Ok I have seen the movie and thought this would make a good topic of discussion. Maybe its better off in the ladies forum but I figured maybe a male POV might be good to consider as well
If you've seen the original, with Lindsey Lohan, or the musical with Renee Rap or the broadway version...basically it's about cliques and being popular and girls bullying each other under the guise of friendship.
so the new girl goes to school where she doesn't know all the rules of how to behave and make friends - she's been homeschooled up to then. Not christian homeschooled but living in Africa homeschooled - and she goes to the US as her parents are now transferred from their antrhropology studies and it's her first day of school and it's a complete culture shock.
Isn't this what it's like when you join a church for the first time, and you are single and on your own? You don't have family or friends already there and it's kind of like sink or swim.
You make friends instantly perhaps as people are curious about the new girl. But how do you navigate the gossip, the cliques and the unwritten rules of social behavior? Unlike in the movie, where Cady Herons breaks the rules of feminism or the Plastics by going out with Regina's ex boyfriend, what happens if you break the rules of the church patriarchy, and unknowingly sabotage your salvation, and perhaps hopes of getting married or making true friends or whatever.
Discuss...
ps. I personally do not know if other christian women have done this, like stolen somebody else's ex, but the movie was also about other things, like changing yourself or being made over to fit in. Is there like a 'Plastics' clique in your church? Did people gossip about you? Have you ever had a friendship failure in church or been taken advantage of?
If you've seen the original, with Lindsey Lohan, or the musical with Renee Rap or the broadway version...basically it's about cliques and being popular and girls bullying each other under the guise of friendship.
so the new girl goes to school where she doesn't know all the rules of how to behave and make friends - she's been homeschooled up to then. Not christian homeschooled but living in Africa homeschooled - and she goes to the US as her parents are now transferred from their antrhropology studies and it's her first day of school and it's a complete culture shock.
Isn't this what it's like when you join a church for the first time, and you are single and on your own? You don't have family or friends already there and it's kind of like sink or swim.
You make friends instantly perhaps as people are curious about the new girl. But how do you navigate the gossip, the cliques and the unwritten rules of social behavior? Unlike in the movie, where Cady Herons breaks the rules of feminism or the Plastics by going out with Regina's ex boyfriend, what happens if you break the rules of the church patriarchy, and unknowingly sabotage your salvation, and perhaps hopes of getting married or making true friends or whatever.
Discuss...
ps. I personally do not know if other christian women have done this, like stolen somebody else's ex, but the movie was also about other things, like changing yourself or being made over to fit in. Is there like a 'Plastics' clique in your church? Did people gossip about you? Have you ever had a friendship failure in church or been taken advantage of?
I have a sad take to tell . I went into a congregation that was desperate to get me in and baptised . Once I was in everything changed . I was single , 24 , slim , gorgeous and green . The congregation was mostly older people who had been members for generations . It was a patriarchy but I was ok with that and understood why , it was all Bible based . I thought they were all wonderful and was a bit shocked when it got quite chilly in there . Apparently I was offending left right and centre and had no clue , everything from what I wore to how I buttered bread . One elderly lady and one middle aged couple were very nice to me , they were the least liked members of the congregation before I came along 
. I left after about 6 years because I met my husband who wasn't a member , after I left , the 3 people that befriended me told me just a couple of the things that were said about me behind my back while I was still a member there . I was genuinely shocked my clothes , my accent everything was ripped apart . I also found out about a few of the affairs that had gone on amongst these good folks 
. I have forgiven them all but , I don't think I could go back after knowing what they said about me . They didn't like me then , why should they now ?
