The real me- no really!

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I definitely think after chatting with someone for a year, a connection is formed and along with that comes trust, regardless if it is a romantic interest or a friendship. Your action would be a red flag for me too. It would have been better if you were honest and tell him you're not comfortable sharing your photo. Honesty is best.
 
I have seen a few people on here post photos of what they looked like 10 or more years ago then when you see them on cam its like a shock.

I wonder why people do this? :)
 
Kaycie said:
Thank you all for your comments. I decided to change my picture, I'm curious if people will treat me different knowing what I look like.
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So what do we have here? Im a little confused :) Is this you? or a picture of your daughter?
 
Thatgirl, any image can be reverse - searched for duplicates and similar images.
(Which comes in real handy on occasion for shopping when the source of the item isn't clear)
 
Hellooo said:
Thatgirl, any image can be reverse - searched for duplicates and similar images.
(Which comes in real handy on occasion for shopping when the source of the item isn't clear)
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I have to admit I'm still a little confused... but definitely learning!
 
GaryA said:
I have to agree with Grace and Donkeyfish. It is far better to say "no, I'm sorry, I don't feel comfortable with that yet" than to do anything deceptive...
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It is far better to say "____________________" than to do anything deceptive...

( True if what you put in the blank is true. )
 
Mitspa said:
So what do we have here? Im a little confused :) Is this you? or a picture of your daughter?
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Now Mistpa...I have no clue if that is her or not. However she looks age appropriate. I'm 42 and look at least 10 years younger if not more. You do not look 46, you also look a good 10 years younger.
 
Donkeyfish07 said:
I think you just need to message whoever it is and come clean, seems like the right thing to do.
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KC:

I think you just need to message whoever it is and come clean, seems like the right thing to do. Now.

You are about to blow your good reputation on CC --- please do the right thing...
 
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Kaycie said:
Ok so I was chatting with a guy on here for almost a year, just as friends, I'm not looking to date online, and he wanted to see what I looked like. Well I am all about online safety, that's why I don't use my real name. My initials are KC, so I call myself Kaycie. Well I thought if I put a younger picture of me, he can kinda get a sense of what I look like without knowing what I look like now. But when I showed him my picture he didn't believe that was really me (once upon a time) and he quit talking to me.

I told him I used to be pretty long before he asked to see my photo. And that it is not my real hair- that I tried on different hairstyles at hair mixer dot com, again trying not to completely give away what I look like. But the truth is it really is me in the photo. I'm flattered that he thought I was too pretty, but more so insulted that he didn't believe me. I have no reason to lie to him, but since he thought I did, does he also question my Christianity after knowing me for almost a year? I didn't want to put my picture up because I wanted people to react to my soul, not my outward appearance. But maybe I should let the real me be seen.

Any thoughts?
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Of course you're beautiful, you see teaching as a plus.
 
Kaycie said:
Ok so I was chatting with a guy on here for almost a year, just as friends, I'm not looking to date online, and he wanted to see what I looked like. Well I am all about online safety, that's why I don't use my real name. My initials are KC, so I call myself Kaycie. Well I thought if I put a younger picture of me, he can kinda get a sense of what I look like without knowing what I look like now. But when I showed him my picture he didn't believe that was really me (once upon a time) and he quit talking to me.

I told him I used to be pretty long before he asked to see my photo. And that it is not my real hair- that I tried on different hairstyles at hair mixer dot com, again trying not to completely give away what I look like. But the truth is it really is me in the photo. I'm flattered that he thought I was too pretty, but more so insulted that he didn't believe me. I have no reason to lie to him, but since he thought I did, does he also question my Christianity after knowing me for almost a year? I didn't want to put my picture up because I wanted people to react to my soul, not my outward appearance. But maybe I should let the real me be seen.

Any thoughts?
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Gary said:
So here's your picture showing people what you look like:
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Here's a pic of Katherine Webb:View attachment 138126
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/406872147557403440/

Looks pretty deceptive to me!
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Kaycie,

Soooo...this is a little awkward, huh? You say you felt insulted that your friend didn't believe you, but maybe you're really just upset that you got caught in a lie?

I tried the whole fake pic thing once, years ago, in yahoo chat. It turned out pretty silly, really- I found a picture of a petite, gorgeous brunette, and used it as my own. I got quite a bit of attention from it, which, at the time, felt like a soothing balm on open wounds. I was so tired of being ME, you know? This face, this body, this hair...I'd gotten myself into some pretty serious trouble, and I just wanted to be somebody else, someone better, someone without a neon sign on their forehead flashing 'worthless' for the world to see.

It was so wonderful, for a few days, to have people treat me like I mattered just because of how (they thought) I looked. But then...well, somebody caught me, and told everyone, and I was mortified. I had one friend from there who had seen me on webcam and knew what I was doing, and he stayed quiet- he let me pretend to be this other girl, but when I was outed as a fake, he was there. He asked me why I'd done it, and I explained about feeling worthless, damaged, ugly.

He told me that as long as I believed I was worthless, I would live it out and make it true.

He was right. Using a fake photo online (even if it has your real face, or "kind of" looks like you) is deceptive, regardless of your reasoning, and it's ultimately...well, silly, and a waste of time. Connections online built on lies are, in the end, worthless. Honesty is best, whether that means explaining that you aren't comfortable sharing your (real!) photo, or sharing your photo and accepting that *gasp* someone will see what you really look like.

I hope you'll step away from photo shop and accept yourself for who you are.
 
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Awesome story Miss Cris!

Truly.....
For you to come here and admit you....
'deceived'....past portraits
Was truly honest and a beautiful story to us

You with the mommy thing :)
You are beautiful with your kindness and curls

Love you....
 
Your honesty....
is adored by God....
but yet MissCris....
you are beautiful!

Remember that!
Your honesty was beautiful here...
I thank you darling one!
 
Yea....
You are beautiful MissCris....

Thank you
For your courage
To confess

You are beautiful, as your real pictures
I love you
 
skylove7 said:
Awesome story Miss Cris!

Truly.....
For you to come here and admit you....
'deceived'....past portraits
Was truly honest and a beautiful story to us

You with the mommy thing :)
You are beautiful with your kindness and curls

Love you....
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Thank you, you effusive and generous lady ;)
 
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