I always butt heads w/ my family over this. Growing up, I was taught the same thing. That whenever I get married, that my husband will be the provider and I'll be the house wife dealing w/ the children and taking care of the house.
I personally NEVER liked that scenario and in my mind disagreed w/ that outlook from an early age (i think i was around 12).
And as I grew, the more I disagreed with it. I was like why should guys be the provider. If I'm w/ someone, we should both be doing our part. It shouldn't be a 1 way streak. It shouldn't be placed on the husband to provide the money and share his money w/ his family. He worked hard for his money and should be able to do w/ it as he pleases and not always give it away to his wife or to the house or what not. Yes, I understand responsibilities but, I don't see it as being fair.
When I got my first job, I started to save my money and, whenever I go out w/ friends, we either pay our own way or, sometimes we pay for each other and take turns in that as we know the other person will catch us the next time we do something. It's easy that way. It's fair that way. It's not one person paying for Everything.
That's why when I hear of people dating and the guy is always forced to pay for his gf whenever they go out to eat or do something fun, my question is why?? or how is that fair to the guy? If both the guy and the girl is working, they should Both pay -- split the bill or the amount in half no matter what it is. Share --- not make 1 person always pay. It's not fair and can sometimes drive people apart.
Although I've never had a bf yet (yes i feel like an idiot admitting that and its frustrating) but, when I hang out w/ my guy friends, I will often times pay for them or we split down the middle. I find it's the fair thing to do.
Same in marriage. I believe that all expenses should be split down the middle. Nothing should be 1 sided especially if both people are working. As with expenses being split down the middle, I also believe house work should be split down the middle too. It shouldn't Always be placed on the wife to take care of the house and clean and what not. I think both the inside and outside work should be split btwn the husband and wife. It should be equal all the way around. Sure, I know guys are normally known to do the outside work and women the inside work but, what if the woman likes to be outside and do the outside work? Sorry, that's a whole other topic but, I hate how the world is saying women take care of the inside housework which seems to be non-stop work and men take care of the outside which isn't non-stop work. It's like men are Allowed to have it easier when women aren't and are forced to work all day and aren't allowed to relax and have fun. I don't agree w/ that.
But, let me stop there since I'm changing the topic sorry.