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Since high school, I have struggled with sexual immorality. Sexual sin has been a plague on my life that has caused me to fallen so many times. There have been times where my walk with the Lord has been great, but then I fall into temptation and give in.
I really want to get to the point where I can just flee from temptation. I don’t want to sin like this any more. Pornography has always been my downfall. I just need help.
 
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There is a resurrection of the dead coming. Yes, dead people coming back to life. Those who have done good to the resurrection of life and those who have done evil to the resurrection of judgement.

John 5:28-29
Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming when all who are in their graves will hear His voice and come out—those who have done good to the resurrection of life, and those who have done evil to the resurrection of judgment.
God (Jesus) will reward each person according to their (in bold)

Romans 2:6-8
God “will repay each one according to his deeds.” To those who by perseverance in doing good seek glory, honor, and immortality, He will give eternal life. But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow wickedness, there will be wrath and anger.
Jesus will even judge men's secrets

Romans 2:16
on the day when God will judge men’s secrets through Christ Jesus, as proclaimed by my gospel.
It is also true that when we inevitably sin, we become slaves to sin.

John 8:34 Jesus replied, “Truly, truly, I tell you, everyone who sins is a slave to sin.
I was there too, I had a bad porn addiction, multiple times a day and asking God to forgive me yet still doing it. When we are slaves to sin, it is like how a wife is subject to her husband, obeying its desires. It is sin in you doing it.

Romans 7:15-17
I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not do. But what I hate, I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I admit that the law is good. In that case, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
Sound familiar?

Good news is that sin does not have to reign over us because Jesus Christ, the Son of God, was tortured and died to save us from our sins which lead to death, and rose again in three days alive forevermore, holding with Him the keys of death and hades. When someone dies, their spouse is free to remarry. In a similar way, when we die, we become freed from the law and thus sin.

Romans 7:2 For instance, a married woman is bound by law to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage.

Romans 7:4 Therefore, my brothers, you also died to the law through the body of Christ, that you might belong to another, to Him who was raised from the dead, in order that we might bear fruit to God.

Romans 6:7 For anyone who has died has been freed from sin.

So we must die then. This is how we die without being lost

Romans 6:3-7
Or aren’t you aware that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? We were therefore buried with Him through baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may walk in newness of life.

For if we have been united with Him like this in His death, we will certainly also be united with Him in His resurrection. We know that our old self was crucified with Him so that the body of sin might be rendered powerless, that we should no longer be slaves to sin. For anyone who has died has been freed from sin.

I will add, from what I have seen, real repentance is key to a real baptism. It is the difference between coming out of baptism a new person or the same person.

Note what is conjoined here

Acts 2:38
Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.
Furthermore, even though a man named Cornelius received the Holy Spirit apparently before his baptism in Acts 10, Paul baptized and laid hands on disciples before they received the Holy Spirit. I think it shows that it's probably a good idea to have hands laid on you by disciple of Jesus with faith in prayer after baptism.

Acts 19:5-6
On hearing this, they were baptized into the name of the Lord Jesus. And when Paul laid his hands on them, the Holy Spirit came upon them, and they spoke in tongues and prophesied.
I got baptized in 2014 while experiencing something horrible and after repenting. Since then I had sex with my ex once in 2015 and did not really enjoy it. No sex, masturbation, drunkenness, watching mma, etc. Is that something you'd be interested in? Yes I have messed up since then with anger for example but I repented and can see improvement imo (unlike with porn where I seemed to be getting worse), and yes I am still in a war with satan so it is not always a bed of roses, but God is faithful and So merciful. No I am not boasting, because it is only by God through Jesus Christ that I am able to bear any useful fruit.

It sounds like you believe the Gospel. In addition to freedom from sins, when we believe Jesus Christ there is forgiveness for sins through His Name.

Acts 10:43
All the prophets testify about Him that everyone who believes in Him receives forgiveness of sins through His name.”

Romans 10:9-10
that if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with your heart you believe and are justified, and with your mouth you confess and are saved.

Matthew 10:32-33
Therefore everyone who confesses Me before men, I will also confess him before My Father in heaven. But whoever denies Me before men, I will also deny him before My Father in heaven.
But we also must forgive or we will not be forgiven (Matthew 6:15).

In addition to all of this, walk according to the Spirit. When we are freed from sins, we can walk according to the Spirit, yet we can choose to sow to please the flesh. If we sow to please the Spirit, from the Spirit we will reap (in bold)

Galatians 6:8
The one who sows to please his flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; but the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
Amen.
 

SonLight_Wolf

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Lots of advice here. That's good.

If you can consent to the sexual stuff you say you're trying to stop , you can stop.

You live with the guilt. You're worth more than that.

No one is worth it when you feel horrible long after you feel pleasure.

When you feel tempted knowing how you feel about yourself after just say , THIS IS STUPID, really loud to yourself.
Otherwise if you shout it where people can hear they will think you're weird.
 

Bingo

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"Thank you for showing up. I hope and pray you come to learn what is needed in
your life. :unsure:
"And I learned long ago when my life was out of order and had become unmanageable,
and I needed help. I made the decision to put myself in God's care...Thank God!

And now, twenty -three years later, I am grateful of this spiritual journey! 'Here in the Now'
I have shared many things here and across other social media outlets, and in doing
so, my spiritual awareness of God greatly helps me to stay focused on practicing the 'principles of life'
of which His teachings have been told of....to be put into action!"
"Thank God...I came...I came to...I came to believe...
'Bingo'..."Believe I need God, Ok." :)



 

Thusiserve

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Welcome to CC! I believe you will find a good community of believers here that can help you on your journey. I pray many blessings for you. We are ALL striving!
 

GRACE_ambassador

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Since high school, I have struggled with sexual immorality.
Precious friend, A Very Warm Welcome To Chat.

I will pray for you. A Lot More Scripture reading and studying
(see links below) = A LOT LESS sin, submitting To The LORD, and
Resting In Him, Daily!:


Please Be Very RICHLY Encouraged And Edified In
The LORD JESUS CHRIST, And His Word Of Truth, Rightly
Divided
(+ I and II).

Grace, Peace, And JOY!...
 

listenyoumustAll

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Since high school, I have struggled with sexual immorality. Sexual sin has been a plague on my life that has caused me to fallen so many times. There have been times where my walk with the Lord has been great, but then I fall into temptation and give in.
I really want to get to the point where I can just flee from temptation. I don’t want to sin like this any more. Pornography has always been my downfall. I just need help.
Friend please be comforted, the Holy communion sanctifies your flesh. Remember Jesus said this is my body. Should anytime you fall remember that. Don't condemn yourself when Jesus doesn't condemn you? GOD sees your struggles. In time every entanglement will be burnt as the believer ascends in faith
. Jesus did a good work truly.
 

TabinRivCA

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Welcome and so glad the Lord led you to CC where you can get good advise😊 As long as we are in the flesh we will be tempted, the 'flesh warring against the spirit'. There's a lot of good responses here and I would add to remember that any sin interferes with your spiritual walk. Cut off sources where you have access to enticing stuff and know they are forced scenarios to steal your thoughts. Ask God for help, I did, for a similar weakness, and He will help you too. God bless, keep and guide you through this!🙏
 

oyster67

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Since high school, I have struggled with sexual immorality. Sexual sin has been a plague on my life that has caused me to fallen so many times. There have been times where my walk with the Lord has been great, but then I fall into temptation and give in.
I really want to get to the point where I can just flee from temptation. I don’t want to sin like this any more. Pornography has always been my downfall. I just need help.
The "I don’t want to sin like this" is what makes the difference between sinner and saint. Do your best and sooner or later God will give you the victory. Be a good soldier and never give up. All things are possible with God... in His good time. Life is a battle for every soldier of the cross.

Romans 7:21- 8:2

21 I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.
22 For I delight in the law of God after the inward man:
23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
24 O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death?
25 I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin.

1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.

Welcome, dear brother. (y):coffee:
 

Evmur

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Since high school, I have struggled with sexual immorality. Sexual sin has been a plague on my life that has caused me to fallen so many times. There have been times where my walk with the Lord has been great, but then I fall into temptation and give in.
I really want to get to the point where I can just flee from temptation. I don’t want to sin like this any more. Pornography has always been my downfall. I just need help.
Don't flee, stand your ground, resist the devil and he will flee from you.

Oh I'm reminded of something that happened to me as a lad.

I had a beautiful labrador/spaniel, man he was a handsome fella and tough [but soppy like a spaniel] One day we were all out playing he was off the lead when I saw a huge alsation approaching, he looked ready for a fight.

I said "blimey Maj he is going to kill you" at that Major took fright and started to run, I said "don't run, I can't help you if you run" [my dog understood everything I said to him :)] I said "stand your ground, he won't want to take us both on" and I sarted swishing the dog chain at the huge dog, "g'wan git out of it"

And he did.

Your victory is in KNOWING, knowing that this sin is dealt with at the cross, you are clean, always in God's eyes you will be as pure as the driven snow ... as righteous in God's eyes as Jesus Himself. Nothing can take that away from you.

People call this the license to sin ... but you are sinning without a license.

No this knowledge will fill you with joy and thanksgiving, you will have peace . Just confess it, tell the devil especially that Jesu's blood has washed away this sin.

It may take a little time, a little practice but if you will hold on, I promise you, this sin will fall away. You will be victorious.
 

Evmur

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Don't flee, stand your ground, resist the devil and he will flee from you.

Oh I'm reminded of something that happened to me as a lad.

I had a beautiful labrador/spaniel, man he was a handsome fella and tough [but soppy like a spaniel] One day we were all out playing he was off the lead when I saw a huge alsation approaching, he looked ready for a fight.

I said "blimey Maj he is going to kill you" at that Major took fright and started to run, I said "don't run, I can't help you if you run" [my dog understood everything I said to him :)] I said "stand your ground, he won't want to take us both on" and I sarted swishing the dog chain at the huge dog, "g'wan git out of it"

And he did.

Your victory is in KNOWING, knowing that this sin is dealt with at the cross, you are clean, always in God's eyes you will be as pure as the driven snow ... as righteous in God's eyes as Jesus Himself. Nothing can take that away from you.

People call this the license to sin ... but you are sinning without a license.

No this knowledge will fill you with joy and thanksgiving, you will have peace . Just confess it, tell the devil especially that Jesu's blood has washed away this sin.

It may take a little time, a little practice but if you will hold on, I promise you, this sin will fall away. You will be victorious.
And welcome :)