Hello Everyone,
There has been somethings on my mind for quite sometime regarding the person I am seeing and don't want to seem like I am overreacting. I been dating this Woman since late April of last year and we started out great spending time together and getting to know each other. We would talk about pretty anything particularly the good and bad about ourselves and what we have been through. The relationship seem to be progressing well with its ups and downs along the way but over the last couple of months things have been different. Her demeanor towards me has been different. So much so that she has been talking to me in a condescending manner sometimes even in public. She use to be affectionate with me in a non sexual way of course with hugs and kisses but now I barely even get a hug. When my birthday came in November we did go out but it did seem like her mind was someplace else. In the same month I thought we would spend our first Thanksgiving together but she decided to go out of town for the holiday. I was disappointed about that as I really want to spend that time with her but even though she decided to go out of town and leave me alone she asked me to watch over her dogs and look after her house while she was gone. At the time I was really puzzled by that but being the good guy that I am I said I would do it. So after she returned I pretty much let it go and just wanted to focus on moving forward but some of the problems were still there in how she was speaking to me especially in public. As Christmas was approaching I thought again we would have the chance to spend our first Major holiday together but again she decided to take a trip out of town. Now granted it was to visit her soon and new born grandson which I can understand but she never even talked to me about leaving or the fact that she was living me alone with no family around me for the holidays. This really started making me look at her a little harder in some areas. Recently I sent her a text message asking her how she was doing and if she wanted to go out to the movies with me Tomorrow. I didn't get a response back from her which I thought was a little odd as she usually does within a reasonable amount of time. At first I thought maybe she just can't respond back because she was in the middle of something important but then several hours went by and still no response then I started thinking maybe something happen as I was starting to worry. Over 6 hours had pass and just as I was about to call her she phoned me. When she talked to me she sounded a little off in how she was speaking to me and didn't even acknowledge the text I sent her or apologize for not responding sooner. A minute into the call she ended up telling me that she was going out to dinner with a friend(Male) of hers from out of town on the day I wanted to take her out. She said this is someone she knew way back and they are going out also with her best friend and husband so this appears to be a double date. This was the reason she didn't respond back to me sooner. I was not expecting her to tell me this. I have so many emotions running threw my head right now. Needless to say I am very upset about this but didn't show this. I want to talk to her about this but I am running really hot right now and needed to take sometime to think before I took any action. Is this overreacting? I don't think so but maybe an outside perception can see something else as well. I appreciate any and all response!!
AZO..
There has been somethings on my mind for quite sometime regarding the person I am seeing and don't want to seem like I am overreacting. I been dating this Woman since late April of last year and we started out great spending time together and getting to know each other. We would talk about pretty anything particularly the good and bad about ourselves and what we have been through. The relationship seem to be progressing well with its ups and downs along the way but over the last couple of months things have been different. Her demeanor towards me has been different. So much so that she has been talking to me in a condescending manner sometimes even in public. She use to be affectionate with me in a non sexual way of course with hugs and kisses but now I barely even get a hug. When my birthday came in November we did go out but it did seem like her mind was someplace else. In the same month I thought we would spend our first Thanksgiving together but she decided to go out of town for the holiday. I was disappointed about that as I really want to spend that time with her but even though she decided to go out of town and leave me alone she asked me to watch over her dogs and look after her house while she was gone. At the time I was really puzzled by that but being the good guy that I am I said I would do it. So after she returned I pretty much let it go and just wanted to focus on moving forward but some of the problems were still there in how she was speaking to me especially in public. As Christmas was approaching I thought again we would have the chance to spend our first Major holiday together but again she decided to take a trip out of town. Now granted it was to visit her soon and new born grandson which I can understand but she never even talked to me about leaving or the fact that she was living me alone with no family around me for the holidays. This really started making me look at her a little harder in some areas. Recently I sent her a text message asking her how she was doing and if she wanted to go out to the movies with me Tomorrow. I didn't get a response back from her which I thought was a little odd as she usually does within a reasonable amount of time. At first I thought maybe she just can't respond back because she was in the middle of something important but then several hours went by and still no response then I started thinking maybe something happen as I was starting to worry. Over 6 hours had pass and just as I was about to call her she phoned me. When she talked to me she sounded a little off in how she was speaking to me and didn't even acknowledge the text I sent her or apologize for not responding sooner. A minute into the call she ended up telling me that she was going out to dinner with a friend(Male) of hers from out of town on the day I wanted to take her out. She said this is someone she knew way back and they are going out also with her best friend and husband so this appears to be a double date. This was the reason she didn't respond back to me sooner. I was not expecting her to tell me this. I have so many emotions running threw my head right now. Needless to say I am very upset about this but didn't show this. I want to talk to her about this but I am running really hot right now and needed to take sometime to think before I took any action. Is this overreacting? I don't think so but maybe an outside perception can see something else as well. I appreciate any and all response!!
AZO..