Just got dumped

[Lanolin]

Fine, "allow Job to be tortured"

I know in the end God gave him something better, but that isn't always the case. Nor is it what I really care about honestly. If I have to suffer for my life but know that idk, be getting to a car crash and suffering brain damage helped someone else value their lives and that someone else did something for someone else and there was a net positive impact on the kingdom because I existed, that would be good enough for me. But if it would be the same and someone else would just take my role, why do all this living?

er cos it's fun to be alive?

Have you never had any trial or tribulation before? OMG

You like one of those spoiled brats that are on Charlie and the Chocolate Factory! Verucca Salt! I mean a real life one!!

Sorry I just laughing at that one. You not really, but the way you acting right now seems to me you are.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

God is pretty much hiding from me. I feel gaslighted and maipulated. Every good thing in my life is from God, but every bad thing isn't.

Talking to me in a languge I don't understand on purpose just to say you are technically talking to me, is the same as silence.

Why am I required to read a book, half of which has nothing to do with any of my problems, to get guidence?
Why can't he tell me what to do, or what passage to read. If he is talking through you guys, why couldn't he do it myself.

I am scared he doesn't exist and I am being maipulated by my own hopes, dreams, fears and feelings, into reading the Bible and going to Church to convince myself he exists when he doesn't. I wish I had some sort of real proof. I wish he would appear to me like he did in the old testament. Even the demons believe but they have seen Him so that's different.

I don't know if anyone even understands this.

I feel like
A) God has the ability to talk to me but refuses. Saying "I can't reveal my plan yet, but I have one" with his own voice would honestly be enough. I would be frustrated about not knowing the plan but at least I would feel MUCH better knowing God exists and has a plan
B) He doesn't exist. And there is no garrentte I will have a good life, or reward for good works, or punishment for evil. I could just marry for money, start an only fans, steal, do anything to live the life I want with no punishment other than death, therefore peace. I won't do evil, because deep down I will always believe in God too much, but still.

This is the BEST you can do by refusing God's gift and doing your point B)

But no one is telling me, why cant he appear to me like in the old testament. I don't want to be a prophet or a big important, favored figure, I just want one moment, just one. Maybe One every 10 years to be honest. Why not? It's not like he is busy. Why can't he talk to me normally. Like a real friend.




I feel like he is hiding from me. I feel like

A) He has full abilty to say "Hi, I can't reveal my plan yet but I have one" with his own voice. Full ability to give me a little reassurance and proof he exists, but doesn't. If he can talk through people and books, why can't he talk to me.
B) He doesn't exist and all my feelings are just some evolutionary byproduct of advanced intelligence. Just something that gave past generations enough hope to continue on. If he doesn't exist, why should I not just end this life I hate and finnaly have peace?

I've wondered that too.
On a mountain in West Virginia He did speak to me, but in a better way, not audibly but through my spirit and by answering numerous prayers when I might have died alone.
It's a long story that would take too long to explain now.
One thing I learned is that it's better that we wait to see and hear Him audibly because joy results from faith in Him.
We are supposed to walk by faith and not by sight.

Hebrews 11:6
But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

The Bible is a more sure word from God than even Moses and the disciples hearing His voice from Heaven.

God inspired the word "Believe" used exactly 100 times in the gospel of John. That's not a coincidence. That confirms that
these are written, that ye might believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing ye might have life through his name.

25The other disciples therefore said unto him, We have seen the Lord. But he said unto them, Except I shall see in his hands the print of the nails, and put my finger into the print of the nails, and thrust my hand into his side, I will not believe. 26And after eight days again his disciples were within, and Thomas with them: then came Jesus, the doors being shut, and stood in the midst, and said, Peace be unto you. 27Then saith he to Thomas, Reach hither thy finger, and behold my hands; and reach hither thy hand, and thrust it into my side: and be not faithless, but believing. 28And Thomas answered and said unto him, My Lord and my God.
29Jesus saith unto him, Thomas, because thou hast seen me, thou hast believed: blessed are they that have not seen, and yet have believed. 30And many other signs truly did Jesus in the presence of his disciples, which are not written in this book: 31But these are written, that ye might believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing ye might have life through his name.

 

[Lynx]

Ha just drink water then.

Girl you gonna waste away to nothin. Who wants a skeleton for a wife?

She said she has PCOS.

I have a friend who has that. She might as well be diabetic, because sugar does the same thing it does to diabetics.

My friend with PCOS gets very, very frustrated with all her dietary limitations, and extremely tired of the food she is allowed to eat.

 

[SadGotDumped]

What if he said you don't?

I mean... It's not going to happen, but what if it did?

Atheists live their whole lives believing that our existence is a big genetic experiment conducted by random chance, shaped by survival. And they live a long time, and most make it through life without melting down.

My point is, if God showed up personally and said "you matter" do you really think it would make any difference? You'd still have to deal with life, just like the atheists who believe God doesn't even exist have to deal with life.

Yes! It would make a huge difference. I would feel like I am not crazy or stupid. I would know that killing myself would actually have a negitive effect on the kingdom, and that its not an easy way out. Like If I hate my life, I am adding more hate to the world by living if my life adds nothing good.

I know it's not going to happen. but Yes it would make a HUGE diffrence

 

[Lanolin]

Well...I dunno there's billions of people on earth and half of them are men and maybe a very small percent could be husband material. but you know what, if your ex dumped you he must have something else going on or maybe he just couldn't afford you. (Maybe he didn't tell you this cos he was ashamed?)

You'll find someone better.

 

[Churchgoer]

Christiananity is about we follow God.

Not about God follow us.

 

[Lanolin]

She said she has PCOS.

I have a friend who has that. She might as well be diabetic, because sugar does the same thing it does to diabetics.

My friend with PCOS gets very, very frustrated with all her dietary limitations, and extremely tired of the food she is allowed to eat.

I think one of my friends has something similar, she can't have soy, too much sugar, gluten, etc

I can't really take her out to eat all the time or she has to be very careful what she puts in her mouth if she don't want a headache or tummy ache. :-(

But otherwise, she's happy and finds joy out of life, even with no husband (he cheated) and four daughters, and working so ?

What do I know, I just live my life not worrying what other people think of me all the time.

 

[cinder]

If you really want to learn to hear from God you can try signing up for a freedom prayer session (this is a prayer ministry I'm part of at my church so I know they get trained in helping people connect with and hear from God and sounds like you've got plenty God might want to work on in your heart). I looked but couldn't find a directory. If you just google freedom prayer and your city you can hopefully find a church that will be glad to pray with you.

 

[Lanolin]

Yesterday we were telling the story of Ruth and Boaz in school, and the children were acting out the parts of Ruth and Boaz and it was so funny cos they had to pretend that Boaz liked what he saw in Ruth when she was gleaning so much he wanted to marry her and all the kids giggled

They are at the age where they get embarassed if someone 'likes' them. So we had to assure them we were just pretending otherwise there would be teasing! lol

You know how you get matched up in school with a boy/or girl and everyone makes kissy noises.

 

[SadGotDumped]

This is the BEST you can do by refusing God's gift and doing your point B)

I've wondered that too.
On a mountain in West Virginia He did speak to me, but in a better way, not audibly but through my spirit and by answering numerous prayers when I might have died alone.
It's a long story that would take too long to explain now.
One thing I learned is that it's better that we wait to see and hear Him audibly because joy results from faith in Him.
We are supposed to walk by faith and not by sight.

Hebrews 11:6
But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

The Bible is a more sure word from God than even Moses and the disciples hearing His voice from Heaven.

God inspired the word "Believe" used exactly 100 times in the gospel of John. That's not a coincidence. That confirms that
these are written, that ye might believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing ye might have life through his name.

25The other disciples therefore said unto him, We have seen the Lord. But he said unto them, Except I shall see in his hands the print of the nails, and put my finger into the print of the nails, and thrust my hand into his side, I will not believe. 26And after eight days again his disciples were within, and Thomas with them: then came Jesus, the doors being shut, and stood in the midst, and said, Peace be unto you. 27Then saith he to Thomas, Reach hither thy finger, and behold my hands; and reach hither thy hand, and thrust it into my side: and be not faithless, but believing. 28And Thomas answered and said unto him, My Lord and my God.
29Jesus saith unto him, Thomas, because thou hast seen me, thou hast believed: blessed are they that have not seen, and yet have believed. 30And many other signs truly did Jesus in the presence of his disciples, which are not written in this book: 31But these are written, that ye might believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing ye might have life through his name.

Honestly yeah, I would consider marrying a rich 100 year old on a death bed if God didn't exist. Why not?

But it seems so stupid. Like God is simply the good things that happen in life. Just because good things happen in my life I'm supposed to believe in God. What if I apply this to anyone else? Jim Carrey loves me because I have food, clothing and shelter. Literally what is the difference?

I had faith. I begged for help. I thought I would recieve it, and it never came.

Thank you for the Bible verses

Again why is Thomas important enough or loved enough to receive the proof he requested by not me? Job too. I get I'm not all that but it would take no effort for God to be like. "I exist, don't kill yourself". So why not? Why all the uneeded "trust me".

"Trust me, if you believe Jim Carry will be responsible for all the good things in your life, none of the bad things are his fault tho, and if your life sucks don't kill yourself because then Jim Carry will be sad, but you can't ask him any of this because he won't respond to you, except through people like me and our Jim Carry worship club"

 

[SadGotDumped]

Ha just drink water then.

Girl you gonna waste away to nothin. Who wants a skeleton for a wife?

Excuse you. I am 260lbs... I have a condition?? Sorry if eating Keto perscribed by my doctor makes me a bad wife?

 

[Lanolin]

If you really want to learn to hear from God you can try signing up for a freedom prayer session (this is a prayer ministry I'm part of at my church so I know they get trained in helping people connect with and hear from God and sounds like you've got plenty God might want to work on in your heart). I looked but couldn't find a directory. If you just google freedom prayer and your city you can hopefully find a church that will be glad to pray with you.

Prayer for others really helps. Join a ladies prayer group I find its good because a lot of things women go through need prayer. Stuff we can't tell men, or they wouldn't understand.

Elder ladies in the faith are valuable to learn from.

 

[SadGotDumped]

er cos it's fun to be alive?

Have you never had any trial or tribulation before? OMG

You like one of those spoiled brats that are on Charlie and the Chocolate Factory! Verucca Salt! I mean a real life one!!

Sorry I just laughing at that one. You not really, but the way you acting right now seems to me you are.

It is not fun to be alive. It's really not for some people. I don't enjoy it fundementally.

 

[Lanolin]

Excuse you. I am 260lbs... I have a condition?? Sorry if eating Keto perscribed by my doctor makes me a bad wife?

uh ok

As I said, I don't know you that well.
I mean how was I supposed to know you have a condition? I can't even see you. I just know what you write down here and sounds like a whole lot'o COMPLAINING

 

[Lanolin]

Ok well Halloween isn't fun for a lot of people.

I know I'd much rather be alive than dead.

I have thought about dying, but when I saw my mum die, I was like no. I still have some years left.

 

[Bible_Locket]

I had a boyfriend I thought I would marry.
He dumped me on Valentines Day to be with the biggest skank in town.

When I say she knew everyone on her High School football team,that is not an exaggeration.

I was devastated.

Here's what I get from your first post.

You said you thought he was going to take you away from your abusive family situation.

It sounds like you were with him because you needed him to save you.

I will tell you it will always be the same break up story if you love someone because you need them.
Because that makes you needy.

And men can become drained because someone's need to be filled by someone else drains them.
Healthy relationships occur because someone needs someone else because they love them.

See the difference.

Love=Need
Need=Love

Free yourself from your abusive family.

If they are physically abusive,call the police. And noatter what,do not refuse to press charges. Or, be persuaded by them not to press charges.

If you're a minor child, call police.
They will investigate and pursue charges.


Very importantly here. Learn to love yourself,first.

You are made in the image and likeness of God.
Never let anyone else convince you otherwise.

This means,the power within all creation , Holy and Perfect,brought you to life.

You are not a mistake.
You are a vision.
God's vision of the future as he has it mapped out for you.

Never sell yourself short. Never settle for less than what you deserve or want for your life. Especially just to be in a relationship with someone you think will take you out of your present circumstances.

You can save yourself in that situation.

Get a job, save your money, and leave.

Love you first.

God guide you.

 

[SadGotDumped]

Ok thanks everyone.

You guys are just telling me to enjoy life just because I am alive even though I hate it. That's not very helpful.
Even if I am a selfish entitled brat who deserves no joy, why would God make me? This sucks.

I'm kind of done reading people just tell me to enjoy life because I should, and I'm ungrateful if I hate being alive.

If I die someone else can eat the food I was supposed to eat.

I know you guys are trying your best. Sorry I'm not Christian enough, Greatful enough, Healthy enough, or receptive enough to recieve the "quit being suicidal, that's unhealthy" "get a job like the rest of us even if it makes you miserable because you have to" "other people have worse lives, no one wants an ungrateful wife" advice

 

[Lanolin]

I will be going to a funeral on Friday (not yours) so I am kind of in mourning. It was a lady from my garden club. She had cancer and I'm a bit sad. She was so kind and thoughtful and always had a laugh and smile for me.

Lovely garden too, she had a husband and grand children etc. She confessed to me it wasn't always easy being married but you know some don't have a choice. They got to stick with their husbands even if they sometimes can't live with them lol. She laughed about that one. She always saw the funny side of life. I will miss her.

 

[SadGotDumped]

uh ok

As I said, I don't know you that well.
I mean how was I supposed to know you have a condition? I can't even see you. I just know what you write down here and sounds like a whole lot'o COMPLAINING

I said so. I said my doctors said I can't eat carbs, and you said that makes me a bad wife. But I don't want to fight about pointless stuff

 

[SadGotDumped]

I will be going to a funeral on Friday (not yours) so I am kind of in mourning. It was a lady from my garden club. She had cancer and I'm a bit sad. She was so kind and thoughtful and always had a laugh and smile for me.

Lovely garden too, she had a husband and grand children etc. She confessed to me it wasn't always easy being married but you know some don't have a choice. They got to stick with their husbands even if they sometimes can't live with them lol. She laughed about that one. She always saw the funny side of life. I will miss her.

Im sorry for your loss