Since when is a marriage between two people ever brought on by pure selflessness? No, that's not how it works in the real world. Women want to be told: I want you. They want to be wanted. Is that selfless? No. It's selfish. Same goes for men. They want to be wanted and cared for. What reason would an ideal marriage selflessly come together for? How about a marriage of peace to unite to countries? sure. that works. What about for the rest of us? There wouldn't be 10% of the marriages we have now if they were all purely selfless. I can see the ideal though. Fun to play with.
I wanted to formulate a response to this without derailing the thread
and it's haaaaaard lol
Maybe because English isn't my first language
Here goes...
My love for God has created a desire in me to die to my self everyday;
with the Holy Spirit leading me to not live my life by the standards of this world.
And so Yes, I believe all types of love in its purest form manifest pure selflessness.
That was how Christ demonstrated His love for the Father
for His friends, for His family, for His persecutors... for the Church.
Sadly, the real world think that idea is ridiculous.
While I cannot say I selflessly love everybody around me,
I do try to let God use me to express His love to the people around me.
Now, as for marital aspects..
I believe God orchestrated marriage for His greater glory;
to symbolize the union of Christ and His church.
Marriage doesn't exist just for us to live happily ever after and have awesome virtuous sex.
There is more to it than just that.
Joy, peace, and genuine contentment in marriage only comes when the couple
seek God and His will more than anything else.
We did discuss it a while back. You might be able to drag up the old thread if you want some other people's opinions. Search for Ritter's "marital hedonism" genesis and you'll find that thread!!
