Let me add some context to this before I get into the meat of this:
I asked for advise on here a while ago about a woman I dated this past year in late Summer (ask for details later about it later). For those that might remember me, I thought things were going to work out, but ultimately did not. That woman I dated is not a Christian and she has so many more things going on with her than what I thought. Her sister, who I'm friends with, told me quite a bit about that woman's past and let's just say things turned out for the best this way. Her sister told me I didn't do anything wrong, which was a relief, but rather the woman I dated, and I was told by the sister that the woman now regrets ending the relationship. But I won't gloat about that nor mock any of the problems she is having right now. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Anyway, the reason I brought that up is because of this:
The week before I went out with the woman I dated for the last time, I happened to meet another woman at my place of employment. At the time, I didn't think much of her because I was preoccupied thinking about the woman I was already dating. Although, this other woman is nice, soft spoken, and pretty. After a few weeks, I didn't see her for awhile and during that period of time I was in the dumps because the woman I dated and I called off our relationship (and I really liked her to the point I cared about the person). My co-workers were trying to cheer me up. One of them talked about the woman that came in and was coming back in to do some business. She did and we got to talking, but time was limited and didn't get to know more about her. However, I enjoyed talking to her and I found out she's a Christian and attends church regularly. So that was good to know. After that day, though, I hadn't seen nor heard from her in awhile.
Fast forward 2-3 months later. With this pandemic going on, it was hard to go out and meet people. After the woman I was dating, I wanted to get back in the game. Unfortunately, there wasn't much to go on. I even tried to online date on several sites, but nothing came of any of it during that time between late Summer to about late Fall-early Winter. When I was looking for a place that had some place where people can gather, there's a church close by to where I live that holds Sunday evening services. I knew of the church but never attended any of the services (I go to where my brother preaches), so I thought I'd go and check it out. When I did, I met new people, some who already knew my family, some who I've never met before, and some that were familiar faces I've seen come through work. That same night, that woman I met during time I was dating someone else was there.
She didn't recognize me at first (because of the mask and it's been a few months) but then she remembered. I found out a few things about her: her dad is the head pastor of that church (and a good and smart man) and she worked for the Christian school that was connected to it as a music teacher. She also enjoys the outdoors when the weather is cooler, and plays guitar and piano. Her mom is also a faculty member for that school and is the pianist for the church services. Again, because of time, we haven't had a chance to talk much. My workload for Mondays can be hectic, so I haven't imposed myself on her. Slowly, though we've been greeting each other every time meet and have talked a few times. Needless to say, I'm trying to take it slow (but not too slow) and not rush her.
So this is where I'm at now with her:
She's single, my age, no kids, has not been married, a (head) pastor's daughter works, shares many beliefs and values that I carry (FAR more than the other woman), musically gifted, a good person, a good family, and she accepts Jesus Christ as her Lord and personal Savior (and she's pretty, which is a nice bonus). I'm sure she's not perfect, but who is in today's world, so that doesn't bother me. Can't say if she's rebellious because, well, I haven't seen it from her, despite the stereotyped reputations of kids of pastors/preachers (I'm already witnessing my brother's two little boys). Otherwise, if she was, I wouldn't be telling people all this and I probably would have passed on her long ago, so I don't have any fear of the rebellious child vibes coming from her.
Now, I never tried to court a daughter of a pastor, let alone ever been interested in one. How do I approach this? I'm pretty sure I'll be seeing her again this or next Sunday night, but I don't know how to engage her a little more, just knowing what I know now. I'm keeping my options open, sure, and it wouldn't be the end of the world if I didn't make it with her. But this one has me the most interested, more so than the last woman I dated (and that one I knew since we were kids). Any piece of advise would be helpful, and, to be honest, this may be the first good woman I've been interested in for a long time (and, man, was I a fool falling for the bad ones). So please, tell what you would do in this situation and pray that, no matter what happens, things will go smoothly. Thanks!
I asked for advise on here a while ago about a woman I dated this past year in late Summer (ask for details later about it later). For those that might remember me, I thought things were going to work out, but ultimately did not. That woman I dated is not a Christian and she has so many more things going on with her than what I thought. Her sister, who I'm friends with, told me quite a bit about that woman's past and let's just say things turned out for the best this way. Her sister told me I didn't do anything wrong, which was a relief, but rather the woman I dated, and I was told by the sister that the woman now regrets ending the relationship. But I won't gloat about that nor mock any of the problems she is having right now. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Anyway, the reason I brought that up is because of this:
The week before I went out with the woman I dated for the last time, I happened to meet another woman at my place of employment. At the time, I didn't think much of her because I was preoccupied thinking about the woman I was already dating. Although, this other woman is nice, soft spoken, and pretty. After a few weeks, I didn't see her for awhile and during that period of time I was in the dumps because the woman I dated and I called off our relationship (and I really liked her to the point I cared about the person). My co-workers were trying to cheer me up. One of them talked about the woman that came in and was coming back in to do some business. She did and we got to talking, but time was limited and didn't get to know more about her. However, I enjoyed talking to her and I found out she's a Christian and attends church regularly. So that was good to know. After that day, though, I hadn't seen nor heard from her in awhile.
Fast forward 2-3 months later. With this pandemic going on, it was hard to go out and meet people. After the woman I was dating, I wanted to get back in the game. Unfortunately, there wasn't much to go on. I even tried to online date on several sites, but nothing came of any of it during that time between late Summer to about late Fall-early Winter. When I was looking for a place that had some place where people can gather, there's a church close by to where I live that holds Sunday evening services. I knew of the church but never attended any of the services (I go to where my brother preaches), so I thought I'd go and check it out. When I did, I met new people, some who already knew my family, some who I've never met before, and some that were familiar faces I've seen come through work. That same night, that woman I met during time I was dating someone else was there.
She didn't recognize me at first (because of the mask and it's been a few months) but then she remembered. I found out a few things about her: her dad is the head pastor of that church (and a good and smart man) and she worked for the Christian school that was connected to it as a music teacher. She also enjoys the outdoors when the weather is cooler, and plays guitar and piano. Her mom is also a faculty member for that school and is the pianist for the church services. Again, because of time, we haven't had a chance to talk much. My workload for Mondays can be hectic, so I haven't imposed myself on her. Slowly, though we've been greeting each other every time meet and have talked a few times. Needless to say, I'm trying to take it slow (but not too slow) and not rush her.
So this is where I'm at now with her:
She's single, my age, no kids, has not been married, a (head) pastor's daughter works, shares many beliefs and values that I carry (FAR more than the other woman), musically gifted, a good person, a good family, and she accepts Jesus Christ as her Lord and personal Savior (and she's pretty, which is a nice bonus). I'm sure she's not perfect, but who is in today's world, so that doesn't bother me. Can't say if she's rebellious because, well, I haven't seen it from her, despite the stereotyped reputations of kids of pastors/preachers (I'm already witnessing my brother's two little boys). Otherwise, if she was, I wouldn't be telling people all this and I probably would have passed on her long ago, so I don't have any fear of the rebellious child vibes coming from her.
Now, I never tried to court a daughter of a pastor, let alone ever been interested in one. How do I approach this? I'm pretty sure I'll be seeing her again this or next Sunday night, but I don't know how to engage her a little more, just knowing what I know now. I'm keeping my options open, sure, and it wouldn't be the end of the world if I didn't make it with her. But this one has me the most interested, more so than the last woman I dated (and that one I knew since we were kids). Any piece of advise would be helpful, and, to be honest, this may be the first good woman I've been interested in for a long time (and, man, was I a fool falling for the bad ones). So please, tell what you would do in this situation and pray that, no matter what happens, things will go smoothly. Thanks!