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Women tend to communicate in signs, hoping for a guy to get the hint. Men are not hardwired to read these subtle clues. Psychologists who specialize in such areas recommend that women should learn to communicate more directly with men, rather than waiting for men to figure out something their brain isn't designed to figure out. *hint hint... haha
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coby
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Well...if your primary communication is through Facebook, then keep in mind that subtlety and such isn't easy to pick up on, online.
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AgnusDei
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Well, easy...
I get 2 plane tickets...
and I tell the girl the following:
Let's get our of this comfort zone and let's explore the land of Iceland...we can see the geisers and the aurora borealis
and then we get to the Antartica to watch the polar bears and to behold the churches that are congregated in igloos
That would be it....and then i tell her: Esto es mejor que intentar subir el Everest con patines de cinco libras esterlinas y galletas de maìz venezolano
I get 2 plane tickets...
and I tell the girl the following:
Let's get our of this comfort zone and let's explore the land of Iceland...we can see the geisers and the aurora borealis
and then we get to the Antartica to watch the polar bears and to behold the churches that are congregated in igloos
That would be it....and then i tell her: Esto es mejor que intentar subir el Everest con patines de cinco libras esterlinas y galletas de maìz venezolano
It seems to me like the gals speak two languages: "galspeak" and English (or whatever your mother tongue is).
A gal wants to communicate interest to a guy, and naturally, she uses galspeak. Her friends totally understand, but when it isn't understood/received/reciprocated by the guy, they blame the guy. Guys look at them, smile politely, and go on with their business, just like they do with foreigners. Gals read "Smile! Oh that's good!" (or whatever the appropriate translation into galspeak). They continue to use galspeak in communicating with the guy, and they continue to get polite (if increasingly perplexed) smiles. The gal continues to read "More smiles... good, and getting better!", and then they try to be overt, still in galspeak. By now the guy is really confused, if not creeped out, because at no time has he received anything which means approximately, "Hello! I find you attractive and I'd like to get to know you better."
So, maybe next time, try saying (or writing), "Hello! I find you attractive, and I'd like to get to know you better." Just.like.that.
And if he's not interested? Well, that's a possibility, and it might cause the introduction into galspeak of the concept of "Rejection hurts enough by itself... be gentle next time you give it."
Just a thought or two, from a guy who once received a bouquet of flowers on his desk at work (about 20 years ago), and to this day has absolutely no idea who sent them. Anonymous overt expressions of interest work almost as well as galspeak.
A gal wants to communicate interest to a guy, and naturally, she uses galspeak. Her friends totally understand, but when it isn't understood/received/reciprocated by the guy, they blame the guy. Guys look at them, smile politely, and go on with their business, just like they do with foreigners. Gals read "Smile! Oh that's good!" (or whatever the appropriate translation into galspeak). They continue to use galspeak in communicating with the guy, and they continue to get polite (if increasingly perplexed) smiles. The gal continues to read "More smiles... good, and getting better!", and then they try to be overt, still in galspeak. By now the guy is really confused, if not creeped out, because at no time has he received anything which means approximately, "Hello! I find you attractive and I'd like to get to know you better."
So, maybe next time, try saying (or writing), "Hello! I find you attractive, and I'd like to get to know you better." Just.like.that.
And if he's not interested? Well, that's a possibility, and it might cause the introduction into galspeak of the concept of "Rejection hurts enough by itself... be gentle next time you give it."
Just a thought or two, from a guy who once received a bouquet of flowers on his desk at work (about 20 years ago), and to this day has absolutely no idea who sent them. Anonymous overt expressions of interest work almost as well as galspeak.
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Find out what interests he is into and if you two share lets say a common interest in history then invite him to the museum or something related.
Sometimes guys communicate in signs too and can be extremely hard to read. Even if both parties flirt, that doesn't always mean they're interested either. I sometimes have a very difficult time telling if a guy likes me or not. Though, when I like a guy, I usually flirt w/ them a Lot. It seems like some in the past could tell that I liked them but most never questioned me so I highly assume the feeling wasn't mutual. Sometimes even when I know a guy likes me and I like him, sometimes I still question if they do like me no matter how many times they may have told me.
If guys can't get the hint that girls like them by flirting and signs, then how can girls know if a guy truly likes them if he doesn't say anything yet he's showing signs or flirting too???
If guys can't get the hint that girls like them by flirting and signs, then how can girls know if a guy truly likes them if he doesn't say anything yet he's showing signs or flirting too???
I've never heard of your term of galspeak before. Your explanation is interesting and something I've personally never done before lol. When there's a guy I like, I treat them like everyone else til I get to know them better or become friends w/ them. Then I may start to flirt and see if that goes anywhere just to see what he may be thinking. I never push anything bc I'm afraid of getting hurt bc of different things that happened to me when growing up. So, I'm patient and take my time. If they show interest and I can Tell that they might like me, then I'll go for it and see where it leads. Most times it's just a dead end but we remain friends.
I remember when I was in school, there was this guy I thought was cute, well, actually I met him at a bible study but he did go to my school. I saw down w/ him at a table, I think it was around Thanksgiving time or something like that, I don't remember but, everyone was eating and he invited me to sit down w/ him so I did. Like I said, I thought he was cute, but didn't know him at all and he started talking to me and we got to know each other a bit. I found out he and I basically had 0 in common but that wasn't going to stop me from getting to know him and what not.
Idk, I just think your explanation you gave was funny bc that is something i've never thought about doing and I probably will never do it.
I remember when I was in school, there was this guy I thought was cute, well, actually I met him at a bible study but he did go to my school. I saw down w/ him at a table, I think it was around Thanksgiving time or something like that, I don't remember but, everyone was eating and he invited me to sit down w/ him so I did. Like I said, I thought he was cute, but didn't know him at all and he started talking to me and we got to know each other a bit. I found out he and I basically had 0 in common but that wasn't going to stop me from getting to know him and what not.
Idk, I just think your explanation you gave was funny bc that is something i've never thought about doing and I probably will never do it.
It seems to me like the gals speak two languages: "galspeak" and English (or whatever your mother tongue is).
A gal wants to communicate interest to a guy, and naturally, she uses galspeak. Her friends totally understand, but when it isn't understood/received/reciprocated by the guy, they blame the guy. Guys look at them, smile politely, and go on with their business, just like they do with foreigners. Gals read "Smile! Oh that's good!" (or whatever the appropriate translation into galspeak). They continue to use galspeak in communicating with the guy, and they continue to get polite (if increasingly perplexed) smiles. The gal continues to read "More smiles... good, and getting better!", and then they try to be overt, still in galspeak. By now the guy is really confused, if not creeped out, because at no time has he received anything which means approximately, "Hello! I find you attractive and I'd like to get to know you better."
So, maybe next time, try saying (or writing), "Hello! I find you attractive, and I'd like to get to know you better." Just.like.that.
And if he's not interested? Well, that's a possibility, and it might cause the introduction into galspeak of the concept of "Rejection hurts enough by itself... be gentle next time you give it."
Just a thought or two, from a guy who once received a bouquet of flowers on his desk at work (about 20 years ago), and to this day has absolutely no idea who sent them. Anonymous overt expressions of interest work almost as well as galspeak.
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crosstweed
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coby
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I posted this on Facebook. If that doesn't work I'll buy the flowers or wait for a karaoke night.