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Rissa77
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LOL no. how bout not. i'll take my chances. i've had concussions before. think i could stand another.
(ya'll can sense the sarcasm right? lol)
(ya'll can sense the sarcasm right? lol)
Yeah and if you get a serious concussion you may die at the alter with only getting that one kiss. That'd really be unfortunate to have your first kiss be your last because you were killed from the result of a horrific head injury because you and the groom were both first time kissers.
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Rissa77
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Rissa77
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Have you ever had a girlfriend? I can't imagine someone having a girlfriend and never even kissing her once.
Absolutely. In some ways I raised their standards when I explained my reasoning. And it was never an issue afterward. It's not all that normal for someone to want to wait for their first kiss to be with their bride. It's about not shortchanging yourself by going after something other than God's best.
Wow I guess I stand correct, but I have to say this does come as a huge shock to me. I mean these days its hard enough to find a serious christian woman, and yet you managed to find several who agreed to no kissing.
Ha yeah well I'm not just gonna date anyone. And one of the major things I look for in the opposite gender is morals. Being involved with the wrong girl will destroy my ministry so I'm incredibly careful.
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Mulehide
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Because of extenuating circumstances my best friend dated her now husband for five years. During that time they never even hugged or held hands let alone kiss. At their wedding when the pastor said, "You may kiss the bride", he kissed her then held her in a long tender embrace. It was one of the sweetest things I've ever seen. I could tell you many such stories though none quite so sweet.
Such girls do exist. However they generally have higher standards in other areas as well. (I don't mean that as self-righteous as it sounds.) I don't go deep sea fishing in Colorado and I don't fish for trout in Florida. If you want such a girl, you must go to where she is.
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Rissa77
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wow. truly am crying right now. that is precious. i have yet to meet any man willing to follow that path with me. in God's timing. thank you very much for that story. that encourages me. not many people believe i can do it, so i don't get much encouragement here.
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Mulehide
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Rissa I believe you can! The times you lose hope cling tighter to God. Don't sell yourself short. You are worth it!!!
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lil-rush
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2 Timothy 2:15 "Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth."
First of all, God did not outline every single thing we are/are not allowed to do in the Bible, because -as I have stated before on ChristianChat- it would have required Him to make the Bible volumes long. Probably longer than the complete Britannica Encyclopedia. This is why it is important for Christians to study the word, and study the character of God so that they can surmise what is and is not good for us. No, God did not specifically tell us not to kiss outside of marriage, but if you read and study the word you will find that kissing outside of marriage is not something God would promote. It does not help to edify you, it does not help you abstain from lust, it can lead many people down the road of destruction.
1 Corinthians 6:12 Paul tells us “All things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.”
You can do whatever you want, but it is not going to help you become a better Christian. Like I stated in my first post on here, "when people say it is unrealistic to expect them not to kiss until marriage, are they not admitting to a weakness of the flesh? And would they not want to correct that weakness instead of repeatedly indulging it?" If you are unable to abstain from kissing then you have been "brought under the power" of it.
"Show me in scripture where this exact command is found" is a cop-out, in my opinion. As I stated earlier, not everything is expressly outlined in God's word. It is our responsibility to study His word enough that we can glean from it a deeper understanding.
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