calmador,
well, i know of a few places where you'll find lots of modesty, and many, many burqas. seriously, though...
if there are women that you know who dress that way and have a good relationship with them, maybe you should share your thoughts in a loving way. have you considered the thought that they simply don't know any better? that they are living what they think is what is expected of them, or the standard for which they measure themselves against?
i wasn't raised with values of modesty, but rather, the opposite. i was taught that it was "stupid to cover up what God gave me". i was that a woman's value is first and foremost, what can be seen.
i would encourage you to think about the fact that girls who dress that way are usually doing so because they've been taught that it is either acceptable, or even ideal. they're trying to measure up to what the world says women should be--to be seen of value by the primary currency our world respects. and once you've been doing that for a bit, you really don't even think about it any more.
when i see women who are walking in walmart with their chest jacked up to their chin and wearing tiny shorts, i say a prayer for them. i actually hurt for them, because i have a notion of what it feels like to be in their shoes, and believe that this is their path to acceptance and value.
so many women are so needy for attention and validation they are seeking it in what is probably the most natural way for them to get it. and the world applauds that. the world not only teaches it, but it has so pervasively made female beauty the measuring stick of women's value, that in this day and age, you have to almost have a rebellious spirit (or a very strong faith) to reject it that path.
if you want to know the truth, it takes courage and a lot of self-respect for women not to play that card in this world--especially for young women who are more subject to peer pressure and the very visually-driven social media-crazy world we live in. it's SO much easier to conform to the worlds' standards, especially if you've experienced that kind of validation before.
as a christian, when i grew in spiritual maturity, i radically changed how i dressed because i know it pleases God to respect ourselves, our bodies and to honor him with our words and actions, show loving support to our brothers, as well as preserve our testimony. today, i cringe when i think about how i used to dress --but that feels like a lifetime ago. but just like you, we are all on a path to becoming more christ-like.
before you get angry next time, please think about the soul of that woman. if she's a christian, she's still learning about spiritual maturity and how to separate from the world and it's standards. i would even challenge you to pray for that woman, because she needs to be viewed through the lens of mercy, grace and acceptance, just like i did, and just like you do.
and if that woman isn't a christian, i hope that you can see beyond her bikini, and see her as a truly lost soul. because if we were all just as lost as she is, the very last thing on our minds would be modesty, and it would be the least of our problems.