Ladies... your opinion please.

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See_KING_Truth said:
You are putting too much thought into this bro, don't over complicate things... for your sake as well as hers. You want things to seem natural and not like you have thought out every single detail of every single conversation ahead of time.
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Yes, this! 100%

alienx7587 said:
Like I said, facebook is not a desired crutch to lean on, but I had to think fast and at the time it seemed like the best option. After all, had I said nothing I potentially would never had talked with this girl again until the end of January- if even then. Friends first, but avoid the friend zone. :eek: It's a find line to walk. The thing I dislike about facebook the most are the most obvious flaws: visual and tonal cues are absent, which are key to comprehending the level of sincerity in an individual.

At any rate, I replied to her message and dropped the phone number in there. We'll see what happens! :)
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From this, I can tell you're already on the right track. You're miles ahead of most guys, maturity-wise.
 
AAAPlus said:
Yes, this! 100%



From this, I can tell you're already on the right track. You're miles ahead of most guys, maturity-wise.
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Thank you! Yes, I hope at this point it is obvious that for me, articulation is the most difficult part of the process! I'm an ISTJ. :rolleyes:
 
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I suggest a towable banner for a small aircraft. You can have them fly over as soon as service lets out.

Great way to ask her out! Girls love...umm...creativity?

Solid win!
 
BTW as far as asking someone out over facebook. I did that, and now i engaged.

BE CAREFUL.

JK

But seriously, its not as bad as you may think. Facebook is a pretty average staple in most people's communication habits. Which one is seriously the least formal? Being asked out via text message, or FB chat?

I think you are overthinking this man. :]
 
personally I'm a face to face type person and I hate texting.

I would think its weird if a guy asked to text me during the Christmas break if we hadn't hung out and talked and gotten to know each other beforehand.

maybe i'm old fashion but I like the face to face encounter to develop a relationship with another person and doing things with others more then just talking.

like going for walks, watching a movie, getting coffee, or something simple so that you don't HAVE to talk.

I like being able to be silent with another person and still feel comfortable and not pressured to talk.

I don't really like small talk.

my suggestion would be just relax and ask her out after she gets back into town to do something you both are interested in.

you can ck out what she's interested in on facebook to give you ideas for conversation starters and see where it goes.

I would focus on becoming friends and getting to know each other and if it develops into a romantic relationship then that is good but if it doesn't then you have gained a friend and you can never have too many of those.
 
CASUAL: Hey! :) Here's my #. How's your Christmas going? Text me.

INTENSE: Hi. It was great seeing you. That wasn't an accidental meeting btw. I've been stalking you for weeks. Can I sit by you at church every week? I'm asking because I saw that guy near you last time and I didn't like his face. Speaking of faces, thanks for FB friending me. I've printed out all of your pics and taped them up in my room. My mom says the cops are going to come back now, but I told her that this is waaaay different from last time because you and I really have some chemistry going. Palpable, ain't it? So anyway, I was thinking that while you're with your family this Christmas it might be a good time to see if they have any ideas for names for our kids. It's always great and never too soon to get their input. And btw you really should keep those drapes closed when you go to bed at night. And your car is leaking oil. Well, it was, but I took care of that. Aired up your tires too so you should have a safe trip home. But if you're worried, I can follow you...like I won't anyway. Hang on a minute... that was just mom again. I don't know how many times I have to tell her that if she doesn't like my barbells in her tub she should tie the goat out that's in my shower and use that. So anyway...I hope you're having a great Christmas. I hope the wine/cheese/CD/fruit/fruitcake/cake/cookie/book/candle/purse of the month clubs I signed you up for weren't too much. I tend to overdo it. I'm a giver like that. So anyway...here's my phone number. I already have yours. You left it laying around, so it was just easier. I locked the door when I left. Text me sometime. Or every few minutes. Whatever. I promise to answer them all. I was going to send you some more pics of myself, but they're not going through. Maybe you're out of memory on your phone. You know, you could dump those pics of that other guy (yeah, I've got his number too and man did I fix HIS tires) and that would give you more room for mine. Mom has my dinner ready. ttfn.
 
"intense" sounds like its time for some brother intervention and stalker prevention.

wow, just wow.
 
Helloimandrewyo said:
I suggest a towable banner for a small aircraft. You can have them fly over as soon as service lets out.

Great way to ask her out! Girls love...umm...creativity?

Solid win!
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LOL ... I supposed if I had unlimited funds and if I were at the point of asking a girl to marry me that wouldn't be a bad idea. I'll stick to simplicity for now though! :)
Jullianna said:
INTENSE: Hi. It was great seeing you. That wasn't an accidental meeting btw. I've been stalking you for weeks. Can I sit by you at church every week? I'm asking because I saw that guy near you last time and I didn't like his face. Speaking of faces, thanks for FB friending me. I've printed out all of your pics and taped them up in my room. My mom says the cops are going to come back now, but I told her that this is waaaay different from last time because you and I really have some chemistry going. Palpable, ain't it? So anyway, I was thinking that while you're with your family this Christmas it might be a good time to see if they have any ideas for names for our kids. It's always great and never too soon to get their input. And btw you really should keep those drapes closed when you go to bed at night. And your car is leaking oil. Well, it was, but I took care of that. Aired up your tires too so you should have a safe trip home. But if you're worried, I can follow you...like I won't anyway. Hang on a minute... that was just mom again. I don't know how many times I have to tell her that if she doesn't like my barbells in her tub she should tie the goat out that's in my shower and use that. So anyway...I hope you're having a great Christmas. I hope the wine/cheese/CD/fruit/fruitcake/cake/cookie/book/candle/purse of the month clubs I signed you up for weren't too much. I tend to overdo it. I'm a giver like that. So anyway...here's my phone number. I already have yours. You left it laying around, so it was just easier. I locked the door when I left. Text me sometime. Or every few minutes. Whatever. I promise to answer them all. I was going to send you some more pics of myself, but they're not going through. Maybe you're out of memory on your phone. You know, you could dump those pics of that other guy (yeah, I've got his number too and man did I fix HIS tires) and that would give you more room for mine. Mom has my dinner ready. ttfn.
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:eek: ... That sounds 100% psychopathic! :eek:
 
alienx7587 said:
I don't want to be too 'intense' and apparently nor do I want to be... not intense? :confused:
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Nah, drop the "intense" word altogether. Too ambiguous. I'd say, you want to appear interested, but not aggressive. If I was this girl, I would want the guy to message me on FB every now and then (read: once a week or 10 days) with something quick but not meaningless. Avoid talking about the weather at all costs. And then, I'd want to hang out after church for a while and just see where things went.
Liamson said:
Hmm... I've of the opposite opinion. "You with the face, lemme get your digits." <-caveman.

Shooting for a relationship, doesn't mean avoiding a friendship. It means actually getting to know someone, rather than just pursuing them romantically.

Telling a woman that you would like to get to know her more, means just that. It doesn't mean friend zone, sister box or something trivial. If you ask a woman out, without getting to know her, really it says, "I don't know you but, you look good and that's good enough to date a guy like me."

Being tactful, honest and genuine are what women should be looking for from men.
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I agree with this.

Jullianna said:
INTENSE: Hi. It was great seeing you. That wasn't an accidental meeting btw. I've been stalking you for weeks. Can I sit by you at church every week? I'm asking because I saw that guy near you last time and I didn't like his face. Speaking of faces, thanks for FB friending me. I've printed out all of your pics and taped them up in my room. My mom says the cops are going to come back now, but I told her that this is waaaay different from last time because you and I really have some chemistry going. Palpable, ain't it? So anyway, I was thinking that while you're with your family this Christmas it might be a good time to see if they have any ideas for names for our kids. It's always great and never too soon to get their input. And btw you really should keep those drapes closed when you go to bed at night. And your car is leaking oil. Well, it was, but I took care of that. Aired up your tires too so you should have a safe trip home. But if you're worried, I can follow you...like I won't anyway. Hang on a minute... that was just mom again. I don't know how many times I have to tell her that if she doesn't like my barbells in her tub she should tie the goat out that's in my shower and use that. So anyway...I hope you're having a great Christmas. I hope the wine/cheese/CD/fruit/fruitcake/cake/cookie/book/candle/purse of the month clubs I signed you up for weren't too much. I tend to overdo it. I'm a giver like that. So anyway...here's my phone number. I already have yours. You left it laying around, so it was just easier. I locked the door when I left. Text me sometime. Or every few minutes. Whatever. I promise to answer them all. I was going to send you some more pics of myself, but they're not going through. Maybe you're out of memory on your phone. You know, you could dump those pics of that other guy (yeah, I've got his number too and man did I fix HIS tires) and that would give you more room for mine. Mom has my dinner ready. ttfn.
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ROFL... but you left out the part about sending her a sim that looks like her. :p
 
Jullianna said:
I've printed out all of your pics and taped them up in my room.
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Hmmm...that part sounds kind of familiar. I knew I should have patented the intellectual rights to that! >.<

Oh well, I'll just have to think of something even more dastardly! o.O bwahahahaha
 
Jullianna said:
CASUAL: Hey! :) Here's my #. How's your Christmas going? Text me.

INTENSE: Hi. It was great seeing you. That wasn't an accidental meeting btw. I've been stalking you for weeks. Can I sit by you at church every week? I'm asking because I saw that guy near you last time and I didn't like his face. Speaking of faces, thanks for FB friending me. I've printed out all of your pics and taped them up in my room. My mom says the cops are going to come back now, but I told her that this is waaaay different from last time because you and I really have some chemistry going. Palpable, ain't it? So anyway, I was thinking that while you're with your family this Christmas it might be a good time to see if they have any ideas for names for our kids. It's always great and never too soon to get their input. And btw you really should keep those drapes closed when you go to bed at night. And your car is leaking oil. Well, it was, but I took care of that. Aired up your tires too so you should have a safe trip home. But if you're worried, I can follow you...like I won't anyway. Hang on a minute... that was just mom again. I don't know how many times I have to tell her that if she doesn't like my barbells in her tub she should tie the goat out that's in my shower and use that. So anyway...I hope you're having a great Christmas. I hope the wine/cheese/CD/fruit/fruitcake/cake/cookie/book/candle/purse of the month clubs I signed you up for weren't too much. I tend to overdo it. I'm a giver like that. So anyway...here's my phone number. I already have yours. You left it laying around, so it was just easier. I locked the door when I left. Text me sometime. Or every few minutes. Whatever. I promise to answer them all. I was going to send you some more pics of myself, but they're not going through. Maybe you're out of memory on your phone. You know, you could dump those pics of that other guy (yeah, I've got his number too and man did I fix HIS tires) and that would give you more room for mine. Mom has my dinner ready. ttfn.
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*dies laughing*
 
Jullianna said:
CASUAL: Hey! :) Here's my #. How's your Christmas going? Text me.

INTENSE: Hi. It was great seeing you. That wasn't an accidental meeting btw. I've been stalking you for weeks. Can I sit by you at church every week? I'm asking because I saw that guy near you last time and I didn't like his face. Speaking of faces, thanks for FB friending me. I've printed out all of your pics and taped them up in my room. My mom says the cops are going to come back now, but I told her that this is waaaay different from last time because you and I really have some chemistry going. Palpable, ain't it? So anyway, I was thinking that while you're with your family this Christmas it might be a good time to see if they have any ideas for names for our kids. It's always great and never too soon to get their input. And btw you really should keep those drapes closed when you go to bed at night. And your car is leaking oil. Well, it was, but I took care of that. Aired up your tires too so you should have a safe trip home. But if you're worried, I can follow you...like I won't anyway. Hang on a minute... that was just mom again. I don't know how many times I have to tell her that if she doesn't like my barbells in her tub she should tie the goat out that's in my shower and use that. So anyway...I hope you're having a great Christmas. I hope the wine/cheese/CD/fruit/fruitcake/cake/cookie/book/candle/purse of the month clubs I signed you up for weren't too much. I tend to overdo it. I'm a giver like that. So anyway...here's my phone number. I already have yours. You left it laying around, so it was just easier. I locked the door when I left. Text me sometime. Or every few minutes. Whatever. I promise to answer them all. I was going to send you some more pics of myself, but they're not going through. Maybe you're out of memory on your phone. You know, you could dump those pics of that other guy (yeah, I've got his number too and man did I fix HIS tires) and that would give you more room for mine. Mom has my dinner ready. ttfn.
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How did you find that?!?! When I was served my restraint order they told me that letter was going to remain confidential...I mean eerrrr ummm, GOTTA GO!


Too funny, thanks for the laugh. Now I feel like typing up the "PASSIVE" approach
 
PASSIVE: So hey

...wow..I'm out of peanut butter again....

So it was good to see you at the thing for the thing...errr..you know...whatever. What was I sayin? Oh yea.. here's my number if you #$Dcnfrgnv ...sorry..dropped my controller..almost to the next level. So..text me. I'm mean *shrug* if ya want.
 
alienx7587 said:
Hmm.. well, I still have not heard back from her. Oh well, thanks for the input all. :)
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You really have to ask for her number. Girls simply WILL NOT call or text a guy first, unless they already find the guy dreamy. Believe me, I know this from experience.
 
zeroturbulence said:
You really have to ask for her number. Girls simply WILL NOT call or text a guy first, unless they already find the guy dreamy. Believe me, I know this from experience.
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Yeah, maybe if I still feel compelled to do so in a month I'll ask. I don't want to sound pushy though. After all, the ball is in her court, so to speak. I'm not too bothered about it though, I have other priorities. :)
 
See_KING_Truth said:
How did you find that?!?! When I was served my restraint order they told me that letter was going to remain confidential...I mean eerrrr ummm, GOTTA GO!


Too funny, thanks for the laugh. Now I feel like typing up the "PASSIVE" approach
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Hahahahahaha!!! And I thought that the bit you responded to was funny....you guys all cracked me up :)
 
Jullianna said:
PASSIVE: So hey

...wow..I'm out of peanut butter again....

So it was good to see you at the thing for the thing...errr..you know...whatever. What was I sayin? Oh yea.. here's my number if you #$Dcnfrgnv ...sorry..dropped my controller..almost to the next level. So..text me. I'm mean *shrug* if ya want.
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This is more like it Jules ;)

Hey ummm Hi...I was just thinking about our meeting the other day. You are an amazing woman, maybe the feeling is mutual, but I doubt it. I have been thinking about asking you if you wanted to hang out or something sometime, but I didn't think you would go for it. At first, I was just going to ask you for your number, but I wouldn't be able to bear any rejection. Even if you did give me your number I don't think you would answer any of my calls or texts. I would really like to talk sometime if you would just give me the time of day. You probably think I am a creep or something. I am not sure why, but when I approach women they usually look at me like I need a shrink, all the while I am thinking "Is it something I said? What did I do?! I knew this was going to happen again! AHHH!!!" Friends have told me that I am extremely insecure and overly sensitive...they are probably right.
 
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