Kissing (and other non-sexual forms of 'intimate' contact)
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GaryA
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You are referring to a long, slow kiss - right?
"Are you saying that there is - nothing - more intimate - that you can think of - that can be shared with a partner...?"
I can think of one or two...
( I am juuuuust teasing...
)"Yes - and I am pretty certain your husband appreciates that..."
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Church2u2
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First of all the mouth has to be minty fresh . Praise God...But a "chaste" kiss on the cheek between family or friends or "church" family shouldn't cause fireworks.Now it's been my experience that a French kiss can be truly awe inspiring..if done properly. I guess it all depends on if you're attracted to a person to feel something other than boredom during a kiss. Otherwise it'd be like watching paint dry.
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Hellooo
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GaryA
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I don't think that I ever made it back onto the live chat because - for now, at least - I am a very staunch 'unbeliever' in Adobe Flash.
Curious ----- what are / were the question-mark-in-black-diamond symbol-characters supposed to be?
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Church2u2
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Tintin
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Preamble: I have been called to radical purity. My responses are not typical, they're radical.
1. Is there anyone out there other than me like this? Is kissing just lips touching to you, too?
Nope. To me, kissing is only for marriage. Now, the Bible says that we should greet each other with a holy kiss. I get that, but I don't think it's possible in this day and age, since we live in a lust-saturated and hypersexualized culture. I think of the kiss as the bow on the wedding gift. If I am dating lots of different people and I'm kissing them all (and doing more than that, too), then the comparisons come and the strife comes. I also think about not having a past when you marry. All those awkward introductions of past "loves" or the jealousies that the devil likes to bring up regarding past make out sessions with others. Protecting yourself from the future struggles is best, in truth. Yet, as God told me, I can't expect everyone to desire the level of purity that He has called me to...so I don't expect kisses to be saved for marriage alone by all Christians...though the purity and beauty that comes from saving your first kiss for the one that is truly yours in marriage and joined two lives into one, well, it defies description.
2. What does kissing mean to you, and why? For those of you who feel or experience something more, what is it?
I kind of go into it above, but it is something, in my eyes, to be shared by a husband and wife alone (in the context which this post is referring), something that is unique to the marriage and eliminates all the darkness of past loves and losses.
3. For those (if any) who don't find kissing particularly meaningful, is there a different type of non-sexual, intimate contact that you do find special or more meaningful?
As my preamble states, I have a unique call I don't expect many to understand, and so I firmly believe in saving all physical contact, including hand holding and hugs, for marriage. Why? I just think they can lead to other things. They also cause distraction. I don't, once again, expect others to do so, but for me, God has called me to save all touches, all of the googly gunk of intimacy (the little thrills that race one's spine when fingers brush together, hugs are shared, or smooches are made) for the wedding and beyond, to be able to experience the wonder of discovering those tingles and those feelings in the safety of marriage together, but that is just me.
1. Is there anyone out there other than me like this? Is kissing just lips touching to you, too?
Nope. To me, kissing is only for marriage. Now, the Bible says that we should greet each other with a holy kiss. I get that, but I don't think it's possible in this day and age, since we live in a lust-saturated and hypersexualized culture. I think of the kiss as the bow on the wedding gift. If I am dating lots of different people and I'm kissing them all (and doing more than that, too), then the comparisons come and the strife comes. I also think about not having a past when you marry. All those awkward introductions of past "loves" or the jealousies that the devil likes to bring up regarding past make out sessions with others. Protecting yourself from the future struggles is best, in truth. Yet, as God told me, I can't expect everyone to desire the level of purity that He has called me to...so I don't expect kisses to be saved for marriage alone by all Christians...though the purity and beauty that comes from saving your first kiss for the one that is truly yours in marriage and joined two lives into one, well, it defies description.
2. What does kissing mean to you, and why? For those of you who feel or experience something more, what is it?
I kind of go into it above, but it is something, in my eyes, to be shared by a husband and wife alone (in the context which this post is referring), something that is unique to the marriage and eliminates all the darkness of past loves and losses.
3. For those (if any) who don't find kissing particularly meaningful, is there a different type of non-sexual, intimate contact that you do find special or more meaningful?
As my preamble states, I have a unique call I don't expect many to understand, and so I firmly believe in saving all physical contact, including hand holding and hugs, for marriage. Why? I just think they can lead to other things. They also cause distraction. I don't, once again, expect others to do so, but for me, God has called me to save all touches, all of the googly gunk of intimacy (the little thrills that race one's spine when fingers brush together, hugs are shared, or smooches are made) for the wedding and beyond, to be able to experience the wonder of discovering those tingles and those feelings in the safety of marriage together, but that is just me.
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Church2u2
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Preamble: I have been called to radical purity. My responses are not typical, they're radical.
1. Is there anyone out there other than me like this? Is kissing just lips touching to you, too?
Nope. To me, kissing is only for marriage. Now, the Bible says that we should greet each other with a holy kiss. I get that, but I don't think it's possible in this day and age, since we live in a lust-saturated and hypersexualized culture. I think of the kiss as the bow on the wedding gift. If I am dating lots of different people and I'm kissing them all (and doing more than that, too), then the comparisons come and the strife comes. I also think about not having a past when you marry. All those awkward introductions of past "loves" or the jealousies that the devil likes to bring up regarding past make out sessions with others. Protecting yourself from the future struggles is best, in truth. Yet, as God told me, I can't expect everyone to desire the level of purity that He has called me to...so I don't expect kisses to be saved for marriage alone by all Christians...though the purity and beauty that comes from saving your first kiss for the one that is truly yours in marriage and joined two lives into one, well, it defies description.
2. What does kissing mean to you, and why? For those of you who feel or experience something more, what is it?
I kind of go into it above, but it is something, in my eyes, to be shared by a husband and wife alone (in the context which this post is referring), something that is unique to the marriage and eliminates all the darkness of past loves and losses.
3. For those (if any) who don't find kissing particularly meaningful, is there a different type of non-sexual, intimate contact that you do find special or more meaningful?
As my preamble states, I have a unique call I don't expect many to understand, and so I firmly believe in saving all physical contact, including hand holding and hugs, for marriage. Why? I just think they can lead to other things. They also cause distraction. I don't, once again, expect others to do so, but for me, God has called me to save all touches, all of the googly gunk of intimacy (the little thrills that race one's spine when fingers brush together, hugs are shared, or smooches are made) for the wedding and beyond, to be able to experience the wonder of discovering those tingles and those feelings in the safety of marriage together, but that is just me.
Good answer and keep up the good work.
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Tintin
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1. Not me. I enjoyed it, but I've had very little experience. I've only ever had one girlfriend, and while the relationship lasted for a little over 6 months, I only saw her in person for about 3 full weeks (total).
2. I think it's meaningful, but it was kind of awkward for me in that I didn't know anything and she did. So, yeah.
3. I enjoyed hugs and holding hands. I would argue that kissing is sexual but that it's not inappropriate before marriage (that's my understanding).
You betcha - two old farts hanging out together just waiting on the grim reaper...lol
Sorry this is about kissing....not the grim reaper...
Hug and kiss family coming and going....I live in a different state than most of them and it is our greeting & farewell to each other.
With that special someone kissing is oh so special....husband or boyfriend....and No I don't have a boyfriend just a husband...lol
From a woman's point of view an older one - kissing is a start button and special with husband. Pretty much why they will caution you to be careful when dating because kissing can start a fire and lead to wanting more.
Hug and kiss family coming and going....I live in a different state than most of them and it is our greeting & farewell to each other.
With that special someone kissing is oh so special....husband or boyfriend....and No I don't have a boyfriend just a husband...lol
From a woman's point of view an older one - kissing is a start button and special with husband. Pretty much why they will caution you to be careful when dating because kissing can start a fire and lead to wanting more.
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Mooky
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I don't think that I ever made it back onto the live chat because - for now, at least - I am a very staunch 'unbeliever' in Adobe Flash.
Curious ----- what are / were the question-mark-in-black-diamond symbol-characters supposed to be?
Just a smiley.
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jeremyPJ
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There are different kinds of kissing, in my view. Some folks overseas for example, greet each other with a kiss, even men. (This I would really have a problem with.)
Some friends, generally women might greet each other with a kiss on the cheek.
If I share a kiss with a woman I'm attracted to, well it makes me weak in the knees and deliriously happy, that loving feeling. I love intimacy with a woman, it doesn't have to lead to sexual feelings but it can certainly feel like love.
I can't help it, I'm a romantic.
Some friends, generally women might greet each other with a kiss on the cheek.
If I share a kiss with a woman I'm attracted to, well it makes me weak in the knees and deliriously happy, that loving feeling. I love intimacy with a woman, it doesn't have to lead to sexual feelings but it can certainly feel like love.
I can't help it, I'm a romantic.
That would kinda depend on the kiss and the person. And for me how they kiss. Did it make me feel like a piece of meat, or did it make me feel loved. But that goes hand in hand with how that person treated you. I am not a lovy dovy kind of woman. I don't need my man all over me. I enjoy being romantic and cuddle, as well as spontaneous. The song comes to mind (Somewhere Other Than the Night) It is the little things that entice me. Knowing he is a man of God, honorable, offer to help cook, clean up, makes me a cup of coffee once in awhile, sits on the porch swing with me. keeps his promises, is considerate, listens to my concerns, and actually hears them. respects me and what I contribute, Basically God's definition of Love. know it is a choice and action. if those are all in place then the kiss, the hug, the gentle touch even not sexual means the world to me. I feel loved, secure in our relationship. If I feel truly loved then all physical affection, is true and wonderful. all needs are met. Spiritual, emotional and physical. with enough stimulation almost any touch can be sexual, that is the flesh. things can be woken or stirred even with no love. ie a harlot.
Let me put it this way, you have a fancy hotrod, and you store it for a year, with no up keep, you dont take care of it, no maintenance nothing. Then you pull it out of storage and expect it to run and purr. It wont. you did not take care of it. This can go for woman or man, each has needs, if they are not met and cared for, it breaks down. if a guy does not care for his wife's needs, yet wants her to care for his, it wont work. How can the physical work if the emotional, and spiritual needs are not met? Sorry it was asked about other ways. The body is a whole, if all the whole is not cared for, there is no unity. a kiss will mean nothing, except sexual. or a normal meet and greet, but that is not what was asked. If a man treats me in a fleshly desire, and does not care for my other needs, it does not do a thing for me, infact for me it is a turn off. All it says is he wants in my pants. Being now single, that would be a deal breaker. I respect my body to much. Why a kiss or other contact does not do anything for you, I can not answer that only you can. I know for me the why and why nots.
Let me put it this way, you have a fancy hotrod, and you store it for a year, with no up keep, you dont take care of it, no maintenance nothing. Then you pull it out of storage and expect it to run and purr. It wont. you did not take care of it. This can go for woman or man, each has needs, if they are not met and cared for, it breaks down. if a guy does not care for his wife's needs, yet wants her to care for his, it wont work. How can the physical work if the emotional, and spiritual needs are not met? Sorry it was asked about other ways. The body is a whole, if all the whole is not cared for, there is no unity. a kiss will mean nothing, except sexual. or a normal meet and greet, but that is not what was asked. If a man treats me in a fleshly desire, and does not care for my other needs, it does not do a thing for me, infact for me it is a turn off. All it says is he wants in my pants. Being now single, that would be a deal breaker. I respect my body to much. Why a kiss or other contact does not do anything for you, I can not answer that only you can. I know for me the why and why nots.
