My Sociology professor said that men should not kneel down when they propose to a woman.

[LittleMermaid]

I hope the guy that proposes to me gets on one knee. I have been thinking about it since I was about 5 years old...he better do it right!
I think there is a difference between kneeling and bowing. When a man proposes, he is not bowing down to a woman. He is simply showing his respect and admiration for the lady.

 

[zeroturbulence]

But ladies.... please don't kneel with him. That's not how it works.

 

[Dino246]

... As for your professor, a man, being a feminist, that term usually applies to females and not males...

Canada's (male) Prime Minister identifies as a feminist. At least he won't identify as PM much longer.

 

[TabinRivCA]

Marriage is a serious business and commitment to give himself selflessly.

That's why proposing in an exorcist walk position, instead of bending one knee, is more "romantic"
because you are literally bending over backward for her, showing your commitment in an unequivocal manner.

While I have hard time bending my mid-section, I am getting there, slowly.



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Newsflash....this is the opposite of romantic, lol.

 

[Krumbeard]

Newsflash....this is the opposite of romantic, lol.

Would it help if he wore a wrestling singlet?

 

[melita916]

My husband didn’t kneel when he proposed.

 

[TabinRivCA]

Would it help if he wore a wrestling singlet?

It might appeal to someone else who's into gymnastics or yoga, lol.

 

[Lynx]

But ladies.... please don't kneel with him. That's not how it works.

I think I recall this clip, and it didn't end well at all...

 

[Socreta93]

I'm just trying to process "My professor is a feminist" and "He said a person should only bow to one person, God."

Those two statements are contradictory. Perhaps your definition of "feminist" and mine are very different.

There is no obligation on the man to kneel when proposing. If a woman rejects his proposal just because he doesn't kneel, he does well to accept her rejection and move on... quickly.

It's his definition not me

 

[Socreta93]

I'm trying to figure out this professor and his take on the whole thing. What does he think the significance of a man kneeling is? He obviously deemed it important enough that he formed an opinion and stance on the matter, then essayed to educate his class on this matter. But WHY? Why did he think it was important enough for this much attention and effort?

We were learning about patriarchy and he decided to just use this as an example of it.

 

[Dino246]

It's his definition not me

Fair enough. There's usually little danger of anyone claiming to be a feminist using a standard definition for anything. It inhibits their ability to justify their offense.

 

[NLT518]

Marriage is about service to your spouse. You put their needs before yours. If a man is asking a woman to accept him as her lifelong lover, protector and provider, it makes sense that he would display an act of humility such as getting down on one knee. He will spend the rest of his marriage humbling himself for his wife and crucifying his own wants and needs in order to build and nourish her, so humbling himself when he asks her is appropriate. Besides, the question is so weighty and life changing. He has bared his heart and become vulnerable for her, and in that moment, he is at her mercy.

I fully intend to get down on one knee when I propose to the woman I love.

Very well said.

 

[Lynx]

We were learning about patriarchy and he decided to just use this as an example of it.

Ah thank you. That makes a LOT more sense!

 

[tourist]

Canada's (male) Prime Minister identifies as a feminist. At least he won't identify as PM much longer.

Maybe he has feminine qualities.

 

[Dino246]

Maybe he has feminine qualities.

I wouldn't demean women by calling his qualities "feminine".

 

[love_comes_softly]

I don't have anything against kneeling or not kneeling. It's certainly sweet in my eyes. I understand to some, it's something they've dreamed about or even imagined doing for a special girl someday, but in all honesty, does it really matter? Does it really say he's less of a man for doing so? No.

If this a true belief of his beyond being an example in class, I'd say because it matters so much to him, it makes me think he must have hurts or had a bad relationships with women in the past. Just a guess.

 

[cwizzle07]

Marriage is about service to your spouse. You put their needs before yours. If a man is asking a woman to accept him as her lifelong lover, protector and provider, it makes sense that he would display an act of humility such as getting down on one knee. He will spend the rest of his marriage humbling himself for his wife and crucifying his own wants and needs in order to build and nourish her, so humbling himself when he asks her is appropriate. Besides, the question is so weighty and life changing. He has bared his heart and become vulnerable for her, and in that moment, he is at her mercy.

I fully intend to get down on one knee when I propose to the woman I love.

Lucky girl