Should Christians Use Dating Apps?

[seoulsearch]

Good, having a boyfriend is embarrassing anyway, "boy sober" is trending. If you're a decent woman with an ounce of self-respect, why would you wanna be defined by your relationship and your partner? And especially for a Chrsitan woman, supposedly bought and redeemed by the blood of our savior, why would you still seek validation from men? When would you still need this "missing half" or "significant other" when you're already complete in Christ? Don't you see that's just exploitation of your insecurity?

I'm all about trying to live a god-pleasing life and hopefully occasionally having fun and few good laughs.

Whether it's with someone else or not, that's up to God.

Why you feel you should dictate how others should live is beyond me.

But do carry on, as I know you will.

It is rather fascinating. You seem to enjoy having a conversation going on all around you and continually inserting yourself in the middle, even though you're not actually participating in the conversation.

I can understand why you don't want a significant other.

You definitely seem to be happy with your own company.

And that's okay, because you seem to be very content with that.

But it also seems like keeping this discussion going is really your only social contact.

Maybe that's why you also seem to never want to see it end.

At least you're getting some kind of interaction this way.

 

[seoulsearch]

It is indeed hard for me to understand, because the holy matrimony is the biggest day of your life, THE most reminiscent event, especially for the bride. You as the bride will remember and be remembered for the rest of your life, you and your family will watch the wedding videotape and browse the photos decades later, your kids, even grandkids will watch your wedding videotape and browse your photos, that'll be the most glamorous, most relevant, and if not the only memorabilia of you left for them. That is the narrative I've been immersed in, I've been bombarded with this kind of marketing, even as a straight man, "don't sell yourself cheap." If a guy couldn't or wouldn't afford all of these, then he's not worthy of you. So yes, indeed it is very hard for me to understand.

You also don't understand that people are individual and many don't fit the stereotypes you keep repeating like a trained parent.

But I do understand. There are many people that cling to stereotypes because that's they haven't met many people, or they just really don't want to believe anything else.

I don't doubt that it is hard for you to understand anything other than what you seem to be programmed with.

But life might be very different for you if you at least tried.

 

[Lovette]

I'm all about trying to live a god-pleasing life and hopefully occasionally having fun and few good laughs.

Whether it's with someone else or not, that's up to God.

Why you feel you should dictate how others should live is beyond me.

But do carry on, as I know you will.

It is rather fascinating. You seem to enjoy having a conversation going on all around you and continually inserting yourself in the middle, even though you're not actually participating in the conversation.

I can understand why you don't want a significant other.

You definitely seem to be happy with your own company.

And that's okay, because you seem to be very content with that.

But it also seems like keeping this discussion going is really your only social contact.

Maybe that's why you also seem to never want to see it end.

At least you're getting some kind of interaction this way.

I'm not gonna arguing with you further on this, now I'm just sharing a bit of history lesson: dating is a MODERN phenomenon, with only about a century's history. Before the 1920s flappers, there were public mating events like debutante balls and other festivals, and there was public courtship. Going further to pre-industrial revolution era, marriage was mostly arranged or semi-arranged. Private dating today would be considered courtesan relationship at best, low grade prostitution at worst. The dating culture was only normalized in the 50s, right around the time when the boomers were popping up, and it is dying off with the boomers.

 

[dkontner]

Find people who know the Lord and let Him take care of the rest. An pray for discernment.

 

[Lovette]

You also don't understand that people are individual and many don't fit the stereotypes you keep repeating like a trained parent.

But I do understand. There are many people that cling to stereotypes because that's they haven't met many people, or they just really don't want to believe anything else.

I don't doubt that it is hard for you to understand anything other than what you seem to be programmed with.

But life might be very different for you if you at least tried.

Trust me, the most different, most defiant thing I'm trying everyday is thinking for myself with my God given brain, not submitting to the AI algorithm. That's more relevant and more important than any dalliance. Dating culture is a dying culture, even the most godless, most secular people have noticed how broken it is, I can't believe you guys as supposedly born again Christian are still defending it, as though it is still the good old days.

 

[dkontner]

Prayers concerning discernment have been ver...... you know the rest

 

[Lovette]

I'm all about trying to live a god-pleasing life and hopefully occasionally having fun and few good laughs.

Whether it's with someone else or not, that's up to God.

Why you feel you should dictate how others should live is beyond me.

But do carry on, as I know you will.

It is rather fascinating. You seem to enjoy having a conversation going on all around you and continually inserting yourself in the middle, even though you're not actually participating in the conversation.

I can understand why you don't want a significant other.

You definitely seem to be happy with your own company.

And that's okay, because you seem to be very content with that.

But it also seems like keeping this discussion going is really your only social contact.

Maybe that's why you also seem to never want to see it end.

At least you're getting some kind of interaction this way.

And btw, I still have a 9 to 5 job, and a whole array of "social contacts" to deal with, including some nasty clients that could drive me crazy.

 

[seoulsearch]

I'm not gonna arguing with you further on this, now I'm just sharing a bit of history lesson: dating is a MODERN phenomenon, with only about a century's history. Before the 1920s flappers, there were public mating events like debutante balls and other festivals, and there was public courtship. Going further to pre-industrial revolution era, marriage was mostly arranged or semi-arranged. Private dating today would be considered courtesan relationship at best, low grade prostitution at worst. The dating culture was only normalized in the 50s, right around the time when the boomers were popping up, and it is dying off with the boomers.

Yes, you keep repeating the same points in the nearly 100 pages you've participated in.

Like I said, I think you are unwilling to let this discussion go because it's your only interaction with people.

If you weren't liking it, you wouldn't keep repeating the same things over and over.

It makes it look like you really are longing for and desperate to have contact with others, and this is your only way of doing it, or you would have let this all go a long time ago.

And yes. I know you're going to come back and say, well, Don't you have anything else to do?

As I explained before, being on this site is a personal hobby and I like making friends here.

I pop in here because it's fun to have a conversation with the people around you.

It's kind of like the eye of the storm. Everyone else is enjoying some fun and interesting conversation in the midst of all this.

It really is a shame you keep whirling around in circles instead of just participating and enjoying the company of the people you so desperately seem to not want to let go of here. It's like you need the cycle to keep going.

And I understand. You're going to ask us why we keep answering.

I know that trying to talk to you is pointless because you're just going to keep saying the same things and talking down to people.

But when people insist on doing that, sometimes it's like a bullet that gets lodged in a tree.

The bullet isn't going anywhere, but the tree doesn't have to stop growing.

It can just start growing around it, sometimes in new and very fascinating ways, and that's why I keep coming back.

The people growing the conversation around you are making it very interesting.

 

[seoulsearch]

And btw, I still have a 9 to 5 job, and a whole array of "social contacts" to deal with, including some nasty clients that could drive me crazy.

I'm guessing you like us a whole lot more than your nasty clients.

So apparently we are your only interaction with people who aren't your nasty clients?

As someone who always worked in customer service, I understand and give you my sympathies.

That's why you refuse to ever leave us!

We're easier to deal with than your clientele!

And, we'reflattered.

Really.

 

[Lovette]

Yes, you keep repeating the same points in the nearly 100 pages you've participated in.

Like I said, I think you are unwilling to let this discussion go because it's your only interaction with people.

If you weren't liking it, you wouldn't keep repeating the same things over and over.

It makes it look like you really are longing for and desperate to have contact with others, and this is your only way of doing it, or you would have let this all go a long time ago.

And yes. I know you're going to come back and say, well, Don't you have anything else to do?

As I explained before, being on this site is a personal hobby and I like making friends here.

I pop in here because it's fun to have a conversation with the people around you.

It's kind of like the eye of the storm. Everyone else is enjoying some fun and interesting conversation in the midst of all this.

It really is a shame you keep whirling around in circles instead of just participating and enjoying the company of the people you so desperately seem to not want to let go of here. It's like you need the cycle to keep going.

And I understand. You're going to ask us why we keep answering.

I know that trying to talk to you is pointless because you're just going to keep saying the same things and talking down to people.

But when people insist on doing that, sometimes it's like a bullet that gets lodged in a tree.

The bullet isn't going anywhere, but the tree doesn't have to stop growing.

It can just start growing around it, sometimes in new and very fascinating ways, and that's why I keep coming back.

The people growing the conversation around you are making it very interesting.

We could talk about other stuffs. Try me, amuse me. But as long as you wanna discuss and defend dating, that's my only response, because it's the truth.

 

[seoulsearch]

We could talk about other stuffs. Try me, amuse me. But as long as you wanna discuss and defend dating, that's my only response, because it's the truth.

That's interesting. So you're asking me to try you and amuse you.

It's not my job to be your entertainment or to try to somehow meet your standard.

Maybe you have horse blinders and only see the threads you're participating in. If you're ever wanting to see the kinds of things I put up to amuse people and get them talking, take a look at the other threads in Singles and Family.

Since most everything about this whole whirlwind has revolved around you, it's your turn.

Why don't you try by starting a normal conversation?

 

[seoulsearch]

We could talk about other stuffs. Try me, amuse me. But as long as you wanna discuss and defend dating, that's my only response, because it's the truth.

I'll be very curious to see, if you start talking about other topics, if it's going to be the same thing.

Are you going to get stuck on one point that you believe is the truth, then just keep going around in circles about it?

 

[Lovette]

I'm guessing you like us a whole lot more than your nasty clients.

So apparently we are your only interaction with people who aren't your nasty clients?

As someone who always worked in customer service, I understand and give you my sympathies.

That's why you refuse to ever leave us!

We're easier to deal with than your clientele!

And, we'reflattered.

Really.

I have no beef with you or anybody else around here, I'm just against dating, and "Christian dating" in particular. If you think I'm nasty, well I'm sorry for offending you with the truth, that dating culture is broken. You're probably just internalizing what's not written to you at all.

 

[Lovette]

Why don't you try by starting a normal conversation?

I'll be very curious to see, if you start talking about other topics, if it's going to be the same thing.

Are you going to get stuck on one point that you believe is the truth, then just keep going around in circles about it?

Forget about dating, then we can start a normal conversation.

 

[Lovette]

I'll be very curious to see, if you start talking about other topics, if it's going to be the same thing.

Are you going to get stuck on one point that you believe is the truth, then just keep going around in circles about it?

We could talk about creative and critical thinking, about intellectual diligence in the onslaught of AI, about how to read and write for ourselves, keeping our mind sharp while we still can. I'm curious to see what's your take on that. My "nastiness" against dating is just part of my creative and critical thinking against the conventional narrative of the "relationship escalator", from love at the first sight to the walk down the aisle.

 

[seoulsearch]

I have no beef with you or anybody else around here, I'm just against dating, and "Christian dating" in particular. If you think I'm nasty, well I'm sorry for offending you with the truth, that dating culture is broken. You're probably just internalizing what's not written to you at all.

Lol.

You're the one who said you had nasty clients.

I didn't say a single thing about you being nasty.

You're the one who is internalizing.

 

[seoulsearch]

Forget about dating, then we can start a normal conversation.

Great!

However, this thread is about dating apps, and unfortunately it's already gone off the rails.

InIn respect to the person who started the thread, if you're wanting to have a normal conversation, it should be in a different thread.

You can either start your own, or I would invite you to join us in many of the other threads we start in Singles and Family.

 

[Lovette]

Lol.

You're the one who said you had nasty clients.

I didn't say a single thing about you being nasty.

You're the one who is internalizing.

Alright, so let's clear the air and proceed. I don't like this peevish air either.

 

[Churchgoer]

is regular friendship allowed?

Is regular friendship between a single man and single woman allowed?

 

[seoulsearch]

We could talk about creative and critical thinking, about intellectual diligence in the onslaught of AI, about how to read and write for ourselves, keeping our mind sharp while we still can. I'm curious to see what's your take on that. My "nastiness" against dating is just part of my creative and critical thinking against the conventional narrative of the "relationship escalator", from love at the first sight to the walk down the aisle.

There are many other threads going on about these subjects in the forum.

I would highly suggest you take a look around and find some other subjects you are interested in and start participating.

Otherwise, I'll see you in the other threads that get started in the future.