Should women pursue men?

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Lynx

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I,m new here, i,m shocked at some of the argueing in a Christian Site, It,s not 24 hrs i,ve been here, I really hope this is not the norme. Come on guys. LOVE.
You'll get the hang of it. Some people are normal people. Some are here to make themselves feel good by complaining about others. Some are just VERY didactic. And some are here to talk, but not to listen to other people talk.

Stick around long enough and you'll figure out which is which. Then the forum gets more fun, as you know which ones to read and which posts to just skim past. ;)
 
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You'll get the hang of it. Some people are normal people. Some are here to make themselves feel good by complaining about others. Some are just VERY didactic. And some are here to talk, but not to listen to other people talk.

Stick around long enough and you'll figure out which is which. Then the forum gets more fun, as you know which ones to read and which posts to just skim past. ;)
Thank You. :)
 

tourist

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If you think Melita is overstating it, just be glad you weren't here when tourist and JesusSaves were... Ahem... "Courting." You ain't seen nothin yet. You would have hit the ceiling! There wasn't a square meter of the forum that was not dripping with their schmaltz. :p
Yeah, those were the days. :)
 
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I,m new here, i,m shocked at some of the argueing in a Christian Site, It,s not 24 hrs i,ve been here, I really hope this is not the norme. Come on guys. LOVE.
Right? I agree with you, I’ve been so surprised at so many answers around different threads...
 

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So maybe that's the problem, Christian's trying to get non Christians dating advice and following the world, that we have lost our standards.

So tell me this, Jesus gives us room to repent when we are in Sin correct? Why can't we go back to the old ways?? Other than the fact we don't want too?

Shouldn't our walk with God inspire us to develop higher standards?
What "old ways" are you talking about?

I assume you're talking about courtship and marriage, right? Can you give me one or more examples?

I don't know if there are any "christian old ways" regarding courtship, besides no fornication/adultery and don't marry non-christians. There are definitely "old ways"... but I don't know if they're "christian old ways".
 
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By The way if you want a guy, go for it, the world has changed, not all men are afraid of strong women.
Thanks! But I made it clear in another comment that I’m not in this situation now.
I was just asking to know the opinions of people on CC.
 
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Thanks! But I made it clear in another comment that I’m not in this situation now.
I was just asking to know the opinions of people on CC.
I know it was just my opinion. i,m not here to date, if people think that. or if i give that vibe.
 
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Thanks! But I made it clear in another comment that I’m not in this situation now.
I was just asking to know the opinions of people on CC.
May as a newbe here i should not comment. till i figure this place out.
 

seoulsearch

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May as a newbe here i should not comment. till i figure this place out.
Not at all.

The only way to get the hang of it is to jump right in... And if you hit a speed bump, just keep trying!

Welcome to CC. 🙂
 

melita916

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My freshman year of college, I pursued my crush. He was not interested. So, I never pursued a guy again lol.
 

I_am_Canadian

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What "old ways" are you talking about?

I assume you're talking about courtship and marriage, right? Can you give me one or more examples?

I don't know if there are any "christian old ways" regarding courtship, besides no fornication/adultery and don't marry non-christians. There are definitely "old ways"... but I don't know if they're "christian old ways".
Modest apparel where men and women went out in public fully covered, suits and dresses,

Essentially most of societies problems are from its low or non existant standards. The farther people get from God, the worse the problems get.
 

Lynx

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By The way if you want a guy, go for it, the world has changed, not all men are afraid of strong women.
Boy don't I wish! If a girl wanted me and went for it, I'd be overjoyed. Finally a girl who says what she means and doesn't play games!

Why, I might just marry her on the spot!
 

I_am_Canadian

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Boy don't I wish! If a girl wanted me and went for it, I'd be overjoyed. Finally a girl who says what she means and doesn't play games!

Why, I might just marry her on the spot!
Amazing isn't it, if only everyone adopted an honesty policy right??
 
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My freshman year of college, I pursued my crush. He was not interested. So, I never pursued a guy again lol.
Wow! One failure and you're giving up? Maybe you've given up on the pursuing, but there are subtle gestures to let the other person know that you might be interested and see how he responds. There are many fish in the sea and many that are just right for you. Prayer will help. I wish you the best.
 

seoulsearch

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Wow! One failure and you're giving up? Maybe you've given up on the pursuing, but there are subtle gestures to let the other person know that you might be interested and see how he responds. There are many fish in the sea and many that are just right for you. Prayer will help. I wish you the best.
She didn't give up; she relied on God and He took care of her and her situation.

In her other posts, she mentions her husband and after several years of marriage, God blessed them with a new baby as well.