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i found this article too fascinating to not post - for a couple reasons.
the study discusses the differences between 5th grade "bright girls" and "bright boys" perception and attack when facing challenge.
while i mostly agree with the conclusions found in this article, i think there's even more to it.
i was always one of those girls who, when asked to work a problem on the chalkboard would work more slowly if i saw someone was struggling. it felt mean to completely show them up. i sincerely don't know if its a gender or personality thing. i wouldn't ever deliberately be wrong, but i definitely worried about the others' feelings.
fast forward a few years. in educational circumstances, the guy i'm usually crushing on is the one who (for lack of a better term) is my competition in school. especially if he beats me or i consider him my intellectual/educational superior at least on some level. in fact, there's a well known joke among my friends that when a guy beats me at a game that i'm good at (or some real challenge for me) then i'm usually going to like him a LOT more after that.
but, it got me wondering (given the article) is this whole excitement over "being beaten at my own game" situation just an opportunity for me to bathe in the nostalgia of a different time?
or maybe i'm just too competitive...
the study discusses the differences between 5th grade "bright girls" and "bright boys" perception and attack when facing challenge.
while i mostly agree with the conclusions found in this article, i think there's even more to it.
i was always one of those girls who, when asked to work a problem on the chalkboard would work more slowly if i saw someone was struggling. it felt mean to completely show them up. i sincerely don't know if its a gender or personality thing. i wouldn't ever deliberately be wrong, but i definitely worried about the others' feelings.
fast forward a few years. in educational circumstances, the guy i'm usually crushing on is the one who (for lack of a better term) is my competition in school. especially if he beats me or i consider him my intellectual/educational superior at least on some level. in fact, there's a well known joke among my friends that when a guy beats me at a game that i'm good at (or some real challenge for me) then i'm usually going to like him a LOT more after that.
but, it got me wondering (given the article) is this whole excitement over "being beaten at my own game" situation just an opportunity for me to bathe in the nostalgia of a different time?
or maybe i'm just too competitive...
I'm exactly the same way. If a girl beats me at something intellectual or athletic, I'm going to swoon pretty hard. Or even if its simply competitive and comes down to the wire.
Unless its like Words with Friends. Then I'm just like meh.
Also... this article highlights why I want to have a Daughter. So that I can influence her to be different. To be Unique in a way that I have rarely seen. Beyond simply knowing something, I want to teach her to always look for the truth, and always find it.
Unless its like Words with Friends. Then I'm just like meh.
Also... this article highlights why I want to have a Daughter. So that I can influence her to be different. To be Unique in a way that I have rarely seen. Beyond simply knowing something, I want to teach her to always look for the truth, and always find it.
Challenged, but not pushed; and
Encouraged, but not flattered.