I am just wondering what is the meaning of flirt/to flirt/flirting maybe I am wrong but I will try my own understanding about the word flir/flirting... When I was a teenager my face will turn pale when a friend will going to tease me oyyy you are flirting!!! giving me an impression that flirting is not really a decent behavior... Flirting for me is showing sexual behaviour (words and actions) towards the opposite sex...to show an interest playfully to the person you are attracted to... As a Christian my question is... Is it a sin to flirt? I am not sure about the others how they are going to view "flirting or flirt" but Matthew 5:28 says But I said to you that whoever looks a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. So,now when you flirt how your mind works, your imagination? What message you are trying to deliver to that person? As Christians we are to be a good example to others and show the love of Christ through our behavior...Love others just like the way God loves us...pure love.
Maybe he is right many christian ingles especially women become single for life because they don't know how to flirt...are we singles because we dont know how to flirt or are we single because there are few decent men nowadays
(just kidding with this hehehe)
I always believe that you don't need to flirt to get the attention of a decent man...call me oldfashioned but for me... flirt only with your husband/wife))
I am sorry
This is exactly the discussion I was hoping to open up! xD Sorry for the late response, school has been crazy.
It seems like Christians are brought up with this strange mentality that they should be absent of any sexuality until the day they are married, kind of turning God into a bizarre... "married at first sight" matchmaking cupid.
The thing is, God doesn't just pop two people into a wedding ceremony and marry them off. We have to do the looking, the wanting, the loving, and the marrying. God has a plan and he'll help us, but we have to actually do it.
That's why I loved this guy's video, he wasn't saying telling her to throw her morals away, just to open herself up to people
But if you're restricting yourself entirely to avoid tempting a man(or woman), I'll let you know you can get into trouble even if you were being innocent to the strictest definition.
For example, I went to a party with a friend and her boyfriend. Knowing that they would unintentionally ignore me at times, I made an effort to make friends with their friends. I got into a conversation with this guy because he was friendly and the only thing we talked about was his job- pretty dry conversation but at least I wasn't sitting around on my phone. Next day my friend is calling me, telling me that the guy had a very serious girlfriend who broke up with him because she thought he was cheating on her with me.
Apparently it happens all the time with that couple, he had actually cheated on her before and now she doesn't trust him at all. They've already gotten back together and broken up, and gotten back together again since that night. The point is, no matter what you do- however innocent you are- someone can turn it into something perverted. The only way to avoid that is to zip yourself into a bubble and avoid human contact.
Honestly, I think that there are a lot of innocent ways to flirt with someone. And if you flirt with a godly man, he won't act like you're asking for sex or take it as a prompt to lust. There's nothing wrong with touching a guy's arm, looking him in the eyes, having a playful dialogue with him. So long as you aren't taking the mental and emotional level beyond what's appropriate for two unmarried people.
There's going to be sexual tension between any lover, it just comes down to how you process it and deal with it. Completely suppressing it will make the love platonic and indulging in it will drown out the love with lust.