing to cast aside that differs from my denomination?
What in your family of origin could present red flags for me or be potential causes for concern?
Are you Biblically able to remarry?
What are your intentions regarding your career and retirement? Does that change if you remarry?
How does the fact that my career goals diverge from my education affect your thoughts towards me?
What hours do you sleep, on what side of the bed?
What are your thoughts about a husband and wife keeping different sleep schedules?
Facebook - your thoughts please.
I know you're into fine, homecooked meals, but what sort of culinary depths are you willing to sink to from time to time?
Do you have any intention of dying your hair ever? Even if it turns grey?
Where would your parents live if they couldn't care for themselves?
...really I asked all this and more BEFORE our first date. Definitely not in these exact words. I liked all the answers, too. She had similar questions for me, as well.
I was all excited for Star Wars Episode I... and then the entire set of the "first three" movies broke my heart, smashed my hopes, and crushed my dreams.
I have only a few fragments of my very soul left to spare on the new ones, so this time I am keeping all hopes to myself unless proven otherwise.
Which I think makes an excellent first date question: "Do you think there is ANY type of redemption possible for the Star Wars franchise??!!" If he says yes, I will suspect a conspiracy!
I recently discovered the wisdom in asking that question, or at least asking "Are you married?" Not everyone on CC is truthful about that.
Some people will flat-out lie about being married; others will say they're single when they're actually separated but it isn't even a legal separation; and some people consider "separation" as being that their spouse is in the other room cooking dinner while they're on the computer picking up potential dates.
Always be cautious.
there's a new movie coming out??? ; p
also, i can validate the value of observing how your date treats the staff/service of wherever you may go. also, how they treat others along the way. i was once on a date with this guy who held the door open for me, then dropped it on this old lady coming behind me. charming.
finally, a lot of people don't believe me when i say this, but if you listen, most guys (or women) will show/tell you all you need to know about their character and priorities, if you give them the chance to show you. how they talk about others, treat others, and what they seem to focus or be interested in. also, what kind of questions they want to know about you.
i'm not saying, don't ask if their married. you should. but i trust what i observe far more than the canned answers provided, usually.
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I've taught my kids that whenever someone says, "I love you." to ignore the words and look for the actions.
Often they will say, "I love you, Dad(dy)." and I will respond with, "I know, you show me. I love you, too. Do you see it?"
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BananaPie
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LOL. So basically it all comes down to: Are you Real or Imaginary?
Lord, Why am I having a mighty fine time with this thread?
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BananaPie
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ROFLOL!!
...and from where I'm sitting, the question would be, "So, were you born a Moose?" ...and the only correct answer is: "Like Yeah!. See my BEARD?"
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Back in my maiden years...
...two questions where most importantly deal-breakers.
Q1. Have you ever smoked anything in your life? If yes, totally loss of interest. If no, then Q2.
Q2. Are you content practicing celibacy? You cannot image how many times the response was, "No." I'd lose interest like sooner than yesterday!
...two questions where most importantly deal-breakers.
Q1. Have you ever smoked anything in your life? If yes, totally loss of interest. If no, then Q2.
Q2. Are you content practicing celibacy? You cannot image how many times the response was, "No." I'd lose interest like sooner than yesterday!
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How about "How crazy is your mom going to get before she dies?"
We sorta had that talk last night. My sweetheart's mom is a little off, kinda fragile, and not expected to take it well when she (my sweetie) and her son someday moves back out. I did define that her mom would not live with us ever if she is still smoking, but I also committed to being willing to take part in her twilight care if we wed.
"Mom" is a chain smoker in her 70's, so there's a chance that could come on soon and sudden or slow and tediously protracted. I expect her to not outlive her husband, though. He is in great shape for a man in his 80's.
We sorta had that talk last night. My sweetheart's mom is a little off, kinda fragile, and not expected to take it well when she (my sweetie) and her son someday moves back out. I did define that her mom would not live with us ever if she is still smoking, but I also committed to being willing to take part in her twilight care if we wed.
"Mom" is a chain smoker in her 70's, so there's a chance that could come on soon and sudden or slow and tediously protracted. I expect her to not outlive her husband, though. He is in great shape for a man in his 80's.
Hahahaha! These answers are funny.
In America - There is one main question because it determines how the man will understand me and protect me and what his Biblical beliefs are. Many men do not share the same beliefs as me.
A.) How do you feel about me having no relationship with my biological family?
Many will completely miss the fact that I have an individual relationship wth Christ and He called me out of this. This shows, how they will care for me, or how they believe that biological family is more important than the body of Christ. It shows interpretation of scripture and how they would judge me when they know and see my life. Moral of the story, I've dated and developed feelings for people and discovered later, where their priorities are.
IN China.........I DO NOT GO OUT ON DATES BECAUSE, ONE DATE MEANS THEY WILL SOON WANT TO MARRY YOU. Dating = Marriage. So I have to understand the culture better. Although I see many Chinese men really committed to traditional ideas of leadership and LOVE. It's a whole new mixed bag of nutz over here. But, some that I will want to jump into, maybe
In America - There is one main question because it determines how the man will understand me and protect me and what his Biblical beliefs are. Many men do not share the same beliefs as me.
A.) How do you feel about me having no relationship with my biological family?
Many will completely miss the fact that I have an individual relationship wth Christ and He called me out of this. This shows, how they will care for me, or how they believe that biological family is more important than the body of Christ. It shows interpretation of scripture and how they would judge me when they know and see my life. Moral of the story, I've dated and developed feelings for people and discovered later, where their priorities are.
IN China.........I DO NOT GO OUT ON DATES BECAUSE, ONE DATE MEANS THEY WILL SOON WANT TO MARRY YOU. Dating = Marriage. So I have to understand the culture better. Although I see many Chinese men really committed to traditional ideas of leadership and LOVE. It's a whole new mixed bag of nutz over here. But, some that I will want to jump into, maybe
Back in my maiden years...
...two questions where most importantly deal-breakers.
Q1. Have you ever smoked anything in your life? If yes, totally loss of interest. If no, then Q2.
Q2. Are you content practicing celibacy? You cannot image how many times the response was, "No." I'd lose interest like sooner than yesterday!
Celibacy while dating, right? I read that as celibacy in Marriage. hahahaha
It's definitely hard when you get older, I was thinking you might tell me a secret that would lead me to singles my age.
